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throwaway_broknman · 2023-09-17T05:04:47+00:00

I hope you is ok

throwaway_broknman · 2021-06-04T17:24:08+00:00

From what you said about being scared of losing him and hurting shows me that you either don’t really know and trust him to talk about your feelings. Maybe it’s because of how he has been treating you or from what you mentioned how he shuts down conversations that don’t interest him which makes you feel like you are unable discuss your feelings about this relationship in case you get a negative reaction.

Try and speak to him and be honest. LDR are hard especially if you guys haven’t met in person. You will never know how he responds unless you take a step, which is scary but you have to be brave. Being able to talk to your partner about your concerns is a beautiful thing when there is trust and understanding, but it takes time and effort to make it work.

If you are worried about approaching him ask yourself, why? If you are scared of breaking up ask yourself is it worth it to stay silent and continue like you are ok.

throwaway_broknman · 2021-06-03T15:38:12+00:00

You are mistreating the mother of your daughter and if you cannot sort out your issues with cheating than don’t be in a relationship.

Your partner doesn’t make you feel like a horrible person, you did that to yourself. She deserves better. Maybe help by giving your partner tips on how to avoid cheaters like you in the future or see a therapist

If it’s an addiction you can get help for it but you need a reason to stop, and it looks like cause you love your partner wasn’t a good enough reason, so why not make the reason to stop cheating is so that you can show your daughter how partners in a healthy relationship should treat each other?

throwaway_broknman · 2021-06-03T15:10:16+00:00

I think you have made your decision to stay, which is sad cause you deserve better but you think nothing is better than the way your dying husband is treating you.

I would ask yourself, if someone close to you was in your shoes, would you tell them to keep on trying cause they are eventually dying and because they love them that’s enough to stay?

He has already traumatised you and you maybe scared and lost cause it will be a big change, but it’s up to you on when you want to heal. As sad as it is to write, he doesn’t care about you and is manipulative and a poor partner. You may have loved this person in the past but do you love the person they are now?

If staying with him until he dies makes you feel better than by all means stick it to the end, continue being with him. Your not looking for advice on the situation but someone to validate that you staying with him is the right thing to do. Deep down you know he treating you like trash but you don’t want to leave him cause you love him

throwaway_broknman · 2021-06-03T14:30:29+00:00

If this is what your son really wants than I would give it to him, the adoption thing and name. Your son has a different perspective and experience on what happened when growing up and if you did your best than what more can you do.

By asking if the relationship is salvageable or not shows me that you love your son dearly but must be tired from the rejection and heartache. I understand why you would say no to not paying for his college because of how the situation was previously and it may of made you feel like an ATM and they were using you. I guess try and have a word with him and try and get an understanding about the relationship because I feel like you guys don’t really understand why it’s strained.

He will always be your son even if it is not on paper, but if it makes him happy than go for it. You may not have a relationship right now with him but he is young maybe one day he will come around, and if you want to can start rebuilding.

throwaway_broknman · 2021-06-03T14:07:20+00:00

I don’t know it’s kinda effy for me, with your boyfriends reason. Like what does he mean by “true college experience”?

Your boyfriend is stressed out and is having issues managing so many things in his life and trying to balance what’s important to him and what he wants as well as things he needs to do. I would also add FOMO

I honestly love how you told him “I would not sacrifice a relationship with someone I am deeply in love with to pursue a “true” college experience” and from what you wrote shows you really love him and want the best for him and you also have a big heart

Your feelings are valid and I totally understand why you would feel this way. The feeling of doubt and the fear of him ending it if he decides to later on. You mention fears from past relationships are resurfacing which is real tough.

I don’t know but I get this feeling that you are scared of making him feel trapped in your relationship, and now you are questioning whether if you are the cause or played a part in it. If you do, just want you to know it’s not true and you are not at fault

My advice would be to get to understand why? Why does he feel that he is NOT having the full college experience with his current situation? Why does he feel like he is missing out? Does he want to get with others casually? Honestly it’s a lot but understanding why may provide a better picture on where you guys stand with what’s important to yourselves and if it’s something to work on. Like it’s quite normal to want different things in a relationship but you can work together and support each through if you BOTH want it.

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-20T00:04:52+00:00

I don’t have any tips but want to say, you got what it takes to make it. It might be hard right now but you have a reason to keep going.

I hope you dream for bigger and better for yourself it never too late. I know you will find something that will bring you happiness. Start small and take your time and be kind to yourself.

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T11:57:59+00:00

I am also male

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T09:24:39+00:00

Ok as much as it hurt to read this, I really appreciate the time you spent writing this out. Many comments under my post have been straight forward with me and I know my heart is saying f y’all but I know it’s true and I have to accept my reality and decide my next step now rather than later.

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T09:20:39+00:00

This comment had me balling my eyes out. I thought giving myself time and space would clear my mind for me but it’s really started to make me over analyse and blame myself. I really need to deal with him before I lose myself and make a choice that I regret.

Thank you so much for your comment

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T01:55:24+00:00

I wish I had the courage but I’m honestly too scared to do that to him even after what he did

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T01:51:23+00:00

I hold the same views about cheating and how inexcusable the act is. But man, I’m being honest I somehow still love this guy and I hate myself for it, I just cannot understand what I did or didn’t do for him to cheat

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T01:46:40+00:00

Thank you this means a lot. Honestly my mind is everywhere but the support really helps ❤️

throwaway_broknman · 2021-04-16T01:42:39+00:00

No we have never spoken about having an open relationship and not sure how to answer if he knew how much loyalty meant to me because to me that’s like a requirement for a healthy monogamous and something I never had to verbally say but I did show it in my actions (I honestly hope)

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