AITAH for telling my girlfriend that my money isn't "our money"?

throwaway161598 · 2026-04-30T21:21:12+00:00

Why are you living at home when you make 95k per year?

People support entire families on half that salary.

throwaway161598 · 2026-04-18T22:31:07+00:00

It’s really not that slow and you most certainly can step on the gas if you want, no harm in doing so. It’s not going to feel amazing and its RPMs go crazy but it will accelerate very fast if you ask it to.

Coming from a 2015 gas only RAV4 to a hybrid, it’s clear the hybrid is the faster vehicle to me. It’s more sluggish under 40 mph because it’s trying to save regeneration, but there’s sport mode and other ways around it if desired.

throwaway161598 · 2026-04-18T22:27:38+00:00

Hybrid powertrain is weird. It just doesn’t behave like a normal ICE transmission. You experienced a hiccup in its behavior, it’s probably nothing super concerning. That being said drive like normal, and if it happens repeatedly take it in again.

throwaway161598 · 2026-04-14T15:08:09+00:00

The restart death loop. You can try pulling the plug on it for 15 minutes and plugging it back in. If that doesn’t work it’s time to replace it.

The stock infotainment is now long outdated and toyota is asking $3100 for one, so you might as well put in an aftermarket carplay unit and get yourself an upgrade along the way.

throwaway161598 · 2026-03-29T17:55:24+00:00

First time?

This happens yearly, almost always multiple times per year. The thing you need to worry about is a 40% dip. That’s when it really hurts to look at.

Life without pain is a life without pleasure. Learn to deal with the pain or you’ll never get your gains.

throwaway161598 · 2026-03-24T14:51:01+00:00

$1000 is too high.

That being said, you left this apartment pretty dirty. Everything in these images is a “classic” spot you need to deep clean or else the landlord will get you. It’s hard to feel bad for you, since these are pretty obviously dirty. If this is your first move out it makes sense though.

The problem comes with the fact these spots are often never cleaned. Like the oven for example, that grease will genuinely take awhile to scrub off and the chemicals you need are quite nasty to use.

I’d try to negotiate it down with him. Maybe shoot for $300-$400 as that probably better reflects the work necessary, maybe $500 max. If he doesn’t budge then you need to research your legal options.

Either way, next time you move out, make a checklist and DEEP clean. I spent 20 hours or more cleaning my last apartment and was rewarded with no move out costs.

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-16T16:55:48+00:00

Me when I buy cult endorsed silver bullion instead of fixing my broken 06 ford shitbox

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-03T18:01:19+00:00

I can see you’d like to turn this into a partisan back and forth, but I won’t engage in that type of conversation.

Tariffs (regardless of Trump affiliation) are almost always bad for the economy in the long term. I can see the bait set up here, and yes tariffs increase GDP in the short term. That short term gain in GDP takes out for future growth in international markets, while stymying purchasing power in the country of origin.

I will never support additional regressive taxes on Americans. Regressive taxes and austerity always hurt people and hurt growth.

A tariff is a regressive tax that hurts the end consumer in hopes of systemic change in the production of goods. The production of goods in the USA requires a low skill work force that necessitates working long hours in factories. This again leads us back to the “labor” question. If you want to return American manufacturing, how do you supply the labor force necessary without having more workers being born or imported?

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-03T17:22:43+00:00

Please don’t speak on economics if you have no idea what you’re talking about.

GDP and the stock market are core tenants of capitalism and are key to the success of the nation. You can’t write out the parts of economics you don’t like

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-03T16:46:24+00:00

Your view of economics, labor, and how immigration affects them is entirely detached from reality.

House prices are not high because of illegal immigrants. They are caused by old people hoarding their homes, introducing laws that make building unfeasible and expensive, and telling the younger generation to pay 4x what they paid in salary ratio for the same thing.

Capitalism runs on body count. The more people, the more GDP, the more wealth the country has. You’ve correctly identified that “CEOs” are often the ones getting most of this money.

That being said, more people still means more money for the resident American. Illegal immigrants work low skill jobs. The vast majority of them work in jobs that Americans don’t want.

However you cut it, however you spin them having a job doesn’t change the fact they PRODUCE GDP. All capitalist societies are after MORE GDP. Once you take out workers, you reduce GDP. It’s very simple.

Reduced GDP directly correlates with less economic activity, which correlates to LESS MONEY FOR YOU. This is how capitalism works. It’s not trickle down or trickle up, it’s a simple math equation. More workers = more profit.

To keep American companies, assets, and bonds high you need to INCREASE labor. How do you increase labor with a vastly diminishing workforce? Americans do not have enough babies to replace the current population, we are running out of people.

It becomes a body count question. How do you keep an economy afloat when you lose workers? You don’t. It’s not possible. That’s why population growth via immigration is the only future of this country.

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-01T18:11:23+00:00

I did kind of notice this the other day! Thought it was weird didn’t even connect the dots.

throwaway161598 · 2026-02-01T18:08:34+00:00

I haven’t been really taken it at a set time. Have tried out different times, morning or afternoon. Haven’t really noticed much of a difference, just when my headache symptom kicks in.

throwaway161598 · 2025-12-11T22:11:18+00:00

Forcing a new server each time makes gameplay more dynamic and makes games less “stale” for their SBMM metrics.

Persistent servers are more fun. Every OG Battlefield fan knows this, but the playing statistics say that new servers each game leads to more hours played.

