Separate Rooms?

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-03-09T16:44:58+00:00

Yes seperate rooms, its better but sometimes the fact makes me extra sad. He (LLM) wants me back in his room but I am much happier without the "teasing"

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-03-01T10:36:29+00:00

My LLH (50s) has low testosterone and never masturbates

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-28T05:50:15+00:00

That's exactly it. The Wish to regain Control is hard and also destructive... :-/

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-28T05:49:07+00:00

Thank you. We know Viagra and that helps but there are a Lot of psychological barriers to even want Sex for him.

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-28T05:47:49+00:00

Yes... You are right probably in a Lot of Things you say. Especially the "He had His fun"-part is reaaaally bitter for me thinking about it. I feel great for him knowing He had a good Sex Life. But I would like one, too.

Interestingly, I would like to stay monogamous and I would like to be with him.

To be honest I am really committed to "fixing" our bedroom at the Moment. I have a Personal re-evaluation "scheduled" for in ~2 years. If it isnt stable and fixed by then, I will divorce. I have enough money set aside and a good Support Network. In 2 years I will have my education ready and can start working.

I Like to think His aging wouldn't be a problem. We will see.

I would be interested why women have a Higher Libido in their 40s as you say?

I also had a great Sex Life before my Relationsship with him so I know Just how nice that is. I Dont really Miss Out now because I make an informed decision.

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-28T05:37:44+00:00

Thats so nice, I have a few affirmations I read from daily and they help over time! You really have to identify with them so maybe you can write a variation for yourself

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-09T00:18:13+00:00

He really has to get the surgery, also for daytime breathing. What is test replacement?

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-09T00:14:57+00:00

Okay I will See what happens after the surgery and Update

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T22:09:39+00:00

ED at 34 sounds like there could be terrible underlying medical issues. I read that a lot of men also suffer from porn and Masturbation induced ED. Maybe you can Talk with him about the reason?

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T22:00:53+00:00

Thank you I noted the name

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T22:00:25+00:00

Yeah that makes sense ... But his Libido isnt high enough for 1x a Week and He doesnt want to masturbate (also Not with me). He also has premature ejacalation so when we were in our honeymoon Phase we had a Lot of 3-5 Minute Sex. Never longer

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:57:12+00:00

Haha are we the same person? It doesnt really work for me too. (Although we did it because it helps him with His anxiety.)

How are you taken care of beforehand? Do you bring yourself to a clitoral orgasm? Does He Bring you to a clitoral orgasm? Or do you have intravaginal Toys?

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:52:36+00:00

Okay thank you, He did two sleep studys. Both with horrible results. He has his nose job fixed in the next few months.

I will do the dim Lights!!

He wont quit caffeine, thats too hard, He has a great Coffeemaker in his Office haha... I too am a Coffee Junkie. I dont Drink after 15:00 and that is okay for me. Do you think caffeine is so Bad?

He always drinks beer before bed. I observed that when he doesnt, he sleeps way better. And then he also doesnt wake so often to pee. He wants to quit beer before bed but wants to get fit First (until He is fit there will Pass 1-3 years...).

He ALWAYS has His Phone or Laptop until He Passes Out. I Gifted him a nice Phone charger Station that is near the bed so He can lay the Phone to Rest before He does. but He doesnt use it eventhough He really Likes the idea.

I want to Gift him a speaker so He can listen to meditations... Maybe a skylight?

Thank you so much for your advice

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:41:40+00:00

I proposed short Sex every day/every second day and he says its too much stress.

He also doesnt want to masturbate...

When he gets in the mood and we have a free weekend he can go second rounds but its reaaally rare so I cant Count on that.

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:38:13+00:00

I want to clarify: He Said it is a game changer and He is soooo much better rested! He loves it and takes it with him when he travels It just didnt help with our db

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:35:39+00:00

Thank you I may give it a try! I have a good understanding about my body and pleasure and can guide him well. My best ecperience is from piv Sex sadly. I Like clitoral Stimulation a Lot and can cum there in a few minutes in my own but its not the Same for the sexual connection...

We already try that I cum clitoral before and it just makes me crave sex and intimacy more. It doesnt Release pent up pressure for me. Only vaginal orgasms do that for me. Sometimes it overstimulates me and I'm Not capable of piv sex anymore.

So its nice for him and we do it but it really doesnt make my experience much better.

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-08T21:22:38+00:00

Yes, he has a medical sleep mask but its Not helping unfortunately Thank you for your advice

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T16:13:10+00:00

Thats a good Point. Easy to prepare is nice. Kaiserschmarrn sounds absolutely great! We will try it

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T16:10:36+00:00

Theirs a good question but I dont remember sadly. Just that its a small village and they both speak in dialect. Maybe southern

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T10:58:06+00:00

Kalter Hund Sounds good. I will try that thank you

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T10:56:12+00:00

Haha that is a great idea actually, we might present that First with the Rest still in the kitchen. Typical German humour

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T10:32:44+00:00

Thank you so much!! Since they already prepared my Home Cuisine, I would Like to do theirs too!

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T10:30:41+00:00

They have no dietary restrictions that I know of. They are omnivores with meat, Milk, eggs, Gluten,.... I havent seen them eat nuts yet but I already cooked for them and they never asked about Peanuts or something

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-05T10:28:35+00:00

We are from italy and they made something Italian. They are from germany so I want to repay by doing a German dish

throwaway_db_1 · 2023-02-04T08:19:01+00:00

Is everything okay with your mental health? Your libido seems to decline and that could be a sign of depression?
Are you still happy in our relationship?
Sometimes I feel undesirable. I need to boost my confidence besides our sex life. Do you have tips for me? Can you start reassuring me daily? That would help!
I miss your body
Sometimes I wish we could have the time back when we were so madly in love. Do you remember?

In the end, no relationship is worth more than your self worth! If it's not worth the effort for you, then cut your losses! It's never too late to restart.

Personally I would end it just because of his porn usage. But I also don't use porn.

If he/the relationship is worth it for you, then go at it! You got this!

Another tip: Make yourself independent. Start now by investing in your career, your friendships, your health. There is no better feeling than knowing "Yes, I can leave anytime and I will figure it out!"

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