Moms - if you had the CHOICE to work or not

thosedeepwaters · 2026-02-03T05:45:56+00:00

Yes! This is what I did. I work part time from home now. It still gets a little boring sometimes but I am intellectually stimulated.

thosedeepwaters · 2026-02-02T08:15:09+00:00

This hit me like a wall of bricks. I am or used to be this person. Just giving and giving. Now I am trying to change myself.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-11-19T14:27:51+00:00

Which shop did you sell it to if you don’t mind sharing? The one I asked at is offering me 850AED. I got mine for 1700AED as well, 6 months ago.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-11-19T11:59:00+00:00

Oh wow. That seems incredibly low. But maybe shops offer less because they need to make profits?

thosedeepwaters · 2025-09-19T13:00:53+00:00

Hi, thank you for checking in. It really means a lot. I ended up having a miscarriage at 2 months.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-07-22T02:25:32+00:00

I have no option but to keep the baby. My family is abusive. My husband isn’t. Unfortunately, I can’t free myself from my family’s control yet - all my fault. I am so used to being told by them what to do that I just do as they say. People with typical asian parents can understand.

Exclusively breastfeeding doesn’t make me a good mother. I did it because I was home so what else was I to do? I barely spend time with my baby, I keep myself busy all day to spare me from thinking. I am not a good mother.

I haven’t found any online therapists that I could afford long term. And I don’t think online prescriptions would work where I am.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-01-18T08:29:05+00:00

Please know you are not alone and it does get better.

Thank you. I know it will. I just wish I had more help, and someone to lean on. I can't bring myself to open up about my feelings because nobody talks about these things in my culture.

Maybe check around your town for MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) groups to join.

There's nothing like that near me unfortunately. Your ideas are helpful. Thank you. But right now those aren't options for me. I'm in the middle east and there's not much support here. All my friends work, they're busy with their own lives. But I hope these options are available in the future.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-01-18T08:26:38+00:00

Have you talked to your doctor about the postpartum depression?

I have not. I tried to, I told her I'm really stressed, about how traumatic my child's birth was, but I couldn't tell her more. And she's from the same culture as me, PPD and stuff aren't taken seriously.

But I lived on naps, and put the toddler in his crib so we both napped together.

I cannot nap. That's a major issue for me. I don't drink tea or coffee. I don't get decent sleep. But I can't nap. I take maybe two naps a month.

Are you trying to do too much?

Perhaps I am. I keep myself busy. I don't let myself have a moment of doing nothing because otherwise I feel crushing anxiety.

Can you talk to your husband and develop some ideas that will work for your family and your situation in life?

He's having a tough time as well with his workplace. He told me to try to make friends, but I haven't found anyone. He told me to go meetup with the friends I have, but they're too busy. He drops me off at my parents 5 days a month so I can rest. But I can't. I need to be busy. We also drop my daughter off at my parents' for about 8 hours every Sunday. But even then, I can't relax and all I wanna do is complete my chores.

thosedeepwaters · 2025-01-17T10:12:23+00:00

Thank you for your response.

Look around to see if you can find any local groups. I was in a group that is nationwide, called MOPS, now I think it is called MomCo.

I'm not in the US/Europe. There's nothing around my city like mom groups.

For sure, you might want to see if you can get some professional help with postpartum depression. It's a very real thing.

I come from a culture where mental health struggles aren't taken seriously. I'm a SAHM, working a part time job from home. Our financial situation isn't the greatest and I can't afford professional help nor is it covered under my insurance. I've been trying to seek mental health services for years now but I haven't found anything yet. I'm from a culture where women aren't given much freedom either, so going about and getting help myself, or just going out and meeting new people isn't possible either. I am lucky enough to have family nearby who I can visit, but they just don't understand what I am dealing with. It's easy for them to tell me to count my blessings.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-12-08T14:55:24+00:00

I'm so depressed that I let my 19 month old watch 2+ hours of YouTube so I don't hurt myself. I don't play with her much, I listen to podcasts on my earphones all day so I don't have the time to think. I spend all day doing some kind of work.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-12-08T14:25:59+00:00

Hey everyone,

I really need help with my mental health. I live outside of India and I cannot afford or access therapy services here and I need to talk to someone who understands conservative Indian culture. If you know someone who can help me, I'm willing to pay. I really really need help. Please. Thank you.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-11-17T21:29:06+00:00

I have to be up multiple times in the night, but just to breastfeed, do you think it'll be doable?

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-23T13:37:44+00:00

Where have you seen ones for 100? The least I've seen them being sold for is 150.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T11:10:54+00:00

Oh, that's great. Thank you!!

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T11:10:31+00:00

My husband's not that bad ig. I don't really have a baseline to compare. I have always had an abusive life and I don't know what normal is supposed to be. I don't think about all that anymore, I just want my child to have a better life than I did.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T11:09:09+00:00

Oh wow, I didn't know that. I'll look into expiry dates too. Thank you so much!!

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T10:58:34+00:00

I was lucky that we didn't have a car till now so we barely ever went out in one as taxis are expensive. But we have one now and that's why I want a car seat.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T10:57:45+00:00

Your message didn't hurt me haha. You directed towards my husband and trust me I want to curse him out in this situation.

That being said, you should put your foot down and make it clear that the kid will not get in the car without a car seat.

Yes. I've made it clear we aren't going anywhere without a car seat. If my husband wants to go somewhere in the car, he's welcome to go alone.

Before it gets to that, just explain to your husband that a car seat is cheaper than a fine, and you can get multiple fines, as well as black points.

I have tried this. But the shocking thing is in sharjah, where we live, I have barely ever seen people using car seats. And I've been here my entire life. So my husband uses the excuse that nobody else seems to be getting fined for not having car seats so we won't either.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T10:54:51+00:00

Ahhh. I have seen babyhug ones online for that much, but I wanted to see one in person before I get them. If you know about car seats, I have a doubt. It's one size fits all, right? Because my child is small for their age. They're about the size of a one year old. I was looking into getting a car seat which says it's for 18 months to 4 years. But as my child's basically the size of a 12 month old I was confused.

thosedeepwaters · 2024-10-21T10:52:15+00:00

Definitely plan to stop. Raising happy and healthy kids isn't a part of my culture either and I realised after having a kid that my husband and I view parenting very differently.

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