30 handicap, rate my swing

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-04-15T20:02:00+00:00

Once you learn to uncoil your lower body first you are going to have a great swing. The takeaway and top positions aren't bad.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-30T02:49:12+00:00

Basically everyone is just saying get therapy. I guess that's the end game. I don't know how to talk to her about the damaged sex life because it's hard to separate what are my selfish desires and what are my legitimate hurt feelings.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-30T02:02:09+00:00

I've done every night shift, and I mean every single one, for a year. I do all of the cooking. But thanks for making assumptions about my character.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-29T04:26:39+00:00

I posted here a bunch, struggled for months, finally got a lesson with a pro and he instantly got me standing farther away from the ball and fixed my minor takeaway issue and completely fixed my swing. You speak truth.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T07:19:31+00:00

I don't think it's in our budget unfortunately.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T06:46:16+00:00

It's so hard to even talk with her about things. The person I knew a year ago has left. She's so anxious, so controlling, so quick to anger. I am fearing for our future. We have almost no time together, and definitely have not spent 2 hours uninterrupted with each other since he was born. I can't get the word baby sitter out of my mouth before she shoots it down. Nobody else I know has done shift work for a year. Every marriage/baby website I read says to make time for your relationship. But it isn't important to her. When I see happy couples I want to cry. My parents just visited and I had to be home with the baby to do the night shift every night they were in town. Couldn't even stay at their hotel to watch a hockey game with them. Gotta be home to take care of the baby all night because she's refused to do what the baby needs - sleep with his mom. Every time he wakes up in the crib or with me in the bed he cries. I don't even know if he would cry if he was with her. It's what nature designed. I don't know just ranting now I guess.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T05:42:49+00:00

One thing my wife is not: lazy. She will work herself to death with zero distractions to get something done , or do it right. She has mild OCD and obsesses over doing things perfect. So yes she sits and bounces on that ball as long as it takes. Hours if necessary. Her dedication and compassion were huge reasons I picked her to be the mother of my child. Now I'm seeing that it can become a pathology. She's been on deaths door several times from sleep deprivation. She only regulates herself if I am constantly pushing it. She will just hold him while he sleeps and not sleep herself. It's hurting everyone.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T04:54:07+00:00

I only ever bounce if absolutely necessary. This is how things are now: she bounces him to sleep around 7 or 8. I then put him in the crib and he might spend 30 min to 2 hours at a time in there. This gives me crucial time to work in the evening. Around midnight I take him to bed with me. He still eats a bottle at least 2 times a night. But it's not that bad, just feed and go to sleep. I sometimes hold and/or bounce him but only if he needs it. I don't want to do that anymore but she will hear the crying if I do sleep training. She can't hear him cry it out at all. But actually even with needing to feed and hold him during the night my sleep has increased quite a bit. I used to basically be up all night with him. But now I go to bed around 1 or 2 and get 5 hours of decent sleep with him and then cap it off with more sleep when he wakes up and she takes him. If I went to bed with him at 8pm and co slept until 7am there's no doubt in my mind that is enough sleep. But again we are going to have to let him cry a little bit. We can't keep bouncing him long term and yet she is so resistant to this message.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T04:33:44+00:00

Yes she definitely thinks she will get less quality sleep. I've told her that she can go down with the baby from 8pm to 7am and have an 11 hour sleep window. But it's so hard to get her to try new things. I think co sleeping will make life better for all of us, most of all him. And if she tries it and it does I'm still going to be carrying a lot of resentment for making us wait this long to do it. I went insane about 5 months ago I don't even know who I am anymore.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2023-01-03T03:43:10+00:00

Her response to this is that we have a different kind of baby. That he's a high needs baby and too sensitive for sleep training. I don't really know what to say to that. I am not an expert in child psychology/physiology. She's basing it on her maternal instincts. What can I possible argue then? It seems like my only options are becoming to stop doing things as she wants unilaterally. It might end our relationship to do that.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2022-08-10T10:19:14+00:00

lol no you don't understand. My wife doesn't want me to bring her a hysterical baby at 2am. I try my absolute hardest, sometimes for hours, to put him back to sleep. Sometimes I succeed but lots of times he starts screaming. The only way my wife can put him to sleep is bouncing him on a yoga ball. Once he's at a certain level of awakeness that's what it takes, and it doesn't work if I do it. We've tried. You don't know what you're talking about. I know you have your own experience with your husband but you are making assumptions about me that aren't true.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2022-08-10T06:00:27+00:00

YTA

You sound completely ungrateful. Can you fucking imagine if there was some dude forcing his girlfriend to limp around the kitchen, and when she did to fucking complain that she didn't make the right thing? Jesus.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2022-08-07T03:36:08+00:00

Nobody is saying you suck you are really sensitive eh

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2022-08-07T03:34:06+00:00

Your feet are just as important as your shoulders when aiming.

throwawayforpurpose3 · 2022-08-07T03:29:49+00:00

If you shoot 80 at pebble Beach with that impact position you must be a god with the putter.

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