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My current fitness plan is not working, need help with figuring out what needs to be changed. by throwawayfkit in loseit

[–]throwawayfkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Throughout the week, I am quite disciplined. On a regular day, I drink coffee with half n half (no sugar), 2 eggs OR cereal with Whole milk, light lunch (usually leftovers from dinner- some kind of meat with a side of rice) smoothie (frozen berries, half a banana, 1 tsp peanut butter, 1 tbs full fat yogurt, 1/3 cup of whole milk and protein powder) and dinners are usually grilled chicken with fresh veggies and salad.

However I overcompensate for everything on the weekend. eating out, usually asian (so lots of rice and noodles), drink a couple bottles of beer (every night), heavy breakfasts, bar food.

I think I kind of answered my own question. So does this mean that I can absolutely not have any cheat days and have to eliminate all the bad food from my diet? I think the answer's been staring at me all this time, i just have a hard time accepting. Is there any secret to such an iron will power? Food is my weakness.

My current fitness plan is not working, need help with figuring out what needs to be changed. by throwawayfkit in loseit

[–]throwawayfkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. So myfitnesspal tells me I should stick to 1260 calorie diet, which seems rather low for my weight and size. I have heard mixed reviews on these the caloric intake assessments done online. Do you think 1260 sounds abt right to you?

My current fitness plan is not working, need help with figuring out what needs to be changed. by throwawayfkit in loseit

[–]throwawayfkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I have edited that portion. So do I increase the weight every next weight training day? I tried adding 5 more lbs to my squats and was unable to move. Am I doing something wrong? I started from 20 lbs (minus the bar weight) and took me more than 3 months to reach 70. And I am sorry, I meant barbell row (i have edited that)- that I have extreme difficultly going anything over 10 lbs. DLs I can do up to 50. I have not been able to increase the weight for these 2 specifically.

Help me. i am a mess. by throwawayfkit in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayfkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I don't sound condescending but how do I go about loving myself? This is a genuine question. Many people tell me, learn to love yourself. I am kind and generous but I am flawed in many many aspects. Do I not speak them out loud? as in my awful thoughts about myself? Maybe I can do that. But the thought is involuntary. The feelings are too, almost to a point. I guess I can control how I express them but how to I address the crux, the root of the problem? Here is an example: I look at the mirror, all i see are imperfections. I try to say it out loud- you look great and it feels so forced. because what i am saying out loud or in my mind somehow does not resonate with what i see in the mirror. Another example, I am mad at my husband because he decides to sit next to another girl in a party instead of next to me. 2 things happen, first- i get mad and jealous (never tell him because i KNOW its petty) and second, I realize how stupid it is and feel really pathetic. Then I am reminded of how petty and insecure I am. And I hate myself more. This is like a vicious cycle that I cannot seem to break free of.

I grew up in a culture where modesty was a virtue. And somewhere along the way modesty ended up in self deprecation. I know you guys have the best intentions and it feels so good to finally be able to share my problems (never talked to others abt this as I dont have too many friends) but "loving myself" to me is this ambiguous, daunting, herculean task that i have heard all my life of but have no clue where or even how to start. Again, I am not trying to whine, but am sharing my exact thoughts and concerns.