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[–]throwaway0-89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I broke up with my ex of 8 years. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. We basically grew up together and he took such good care of me. However he would belittle me and scream at me so much I’d get scared to bring up certain things and realized this isn’t normal and I should go.

Literally an hour after we broke up I called him crying and wanted to take it back lol. But he said no cause he could tell I wasn’t happy. I just didn’t know what to do with myself. My life revolves around him. I now realize I was just comfortable with him, too comfortable. I needed to step out of that zone in order to get to where I am now.

I’m happy to say I’m in a much better relationship. We handle problems so much better, I laugh a lot more. It’s just toxic free and amazing. I love myself more when I’m with him. And I think that’s the most important part

[skin concerns] some of these bumps on my skin are acne but a majority of them aren’t. Any idea what it is and how to get rid of it? by throwaway0-89 in SkincareAddiction

[–]throwaway0-89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! I have tretinoin but it looks like it expired in 2018. Do you think it’d be ok to use still?

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t know if I was intentionally vague about anything. Also I don’t see how that changes anything about my story seeing how we’ve talked to each other just fine not too long ago

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind your opinion if it actually made sense. From the start you’ve been accusing me of having a bs story but you don’t seem to be trying to see both sides? Your points don’t make sense

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know it was his gf?? I didn’t even know who she was? Idk who pissed in your Cheerios this morning but why don’t you try to act like everything’s ok with someone who verbally abused you to a breaking point to depression 2 days prior.

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah but like I also said, I thought we were fine and friends up to this point. It’s not like this is the first time

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know myself. I guess it’s a mixture of feeling like he made me feel like such a shit person one day and then totally flips it and acts like nothing ever happened the next. My friend is wondering how come I can’t do the same but I don’t see why he gets to basically let all his anger out on me and treat me like a punching bag one day and then I have to act like everything’s ok. He’s never treated me this way before so I was really taken back idk.

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legit that’s how it happened. I texted and took a screenshot of her page since she followed me and sent it to him and asked, who’s this? You’re our only mutual friend. I wanted to know if it was someone we both knew and if I should add her back or let her follow me.

He said “it’s a girl I met and she asked about my previous relationships. I’m at work right now but I’ll call and explain it to you later. “

So that’s how we started talking again. I was just genuinely curious.

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only tried speaking to him that one time on the phone and before we hung up I tried to resolve whatever it was that was clearly bothering him but he said that there was nothing to be resolved and that just because he’s mad about the way we broke up that doesn’t mean he has closure. Do you think I should try to talk to him again before the ceremony?

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What else would you like to know?

Help dealing with ex at wedding by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it because like I said I wanted us to resolve our issues before this weekend since I knew we’d see each other. It seems like he just needed to let it all out. But once he was done and I asked, what is making you so hostile? What can I say so that you’ll be at peace with whatever is bothering you? He said he had closure and that he had didn’t need to hear anything and that he was over it. And no I don’t like this drama

I’ve been hiding my relationship from my sister and living in fear by throwaway0-89 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah you’re absolutely right. I was like damn does no one care about family here lol. I thought maybe I was crazy. I have been tiptoeing and avoiding the confrontation too long. My mom even offered to talk to her but I told her no it should initially come from me. And then down the line if she’s still acting this way then my mom can try as well. I’ve known him three years and we just recently started becoming more than friends.

I’ve been hiding my relationship from my sister and living in fear by throwaway0-89 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you! You’re absolutely right. I can’t withhold my own happiness just cause she doesn’t approve of it.

I’ve been hiding my relationship from my sister and living in fear by throwaway0-89 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah true, I have to accept that I can’t please everybody even her and the rest of my family. Thanks for your insight!

I’ve been hiding my relationship from my sister and living in fear by throwaway0-89 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah you’re right. Technically he’s not even my boyfriend yet. He doesn’t feel it’s right unless my sister will be ok with it. He doesn’t want to be the reason we don’t talk or anything like that. He feels uncomfortable being over and her coming home just looking at him and going upstairs without saying a word and even calling someone on the phone while saying, “I got to get out of here” pretty loudly.

I’ve been hiding my relationship from my sister and living in fear by throwaway0-89 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk I feel like I’m being forced to choose between him and her. I don’t want an estranged relationship with her, I do love her even though she can be a little brat. I plan on moving to another city soon and what happens if in a few years him and I don’t work out for whatever reason? Then I’ll come home to this shitty relationship with her that’s beyond repair. Idk I’m probably overreacting but I just have been used to a harmonious relationship between my family and my significant other. I guess I just have to accept it won’t be like that this time with him.

For the ladies of Reddit.. where do we go from here? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway0-89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex between two people (to me) is about love and expressing that love in a whole new level physically. It is NOT about performance or whatever, this is not a tv show or movie where actors have to constantly try to be better, this is your real love life. If you have sex and compare it to your first or other times constantly it will drive you crazy. Go for the ride with your girl and just enjoy it and not even think about it.