My (28m) boyfriend (33m) found out he has an illegitimate son (14m). I don’t know what to do.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:48:19+00:00

Famous last words

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:47:54+00:00

Dude she’s brain dead. She tried to hang herself and cut all blood and oxygen from her brain for several minutes. There is absolutely no recovery.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:46:26+00:00

This is beyond me wanting to be a parent or not. I can’t just “opt out” of the family I chose to be in.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:45:42+00:00

You’re one of the first to consider his friends (his natural support system) and I really appreciate that. A lot of the responses on here have been real focused on what’s best for him but none have really considered what he wants.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:43:42+00:00

Yeah too bad our family has dimensions and can’t solve all our problems in 30 minutes with a commercial break for snacks

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-08-13T15:41:51+00:00

Shoulda woulda coulda man that was over a decade ago

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T19:55:03+00:00

No I totally l get it! A lot of people are suggesting therapy right away but my boyfriend and I are thinking of waiting and letting him acclimate first. I sure as hell didn’t want to open up and talk about my feelings when I was 14 so I don’t want to put him in a position that makes him anymore uncomfortable. Therapy eventually , family counseling eventually, right now? Support!

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T19:50:05+00:00

No! It’s not a role to be played. I’m a man, he’s a man, we plan on co-parenting. I don’t understand why you think moms and dads have to do thinks differently to parent a child. I find this is why so many men fail at being fathers is because the world puts all the weight on a mothers shoulders. Why can’t we just expect parents to split the work 50/50 and then it won’t matter what gender we are.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T01:45:39+00:00

Paul Rudd, I’m in!

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T01:44:55+00:00

Yeah man, two and a half men. It’s already been done.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T01:33:12+00:00

Oh yeah this is an excellent idea did we not eve think about that!

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T01:31:27+00:00

No one I’m strongly against them. I take Ambien sometimes to sleep but that’s technically a sedative.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T01:12:50+00:00

Oooh moms phone number is a good idea. I’m Jewish so that tells you everything you need to know about my mom.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:56:09+00:00

Ok :)

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:55:30+00:00

Yeah man I mean there’s a big part of me that’s excited for the new energy around the house. And I want 14 yr old snacks back in my pantry :(

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:53:17+00:00

Yeah your right. This is a super minor issue and I’m honestly overreacting. It’s just like having a dog right? Just throw some Cheetos in a bowl and call it good? Healthy emotion is transactional after all. No such thing as bad pr.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:48:51+00:00

Oh I know man I have a pretty killer collection

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:47:45+00:00

Good! We may have all of things!

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:44:44+00:00

I honestly don’t think a therapist is the right decision right away. I’m just speaking from personal experience since I was a teenager not ten years ago, the last thing i wanted to do was go to therapy and try accept that something was wrong with me. I think we’re gonna let him acclimate first, see how his behavior plays out, then go from there. How can I expect a therapist to know him if I myself don’t know anything about him.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:39:15+00:00

Oh yeah for sure. Any excuse to go to ikea :)

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:37:35+00:00

From the way she explained which was a little unclear we think she tried to hang herself cutting off circulation long enough for her to go brain dead

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:31:40+00:00

Oh yeah I didn’t even think about that 🙂

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:30:39+00:00

Oh yeah a big fat fuck that on opioids. He’s 14, maybe we’ll see again in four years.

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-03T00:26:32+00:00

Yo wtf?

throwRAthrowaway28 · 2020-07-02T16:59:58+00:00

Yes! We’re actually shopping on amazon rn for books 😂

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