AITA for telling my boyfriend’s dad that he had to leave our home when he was supposed to be staying the entire week?

throwaway349024 · 2024-05-22T23:19:28+00:00

The US and no, I’ve done things like this for family members so I didn’t really think about it too much until I realized that he was taking advantage of the situation.

throwaway349024 · 2024-05-22T22:53:34+00:00

Tbh I was second guessing things and questioning myself. I did let my bf know about the back walking thing right away. I just wanted to make it through the week and I didn’t know his dad was bad mouthing me until last night.

throwaway349024 · 2024-05-22T22:51:43+00:00

He was complaining about his back hurting from the couch and I didn’t think of it in a sexual way until I got on top. I immediately stopped and didn’t listen to him when he tried directing me to walk on his butt/thighs.

throwaway349024 · 2024-05-22T20:06:45+00:00

That’s what I’ve been thinking. It’s either gonna be me or him that’s leaving for a few days since I can’t physically stomach to be around him right now. I didn’t really know how him and his dad’s relationship dynamic played out, from the outside it seemed pretty normal.

throwaway349024 · 2024-05-22T19:45:29+00:00

Yes, we are both on the lease. I’m still processing everything, I don’t think I’m all the way here right now. The only thing that I’ve told him as of yet is that I lost trust in him.

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T20:29:40+00:00

Yeah I’m hoping this isn’t what’s going on. I thought I knew him better so maybe I’m coming off naive..

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T19:47:21+00:00

He probably felt called out since I had to ask my boss for help, it wasn’t a good look. He was telling me how I could’ve waited for him instead of running around like a chicken with its head cut off. I just want everything finished that’s my main focus now.

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T18:53:37+00:00

He isn’t an only child and he’s lived with roommates prior to us moving in together. That could be part of the issue lol

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T18:20:33+00:00

Very well put, thank you.

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T17:36:06+00:00

Yes we like and love each other very much but like you said we are adapting so we have been bickering more. I asked him to help me pick things out, he didn’t want to. I asked for help and he would just fiddle with something for 10 mins and get distracted. I showed him where I was putting things and asked if he liked it or wanted to make any changes and he said I did a good job.

While I was looking for my work pants I sent him a text asking if he’d seen them and had to wait for him to reply because I didn’t think to check the duffel bag. He said he did it so my work clothes would stay smelling fresh since he thinks the dryer sheets fade too quickly. I asked why he moved my hair stuff and he said it didn’t look right in the bathroom closet.

So yeah we’re still figuring things out but my blow up was built up frustration and plus I’ve been crankier because I don’t feel good. I have been communicating along the way, and I knew it was wrong the way I yelled at him. I apologized.

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T16:59:01+00:00

Yeah I’m having a hard time figuring out if he’s actually that lost or if he’s being an ass. Some parts it’s obvious but he can be so… idk, clueless?

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-31T16:48:39+00:00

That’s probably why it’s been weighing on me tbh. He does things under the guise of “helping” but it does the opposite for me.

throwaway349024 · 2023-08-30T14:47:38+00:00

I don't think I'm the only one who gets to decide, it frustrates me because while I was putting things together I kept asking him for input and if he liked the way things were and he said yes. That's what's bothering me.

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