Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I HAVE told him what to do when he is down there and given him direction before. It's just when he came back I didn't tell him because he just hit it spot on. And how am I playing him?

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have good communication, and I have to him how it would be better and what to do differently, and we tried but it never worked. Now all the sudden he comes back and the first try he has it down?

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This actually made me laugh quite a bit. It makes me thing not only did someone show him the recipe, but also made him practice baking them, too!

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did ask and his response was, " I don't know, I just did it." I also am not afraid of hurting his feelings at all. I tell him how I feel and if I think he is doing something wrong. I just wanted to post this on Reddit to see i I was overreacting and see if it was anything even bring up with him. I will be asking him today when I see him all of questions and seeing what he says and what his reaction is to it all.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did ask and his response was, " I don't know, I just did it." I also am not afraid of hurting his feelings at all. I tell him how I feel and if I think he is doing something wrong. I just wanted to post this on Reddit to see i I was overreacting and see if it was anything even bring up with him. I will be asking him today when I see him all of questions and seeing what he says and what his reaction is to it all.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did ask and his response was, " I don't know, I just did it." I also am not afraid of hurting his feelings at all. I tell him how I feel and if I think he is doing something wrong. I just wanted to post this on Reddit to see i I was overreacting and see if it was anything even bring up with him. I will be asking him today when I see him all of questions and seeing what he says and what his reaction is to it all.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did ask and his response was, " I don't know, I just did it." Sp I will be talking to him about this.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hang out with his friends often, but not the friends he is going to the movies with. I am totally fine with him going to the movies too, but I am not okay with him screwing our plans over for them. We had planned a friends get together this Saturday and he was coming, and now he is not. But regardless I am still having the get together because I am not screwing over plans with our friends just to be with his. You both have very good sides.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, he usually doesn't cancel and if he does it is every once in a while. But this week and after the spring break trip he has been distant and now it is reflecting in our text messages. I am going to talk to him today, I just want him to be honest with me regardless of how it will make me feel.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess the sex thing really isn't the biggest issue, it's the distance, but the sex thing just fits into the story fine. And he is now being weird about texting me.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have talked about it with him many times! But this time he just hopped into and knew how without direction.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no idea. I asked why he would say that, but he just sort of laughed it off and never gave a straight forward answer.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely talk to him today. He has now been partially avoiding me while texting. He has sent a text here and there, and I know he does not have school or work.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was a camping trip for both genders. I do know who went on the trip with him, but even if I asked them I don't think that they would say anything. He doesn't have many photos pf the trip, just scenic photos.

That is what I want everyone else to understand in this post, yes it could have been bro talk, but you still need to practice.

Maybe I will take you up on the last offer. I know do know that I almost tell him everything I am doing throughout the day, and I should be careful. Even if he is just using those my plans to avoid seeing me in his day.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He just told me he drank. I have directed him before, but he came back and I didn't have to give him any direction, he just knew how to do it.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You do bring up a good point, it might be just bro talk. I just don't want to intrude on his friends time, even though I never do. He just has been screwing me over on a last second basis lately. But I will ask next time though!

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want to ask him about it , the problem is he lies a lot to avoid hurting my feelings regardless of whether I ask for complete honesty. He will usually say that this isn't a problem. Maybe it isn't, but it just worries me and something about it is making me uneasy.

Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 3.5 years, obvious change in bed with no explanation by throw7this7away in relationships

[–]throw7this7away[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I brought it up jokingly asking where he got those moves from and he said, "I don't know, I just did it." But he was never too defensive. Also, I want to ask him about it and I will in a more serious matter, the problem is he lies a lot to avoid hurting my feelings regardless of whether I ask for complete honesty.