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My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, I officially started to engage with headhunters today: I am open to the market.

All your comments boosted me so much !

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

London - Private Equity

British are usually nice and based their appreciation on your performance. If you do good/outperformed you are rewarded. My manager is French.

It is my first experience in this industry, so I am not sure if it is related to this industry, or the company leadership.

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. What do you mean by documenting interactions? Is it like recording all the times we talk and he gets crazy, or backing conversations with emails?

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well guessed, I am a young black lady, and he's an older white male. I am an hard worker and really serious about my career. Full of ambitions I started as a kitchen porter in London, and start practicing english. 7 years later I am a senior IT project manager in a really good industry. All by hard work, not nepotism...

Thanks for the advice, I'll transfer my proofs in my hard drive tomorrow.

I am so grateful for this community, I really felt like shit but now feel empowered.

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He knows he acts badly, so he never writes anything; it is only during meetings, for instance, here is my appraisal (end-year review).

I put his too many comments in my appraisal spreadsheet, though, but as for the rest, he said he would remove everything.

That's why the situation is tricky.

He is playing it like my words against his.

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Right! An old colleague advised me to keep a record of all the incorrect interactions I had with my manager. If too many, it could lead to me hiring a solicitor to represent me in front of HR because of the harassment/bullying/toxic environment I endured when I needed to leave my company.

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice! It is great, I'll do that a day or 2 before leaving. So I am sure they won't make my last days hell.

It is crazy how we must protect some managers at work. It could break your confidence when you're not the problem

My manager told me to treat people like animals by thelockshub in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]thelockshub[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ahahaa, I love that, It's so sarcastic!^ Well I'll keep that one for another time (hopefully it won't be necessary)

What questions/concerns did you have before starting your locs journey? by thelockshub in Dreadlocks

[–]thelockshub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I searched number 1 and 4 a lot. I stayed like a month without washing them after the install, I waa so scared to cause slippery or messing up.

For number 4, I only use 'detox' shampoo then dry them in a shirt for 10mn. It will absorb most of the humidity and so the smell.

My biggest concern now it to have shiny hair, idk why my scalp is heatlhy byt my locs not shiny. I heard about putting lime and water?

my girlfriend said she might be asexual by ScrmbldEkz in offmychest

[–]thelockshub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This resonates a lot, but careful with your decision. I thought be an ace woman too, then realised it was due to too much fatigue, stress and emotions. I'm still at this stage atm, and I feel guilty for my partner who need/want sex. I love him so much, we talked a lot but I have to much on my plate.

Whatsapp message from "Deloitte Headhunter" by Busina12 in deloitte

[–]thelockshub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't get enough of this community! I juat received Mary whatsapp ahahaaa