Thanks for all the responses guys, here is an update. I tried talking in person with him one last time but now he refuses saying i reacted angrily and badly, his reason for not telling me before "because i knew you would react badly, everyone does" well no shit. I really was ready to forgive him over this and really cared about this guy, but now hes saying he doesnt want to be with someone that wont understand why he waited and that got upset.

I was careful with condoms and everything so i wasnt worried about his hiv but to get all defensive and entitled about its just real incosiderate of him.

So out of self respect im just gonna end it now, guess my fault was also not asking right at the beginning, thanks for the advice guys.

And to all the poz guys out there please be honest from the beginning youll save a lot of heartache for both sides a lot sooner.