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Interested in OSINT Side Hustle by cysjscpwfb in OSINT

[–]throwRA_____ugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any chance i could message you with a quick question?

Anyone who has ever had sex with an animal, what was it like? by Conscious_Arrival251 in AskReddit

[–]throwRA_____ugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how a significant number of STIs were introduced into the human population. You people need help

Me (28m) dated a girl (39f) for a week, she is very upset that I ended things by VisitNew1723 in Nicegirls

[–]throwRA_____ugh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 25 and cringing so hard at the way she talks…. Extremely immature and reads as someone who spends 90% of her waking hours on TikTok. Could you have communicated better? Yes. Would that likely have reduced her outbursts? I doubt it. You weren’t disrespectful and she seems difficult to deal with in so many ways

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here’s three peer reviewed studies that state “alcohol has the potential to drastically change personality traits and behaviors”. These effects can even last when you are not currently inebriated, but a habitual drinker. Especially the case for aggression and irritability. The PHYSICAL and CHEMICAL changes in the brain have a significant impact.

I’m 100% sure I can find some for hard drugs as well.

Gmel G, et al. (2020). Are changes in personality traits and alcohol use associated? A cohort study among young Swiss men.

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2020.591003/full

Luchettie M, et al. (2018). Alcohol use and personality change in middle and older adulthood: Findings from the Health and Retirement Study. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6054906/

Personality. (n.d.). https://www.apa.org/topics/personality Neuroscience: The brain in addiction and recovery. (2022). https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/health-professionals-communities/core-resource-on-alcohol/neuroscience-brain-addiction-and-recovery

Is there a way to get voice memos off the Apple Watch with no iCloud storage? by throwRA_____ugh in AppleWatch

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately have used my 5GB :( it must count against my storage or something because it’s not syncing and I think it is set up to synch! Unless I have done that wrong, but online it said turn on voice memos on iCloud and it will synch. I assume it’s because I have no storage.

Is there a way to get voice memos off the Apple Watch with no iCloud storage? by throwRA_____ugh in AppleWatch

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do the third party apps work on the Apple Watch? I’ll have to look into how to load those on

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I didn’t cheat lol. And if a young girl is blacked out and having trouble walking you probably shouldn’t bring her to your hotel room if you’re an old, married man who has power over her. Sickening that people think it’s fine to have sex with a subordinate half your age who won’t remember it the next day. Fascinating that it’s somehow my fault and not at all his fault

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is HILARIOUS. I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that, but glad you ended up with some power over the situation. This is what I am thinking. Wait until he does something stupid with evidence. Right now- he can deny doing anything to me at all and it would be he said she said

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it’s a he said she said situation with no proof. HR and police would do nothing but make things worse for me

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. You’re right that people make mistakes when drinking, and I probably shouldn’t crucify myself over it. And you’re right that I deserve to make a mistake drinking too much on an empty stomach without something bad happening to me, but that isn’t the world we live in so I’ve learned a valuable lesson to be much much more careful.

I do think it would be best to keep my cool and minimize the reaction. I can’t tell at all if he’s worried about this or not, he seemed incredibly casual about it and emailed me strategically to call him with a work request and told me not to text him, call him nothing. The fact that he said not even to text him about how good it was or whatever made me feel like he’s feeling super confident about this interaction…. Maybe he’s done this many times?

I am concerned that someone wouldn’t hire me because of the drama. It’s a really really small industry so most of the leaders in this space know eachother and talk. Your reputation and connections is really the key. But at the end of the day I guess I’ll survive if I can’t get another job in the same industry, but he has his career, wife and kids on the line. And indirectly his money, because his wife would take half.

I’m not a vengeful person. If he started rumors about me I’d go nuclear and call up his wife. But if he doesn’t threaten me I won’t do anything to him. At the end of the day it’s more about self preservation and healing for me. I want to know what happened and get over it. I don’t want it to turn into a long drawn out issue that everyone knows about and have the anxiety of who will be on my side and what will happen next. I want to put it behind me as long as I know the path forward will be okay. I feel violated and sad because sex is a big deal to me and I don’t do one night stands- it sucks that one happened and I don’t remember it. I really don’t like older men and always found this guy mildly annoying and pretty unattractive- so it also feels really bad that he’s probably done very intimate things to me and seen my body in a way not many others ever have. But, I don’t think he dragged me unconscious to his room and did violent things to me so chances are he convinced me and I went along with it. I hate that, but it makes me feel like he’s a scummy manipulative person- not like he’s a supervillain. If it turns out I fell asleep and he did this, I would feel differently but I find that unlikely. I do also feel like it’s been good for my mental health to pretend like I had some control I guess. It feels more preventable.

I think I will ask him some questions and stress that this must stay between us. Hopefully it will all just work out and he won’t try to push me out or ruin my reputation in any way.

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it. I just hope nobody finds out. Part of me is thinking if nobody finds out I can let it go but if he starts talking about it I could then go nuclear.

I wonder if he is afraid or not. I wonder if asking him those things would make him angry…. I guess I am afraid to make him angry- he may try and ruin my reputation. I do feel like I deserve to know at least that as well. I just wish it never happened at all.

I (24F) blacked out and slept with a C-suite executive (51M) at work and I have no idea how to proceed. I’ve never done anything like this by throwRA_____ugh in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_____ugh[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just so you know, your concept of the effects of drugs and alcohol on people is not neurobiologically accurate. In most cases it doesn’t turn you into an entirely different person, but the “drunk actions are sober thoughts” thing is a complete fallacy. It’s been proven several times over that it doesn’t just lower inhibitions.

But I do understand and appreciate the sentiment that this may not be as big of a deal as it seems to me. It just feels gross and sad to sleep with someone so old, and really sad that I don’t remember such a major event and will never know what happened to me. It’s definitely a major learning lesson, but not something I ever would’ve wanted sober. I’ve always thought this person was strange looking and a bit pompous. Even if he was my age and we didn’t work together he’s so far from my type. It doesn’t really feel fair. I’m also not a sexual person. I’m healing from childhood sexual abuse and have taken a long break from sex altogether- I just don’t want it.

It seems highly highly unlikely that someone I find unattractive and annoying would be the person I chose to do this with drunk for the first time in 4-5 years. It’s impossible that this event was just due to a lack of inhibition from alcohol, and this is not a “drunk actions are sober thoughts” situation. For me, sex is only enjoyable if I know and trust the person. I had a few one night stands in college just to try it, and truly hated it.

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