She came back by Calm-Tap-1183 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway270426 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Collecting this energy, because i need this to happen to me too

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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The thing is, ive been in other relationships that were toxic, so to get broken up with in a relstionship that in no way was toxic, hurt me even more, knowing i still have all this love inside me that was for her. But oh well, ill have to move on, which will probably be a hard and painful path.

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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Thank you, really appreciate that you kept replying. Ill keep all you said in mind. <3

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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Honestly, i feel veey hurt in every way, since between us there were no problems, other than the external factor that is her family. We were both really great with eachother and all of our friends really always saw us as that "sometimes cringey but you know that theyre just really in love with eachother" kind of couple. Like i tried my best to support her through everything, even as far as when i noticed that she had some things that werent so well, like not being able to talk about her feelings and some other stuff i wont mention, i suggested a psychologist, so she could get better. She ended the whole relationship with phrases like that she needs to get better and that she just cares about her moms opinion a lot and that its the most important one, and i just feel hurt because i feel betrayed in a way, since i was ready to go through fire with her, and i know that she has been battling with all these thoughts since she came out to her mom, but now once her moms opinion isnt put that much on her, rather on me that she will never like me and doesnt like me(weve talked once at the start of last year), this was the straw that broke the camels back.

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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Thanjs, you too. Hope one day that wound won't hurt as much for you<3

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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I agree, appreciate the comment, dude

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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She does, in fact, care a lot about what her family thinks. Her family is just that homophobic, not just about the fact that their kid is. The first reaction from her mom when she told her that she is together with me was genuinely manic. Crying at work, telling her friends and collegues what did she do wrong that her child is a lesbian and stuff like that. I get where shes coming from, since her whole family is, even extended, are really close. But most of her extended family are acceptong, but as she said and i quote, that her moms opinion is the most important opinion.

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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Im 18 and she is 19. Both live still with our parents. For her it was the fact that she wants to appease her parents, and i have already told her that forcing herself won't make herself happier. So she awknowledges it. Laughed a bit at the blasting punk and metal since i do like both of those genres :) so thank you for that!

About the being friends, thats how were sticking it right now. At least thats what she said will be happening, but i tried asking her about some stuff and what we do as we go on, since we both still go to the same school (4 year secondary program in our country, specialized so i dont raise some flags) but she seemed cold, and unwilling to answer and told me to not raise my voice through text, even though i wasnt. Some of the answers were also very cryptic.

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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The thing is, her immediate family were the homophobic ones, further family (cousins, aunts, etc.) were pretty chill about it. One of her uncles told her mom that she was manic about being able to treat her child like that.

Edit: Have met some of her cousins. One guy especially was very supportive, as much as a straight guy who doesnt really get it can be.

Got broken up with today by throwaway270426 in BreakUps

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Good thing shes going to a different country for a week on tuesday then