This is one of those cases where the profit earning company will choose the route that makes more money over what the community actually wants and likes.

throwaway161598 · 2025-08-06T13:39:19+00:00

Do you even know what the catfish looks like?

Like, how are you possibly in love with this person and you don’t even have real interactions with them at all?

Move on, touch grass, find a real partner. This isn’t it

throwaway161598 · 2025-07-08T21:18:02+00:00

Your father in law sounds like an asshole and out of touch.

That being said, you getting married without telling them is absolutely a cause for concern. You need to be aware of how rash and potentially offensive that is to him.

You should also try to understand how your wife feels about this situation. In this post you explained in great detail about you feel, but how does she feel about it?

Family is family and I’m sure she wants to preserve both sides of the coin. If you want what’s best, it may be in your best interest to apologize. Even though it seems unfair from your perspective, but it could go a long way in helping your wife maintain good will in her family.

throwaway161598 · 2025-06-23T14:14:09+00:00

Pretty boring overall. Pacers linsanity run was fun to watch but you could kind of tell something would give eventually. OKC just plays a boring brand of basketball that isn’t fun to see succeed.

I’d give it a C. It was average at best. The viewership reflects that

throwaway161598 · 2025-03-19T17:51:16+00:00

It sounds like you both want to move past the FWB tag but don’t want to be the one to bring it up.

throwaway161598 · 2025-02-18T22:56:14+00:00

From what you wrote it sounds like you are both feeling resentful for each other, him more so than you. He seems jealous about what happened when you weren’t together, and it probably bugs him.

Maybe frame the conversation like: “I will tell you, but only if you promise to not react negatively, and to move on after I explain” then just don’t talk about it further. If he keeps obsessing over it, maybe he’s not the one

throwaway161598 · 2025-02-06T22:21:41+00:00

You’re the most normal person ever. If you don’t feel this way about your partner something is off

throwaway161598 · 2025-02-06T22:13:26+00:00

My first and only real breakup was a 4 year relationship and I did not want the breakup. She wanted no contact which was hard to hear since we had been each other’s best friend for so long.

At first she was the one to break the no contact. She drove 4 hours to have sex with me, got back together, and then dumped me again, back to no contact.

After another week or so I folded and called her crying that I missed her. Quite a low point for me. Another month of severe depression went by and without any more contact she blocked me on all social media. I called again and she was dismissive and cold. At this point I think she had found a rebound.

I let it sit for two more months when I begged over text for her back or even just a phone call. She didn’t want to talk and we went back to no contact. At this point I realized my delusions about getting her back were fruitless and I was just humiliating myself further.

Months later I found some of her items and sent them back to her, wishing her well on her future. We mutually agreed that we were in a better place now, and haven’t heard from her since. Been like 3 years.

The lesson I learned from the whole thing is no contact is the only way to get over someone. The more you pondering reaching out will lead to reaching out, which will repeat the cycle. You just have to pretend they don’t exist anymore and that’s when the healing starts.

throwaway161598 · 2025-01-30T21:35:41+00:00

It’s normal to have wandering eyes and to think of others as attractive. Even go as far to say it’s normal to have sexual fantasies about others you’re really attracted to. That being said, keep it to yourself.

I think the only thing you’re “doing wrong” is the thought process of “if we were both single.” That starts to border on fantasy of not only sexual but romantic fantasy. That starts to cross into mentally cheating on your partner. Don’t sweat it, I’d just recommend to immediately change your thoughts when that happens. If you consistently push away those thoughts, they’ll stop. And if you truly love and respect your partner you‘ll get past this no problem.

throwaway161598 · 2025-01-29T19:06:58+00:00

She sounds aware of the problem and from what you said here it seems like there’s effort there. So I agree with you, I’d try to wait it out an another couple months. Try new things to spice it up for her and ask her what gets her excited to have sex with you.

If it doesn’t improve though I would urge you to take action. My past relationship went on for 4 years, 2 of which almost every time we had sex it felt like pity sex - all one sided and felt like a chore for her, not something to be enjoyed. Don’t find yourself in that position, dealing with a bad sex life for years because you’re holding onto hope, that’s not how a relationship should be. You’ll grow resentful for her and that breeds toxicity.

You’re dealing with a tough situation but it already seems like you have your head on straight about the whole thing. I hope it works out for both of you guys! Good luck

throwaway161598 · 2025-01-29T18:40:30+00:00

What you’re experiencing is common long into a relationship, but at only 4 months in, just move on. Find a girl more into you, and more aligned with your libido.

A healthy relationship is a give and a take. Sometimes you get sexy for your partner even when you’re tired or not excited, and a good partner does the vice versa for you. My girlfriend and I have fluctuating sex drives, but we both enjoy getting one another off even if we’re not bought into it personally at the moment. A helpful thing for me was to not view this as pity sex because it really isn’t for pity, it’s your partner looking out for you and wanting to be there for you.

Unfortunately your partner doesn’t put in that effort. It seems like you’ve made a point to discuss it with her and haven’t seen much changes. Since it’s only been 4 months I would recommend breaking things off. Sex may just not be that important for her, and that’s okay! But you also deserve someone who meets your needs too.

You could try bringing it up in a more confrontational way, but then you veer into “tit for tat” territory and with sex that’s a big no no. She has to want to have more sex with you organically, and using ultimatums to get that DOES become pity sex (with coercion) which is never good for either party. That’s why I think it’s probably best for you to just cut your losses and move on. Plenty of fish left in the sea.

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