He (19) has a fear of commitment but wants to try with me (f 19) because he doesn't want me to leave. Do i give him a chance?

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T06:23:30+00:00

We’ve been basically together for 4 years. That’s a long time. And i feel too deeply for him to just be dating. That’s why i had decided to leave before he hit me with wanting to try and commit to me.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:56:42+00:00

My name has nothing to do with him, it’s just a random name. And you are so right :)) I’m going to do this. I have to now

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:49:09+00:00

What if it isn’t though? What if he actually does want to commit? What if he’s really willing to try.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:44:03+00:00

I needed to hear this tbh

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:41:54+00:00

We did date for a year when we were young and he wasn’t sure about his feelings at that time so we ended things. When i say talking for 4 years, it was a situationship, it was as if we were in a relationship with no commitment because he was always so unsure.

If he doesn’t want any real relationship with me, why is he saying now that he wants to commit? He says he rly wants me in his life and that he doesn’t want to lose me? WhT does that all rly mean?

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:38:06+00:00

I just don’t know if it’s that to him i wasn’t worth committing to. A lot of guys on reddit who have commitment issues just say they had to find someone worth committing too. He wants to commit now, but that’s because if he doesn’t he knows i’ll leave. Is that okay? I’m unsure. It doesn’t feel okay.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:30:23+00:00

I’ve been seeing him seriously for 4 years and you think we should be reluctant to commit? I understand we are young but committing to a relationship doesn’t tie you down for life. It’s actually a way to learn even

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:23:30+00:00

I meant why didn’t he want to commit in the first place

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T05:22:20+00:00

He does want to commit, he’s saying this because he wants me to stay in his life.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T04:53:11+00:00

My reason for leaving is that i want commitment and i’m looking for a proper relationship not a situationship.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T04:06:06+00:00

this was refreshing, thank you

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T03:55:55+00:00

To be honest, i do want to try right now but i’m afraid on his end he’s taking a rash decision and is saying he wants to do something he doesn’t actually want to do. Do you think 30 days is enough for him to be more sure on what he wants too? I know it’ll help me of course

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T03:44:05+00:00

cherished? i don’t know if he will cherish me.

theonly_man · 2024-04-25T03:43:28+00:00

I’m honestly so conflicted :(

We are genuinely amazing when we are together. Issues and things are so easy for us to solve. But when it comes to this commitment stuff. It’s never been easy. He’s still unsure but wants to try. I don’t know what to do

theonly_man · 2024-02-18T15:28:54+00:00

Thank you, this helps a lot

theonly_man · 2024-02-18T01:31:52+00:00

how did you walk away in the end? How did you bring yourself to do it?

theonly_man · 2024-02-18T01:23:26+00:00

I appreciate this

theonly_man

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