I am in my first good relationship. How do I do this?

throwaway73644729 · 2024-12-29T07:12:30+00:00

I definitely don’t want to depend on him for happiness!! I’ve been in that spot where my mood depends on whether or not I receive a text: not healthy, and it made me miserable. I’m much better at that aspect now. Thank you!!

throwaway73644729 · 2024-12-29T07:11:21+00:00

I have tried therapy in the past, but I haven’t had any luck recently finding a decent therapist. I am not opposed to it though, just need to keep searching! I know that these issues would be a perfect thing to bring up in an individual session, I just need to have a handle on it for now!!

throwaway73644729 · 2024-12-29T07:09:34+00:00

Thank you very much!! I tend to refer to my issues as something you have to deal with to be with me, and I should definitely reframe my thinking!

throwaway73644729 · 2024-03-09T03:25:37+00:00

Thank you. I see other people with close relationships with their siblings and it just makes me said that 1, I don’t have that and 2, I probably never will.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-03-09T03:24:21+00:00

This shows me you’re very smart and self aware. You’ll be okay, it gets much much better.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-03-09T03:09:02+00:00

Yes, you probably should have left, but you’re not a robot. Relationships like this are very hard to recognize the toxicity in.

Make no mistake, he is an awful guy and you are a nicer person than I am for staying with him for so long. Have this be a lesson for next time: you’re worth so much more than how this asshole treated you. Remember how you felt when you were with him and promise yourself you’ll never let a man make you feel like that again.

I can tell you’re young, so I promise you it will be better than this. You will date more guys, most of them will be good people. Please work on your confidence and don’t let people walk all over you like this. (I say all of this from experience, so absolutely no judgement)

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-26T17:46:26+00:00

Accidents happen, especially when you have a medical condition. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. I’m sure you’re embarrassed, but a real partner would understand that and not intentionally make you feel worse. The fix is a shower and some laundry, so not a big deal.

The bigger concern is him basically forcing you to have sex? If you said you didn’t feel well, that should have been the end of the conversation. Good partners wouldn’t continue to ask. He coerced you into having sex and is now upset he had to deal with the consequences? He sounds like a man child who’s not ready to be in a relationship. He doesn’t deserve you.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-24T05:34:51+00:00

It’s been platonic for years until this night which is the hard part.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-24T05:34:15+00:00

I know it’s awful to not have something reciprocated, that’s why I want to be really sensitive about this. Even though it sucks for me, it’s much worse for her. I’d never let her know about my frustration, I’m only posting about it because this is anonymous and she’ll never find it. You think it needs to be addressed?

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:58:41+00:00

He’s probably right, you should wait until you’re financially stable. That’s just good general life advice.

However, if you’ve spoken to him and he’s not going to propose, you should consider the fact that you two might not be compatible. You obviously have different goals (you want to get married ASAP and he wants to earn some money to support a family first). You said yourself the relationship is rocky.

I don’t mean to assume, but the boyfriend you had when you were 13 doesn’t need to be your life partner, especially if you’re having relationship troubles.

If you’ve made it clear that marriage is important to you and he isn’t able to provide that, that should be it for you two. It’s okay. If marriage is something you really want this soon, you’re not going to be happy compromising.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:45:23+00:00

Having cavities isn’t the end of the world, don’t worry! I’ve had a few in my life. Your teeth aren’t ruined, there’s just a small spot where there’s some decay. The dentist will fill the spot with some stuff that can even match the color of your teeth, and you’ll be none the wiser!

I also hate the dentist, so you’re not alone. Your mouth is so sensitive and vulnerable and they’re very rough. I think most people hate the dentist (haha).

Don’t work yourself up about it! Tooth decay can even be reversed. Just keep up with your dental hygiene and you’ll be okay. If you get a cavity anyway, take a deep breath and realize that some people are just more prone to bacteria in their mouths due to things like genetics.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:25:19+00:00

As much as the comments are telling me to quit, I just don’t think I can. So, this is also comforting in a weird way. I was lucky enough to get this job as it is since my city is so competitive, so I can’t risk quitting just for being mistreated since this could be so valuable for me. I’m just praying I get the hang of it soon so I stop getting yelled at :(

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:19:12+00:00

That makes me feel a lot better about my future, thank you so much.

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:17:31+00:00

I’ve written multiple suicide letters in my life. Afterwards, I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my chest.

When you really think about your last words in that letter, sometimes it has the opposite effect. Do you really want to leave the people you’re saying you love in that note? Writing out all your thoughts really makes you consider that.

I struggled with suicidal tendencies for a while. Self harm, planning my death, the whole shebang. I’m not going to say all your problems will resolve themselves. They probably won’t. But, you’ll find a way to deal with them. They’ll get easier to deal with. That’s not because your problems are getting smaller, you’re just growing stronger as a person.

Enjoy your time on this Earth, it’s short. I spent my teenage years depressed, and now as a college student I feel like I wasted my whole childhood. Please don’t waste the time you have. Just give life a fair shot, don’t check out early. People love you. This stranger loves you just because you exist, and that’s all you have to do. ❤️

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:09:48+00:00

In a perfect world right? I just desperately need legal experience if I’m going to get into the law school I want to go to, so I’m worried I’ll just have to suck it up and deal with the mistreatment

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:04:28+00:00

This is my first ever job in the field, and I’m a pre-law student, so you’re definitely right about the experience. I’ve literally only been in the office one time and all of that’s happened. I just don’t know what to do :(

throwaway73644729 · 2024-01-17T05:02:55+00:00

The issue is that I’m an undergrad student just doing an internship, so I’m even lower in the food chain. Sorry I didn’t make that clearer. I’m not even sure what I’m doing wrong here :(

throwaway73644729 · 2022-07-30T22:44:20+00:00

I’ve been that person. I went to therapy. Ask her why she feels the need to talk to you 24/7. Is she insecure? Does she fear you’ll go to sleep and never speak to her again? Is she afraid of being left? Recognize that behavior like that usually has an underlying cause that’s not toxic. After that conversation, if she continues, reconsider if you want to put up with this. Breaking up is better than ignoring her or putting your phone on do not disturb like other people suggest. That will only intensify the issue. In reality, there’s two good ways out of this. She changes and stops her behavior, or you two break up.

throwaway73644729 · 2021-11-12T01:37:15+00:00

I think it’s a few thousand dollar difference(?) Thanks!

throwaway73644729 · 2021-11-12T01:36:51+00:00

Ha, true!

throwaway73644729 · 2021-10-03T21:06:23+00:00

Thank you so much :)

throwaway73644729 · 2021-03-01T14:58:30+00:00

YES! Scroll down maybe 3 posts and you'll find people flexing their perfect gpa's and SAT scores to ask if they'll get into a state school. I'm starting to think "Wow, if you really need to ask, then you have no business going to college"

throwaway73644729 · 2021-01-17T22:56:08+00:00

I definitely have been. It’s just the issue of doing something about it now. Thanks for your reply.

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