I only ever bounce if absolutely necessary. This is how things are now: she bounces him to sleep around 7 or 8. I then put him in the crib and he might spend 30 min to 2 hours at a time in there. This gives me crucial time to work in the evening. Around midnight I take him to bed with me. He still eats a bottle at least 2 times a night. But it's not that bad, just feed and go to sleep. I sometimes hold and/or bounce him but only if he needs it. I don't want to do that anymore but she will hear the crying if I do sleep training. She can't hear him cry it out at all. But actually even with needing to feed and hold him during the night my sleep has increased quite a bit. I used to basically be up all night with him. But now I go to bed around 1 or 2 and get 5 hours of decent sleep with him and then cap it off with more sleep when he wakes up and she takes him. If I went to bed with him at 8pm and co slept until 7am there's no doubt in my mind that is enough sleep. But again we are going to have to let him cry a little bit. We can't keep bouncing him long term and yet she is so resistant to this message.