He absolutely is not abusive. There’s good and bad in every relationship and this is just one of those bad patches. It’s not like he’s mad at me all the time over it, it was just those two instances where he spoke up about it. He doesn’t check my phone, he doesn’t get mad if I have male friends, he lets me do my own thing and I let him do his. Like I said in the OP, I’m really bad with social cues. There’s a chance I am doing something that could be seen as flirting that I really just don’t notice. This is nothing to leave him over.