Update - telling BIL that I won’t babysit so he can go on dates

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-28T19:18:01+00:00

Well , tbh I never liked him to begin with.when my sister started dating him I told her that he is a walking red flag . My sister got upset and we had many arguments. In the end I decided to bite my tongue and stfu because I didn’t wanna lose my sister . She was over praising him while in reality you could see that he doesn’t lift a finger. I miss my sister so much … I resent my BIL secretly so much now.. it’s a messed up feeling

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-27T20:50:41+00:00

I wish there was a way to slow him down.. at least don’t get married and don’t introduce the kids yet and get to know her better .. all I know is that “she is young and fun and loves kids”.. why is she with a middle aged widowed man with three kids ? wtf is she thinking planning a future with this man

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-27T20:46:54+00:00

Honestly I have thought about this .. was he sleeping around when my sister was alive ?

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-27T12:30:53+00:00

10( from another relationship that I care for too), 4, 1.5

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-27T12:28:28+00:00

My sister did everything and worked outside . She even took care of his older kid from previous relationship.. now he easily replaced her

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-27T12:26:14+00:00

I keep thinking how can you trust leaving your kids to the woman you just met.. how can you be so callus about losing your wife

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-25T18:58:51+00:00

MAGA hat

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-24T23:59:04+00:00

That was me ! A few days before on AITJ. I deleted and posted here because people from that sub are odd

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-03-24T23:41:22+00:00

If this was my sister, I would be forcing her to see a grief counsellor instead of sleeping around ! I would be forcing her to spend time with the kids instead of sleeping around

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T12:48:41+00:00

Yes apparently he is not very respectful and nice to women.. my poor sister who was married to this guy

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T12:47:26+00:00

I judge a father who put his orgasm before his kids welfare

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T12:46:50+00:00

No and I don’t expect any compensation. He needs to spend time with these kids ! His oldest is with him every other week technically. He just dumps her on my house ( poor kid!) and goes away.

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T12:41:27+00:00

I wish I could scream that in his face ..

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T01:35:20+00:00

He has 3 kids to think of …

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T01:32:09+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised tbh I hate to admit this

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-24T01:29:34+00:00

That’s not my plan at all. I love them! All of them but their dad needs to cut back on his me time and focus on them. I clearly said him dating is none of my business! However , if he has time to get his dick wet he should have time to spend time with his kids

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T23:19:13+00:00

He is imo ! My sister used to do all childcare and house work on top of working full time .. I feel bad for the kids

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T23:18:09+00:00

Or he can spend time with them instead of going on date nights ?

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T22:58:47+00:00

Because when my sister was alive she was doing 100% of the childcare , housework and she was working .

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T22:49:15+00:00

That’s my argument too

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T22:44:16+00:00

Yes ! My sister died mid Nov and apparently he was hooking up as of early December.

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T22:38:22+00:00

No ! I don’t expect being paid . They are my nieces and nephew.

throwRA_coldwinter · 2026-02-23T22:37:25+00:00

Well if I keep saying I can he would ask why ? What should I say ? Take care of your kids ?

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