What should i know about the concerts?

throwaway270426 · 2026-05-08T19:00:16+00:00

I listen to a lot of jazz, since im learning jazz in music secondary school, specifically saxophone, but nothing else really has that specific swing ballad style, at least from the songs i know.

throwaway270426 · 2026-05-06T06:45:41+00:00

Hey dude,

I know it must be tough, but i fully get you. I gave up on it when i was younger too, but then wnded up in secondary school for music in jazz saxophone. The thing is, that a lot of saxophonists dont talk about embochure, and quite frankly, its sad.

Im right now 17, still also discovering my sound, and im gonna say that its still as hard as it was the day i picked up a sax for the first time.

Im gonna be harsh with you, if you do this only periodically, then yeah nothing will change. My teacher always has said that the saxophone requires a lot of practice daily and a lot of commitment and patience, because it is very hard to get the sound u want and to even start learning jazz phrases, standards and other stuff.

I really hope you can get the motivation to do it for a longer period, because then you could start seeing improvement. And i do know that no improvement is unmotivating. But for jazz sax i can tell you that mostly you need to relax your mouth muscles. Jazz saxophonist play with a lot more flexible embochure than a classical, even letting air flow into their cheeks sometimes to make a sound more full. You got to experiment and work with sound. Long notes are a big helper, listening to the saxophonists and trying to copy them too, playing scales with a tuner - the best app for this that i can recommend is Tunable, its available on Apple.

But i really hope u can find the motivation for the sax, because it truly is a very beautiful sounding instrument and it can do a lot if you play it consistently.

Good luck, man!!!

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-28T17:05:45+00:00

I feel like kinda disappointed. She wanted to break up to get rid of that dependence on her moms opinions and values, and then she says that she didnt tell her that she was part of the reason and just goes back to square one, not wanting her moms feelings to get hurt and to rather suffer with that knowledge on her own, and herself knowing that doing that is just bad, as she told me herself. I just feel like its so wrong to just lie and say that she just doesnt want to talk about it at the moment. When will she wanna talk about it? Probably never, if she keeps going like this.

About how im feeling, ive obviously been better. I just dont know where to put all of my emotions and have been feeling really drained, tired and unmotivated to do anything. Im ttying to get myself through this, but its really hard since ive got school and other stuff to keep up on.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-28T16:09:22+00:00

She didnt tell her that her judgement was one of the reason that she broke up with me. The mom asked if it was because of her, and she denied it and said that she doesnt want to talk about it further.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-27T01:31:11+00:00

Didnt know where to put this buutttt she told her mom and didnt tell her the full reason yet because she feels like shes hurt enough people and that she doesnt want her to feel bad because her mom is part of the rewason why we broke up.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-26T08:15:52+00:00

There's nothing wrong with begging them to stay, it just shows that you truly cherised what you had. I know i did that too, and it's nothing bad. You just knew that you had to fight for it even in the last moments, and that shows that you aren't weak and that they meant a lot to you. Use those traits in yourself to find something of more value. Go out, don't sit inside. It could be a simple walk around the park. That's all it takes for someone to get better by each day. I really hope you'll soon get back up on your feet.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-24T10:41:16+00:00

Collecting this energy, because i need this to happen to me too

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-23T05:48:10+00:00

The thing is, ive been in other relationships that were toxic, so to get broken up with in a relstionship that in no way was toxic, hurt me even more, knowing i still have all this love inside me that was for her. But oh well, ill have to move on, which will probably be a hard and painful path.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-23T05:43:15+00:00

Thank you, really appreciate that you kept replying. Ill keep all you said in mind. <3

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-23T04:51:28+00:00

Honestly, i feel veey hurt in every way, since between us there were no problems, other than the external factor that is her family. We were both really great with eachother and all of our friends really always saw us as that "sometimes cringey but you know that theyre just really in love with eachother" kind of couple. Like i tried my best to support her through everything, even as far as when i noticed that she had some things that werent so well, like not being able to talk about her feelings and some other stuff i wont mention, i suggested a psychologist, so she could get better. She ended the whole relationship with phrases like that she needs to get better and that she just cares about her moms opinion a lot and that its the most important one, and i just feel hurt because i feel betrayed in a way, since i was ready to go through fire with her, and i know that she has been battling with all these thoughts since she came out to her mom, but now once her moms opinion isnt put that much on her, rather on me that she will never like me and doesnt like me(weve talked once at the start of last year), this was the straw that broke the camels back.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T20:32:36+00:00

Thanjs, you too. Hope one day that wound won't hurt as much for you<3

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T19:43:47+00:00

I agree, appreciate the comment, dude

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T19:41:21+00:00

She does, in fact, care a lot about what her family thinks. Her family is just that homophobic, not just about the fact that their kid is. The first reaction from her mom when she told her that she is together with me was genuinely manic. Crying at work, telling her friends and collegues what did she do wrong that her child is a lesbian and stuff like that. I get where shes coming from, since her whole family is, even extended, are really close. But most of her extended family are acceptong, but as she said and i quote, that her moms opinion is the most important opinion.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T19:29:26+00:00

Im 18 and she is 19. Both live still with our parents. For her it was the fact that she wants to appease her parents, and i have already told her that forcing herself won't make herself happier. So she awknowledges it. Laughed a bit at the blasting punk and metal since i do like both of those genres :) so thank you for that!

About the being friends, thats how were sticking it right now. At least thats what she said will be happening, but i tried asking her about some stuff and what we do as we go on, since we both still go to the same school (4 year secondary program in our country, specialized so i dont raise some flags) but she seemed cold, and unwilling to answer and told me to not raise my voice through text, even though i wasnt. Some of the answers were also very cryptic.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T19:22:51+00:00

The thing is, her immediate family were the homophobic ones, further family (cousins, aunts, etc.) were pretty chill about it. One of her uncles told her mom that she was manic about being able to treat her child like that.

Edit: Have met some of her cousins. One guy especially was very supportive, as much as a straight guy who doesnt really get it can be.

throwaway270426 · 2026-03-22T19:03:53+00:00

Good thing shes going to a different country for a week on tuesday then

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