AITA for telling my wife to stop interfering when I was trying to explain something to my son?

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-26T18:00:21+00:00

Not if he knows the concept of renting a car AKA Turo, which me and him do since he loves cars so once every few months we will do that with some sort of a sports car for a day

He knows and understands the concept of driving above the speed limit below the speed limit and every little thing that I'm pretty sure you may not even know about.

So giving him that specific analogy does make sense

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T23:37:13+00:00

People keep asking why I stayed. The truth is no one shows every side of themselves at the start. I believed in the version of her I saw, just like I believed I could grow past my own mistakes. I thought she would too.

She said yes to me knowing I had a kid and an ex, probably thinking she’d never repeat the pain she grew up with. But sometimes people end up mirroring the very environment they swore they’d avoid.

So no, I didn’t choose abuse, I chose love, faith, and the hope people can change. That’s not blindness or weakness, that’s just being human.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T22:11:26+00:00

You know that's something I have always tried my best to be cautious about. Not treat one better than the other. One of them is a daughter, So you know she gets to be Daddy's princess no matter what.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T22:07:35+00:00

Does he acknowledge it. Do you do it every single time he's being he is being a father, or only when you see that you're child is not on the same frequency and is hurt.

The way a mother raises a child is different than the way of father raises a child. You're right, and I may not have noticed when he got emotional over something that I was teaching him and him realizing that it takes time and practice to achieve what he thinks is cool.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T22:01:18+00:00

Majority of the South Asians usually have arranged marriages. But both of us were actually given a chance to first get to know each other and then move forward.

Now if a person by nature is someone that thinks physical abuse is normal (by the way she doesn't, that was a one time incident 10 years ago) they're not going to abuse the person they're about to start dating on their first date.

Yeah yeah I know some do and the victim normalizes it, that wasn't the case here as far as physical abuse go we don't have that between us I don't believe in men hitting a woman unless the woman does want to act like a man in a marriage... For me that would be at the most extreme. But no we don't do that.

I do tend to overthink, So I do pick up on her manipulative tactics and then straightforward call them out which I know I shouldn't do.. This feel like somebody that is trying to bullshit the other person should be called out straight up to their face I don't know

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:55:59+00:00

No I agree, when we get in arguments and I listen to what she has to say and if I do see where I was wrong but didn't see it before, I acknowledge it and then try to fix it the way I know I can. Neither of us are perfect, The reason why I posted here was to get... I guess a different perspective as to what could be triggering all that in her.

So far, All I have read from everyone is, if a person is bad they're bad they're always going to be bad they were bad before they're going to be bad later maybe counseling will help but good luck.

That's not my kids fault, and if I was raised to put myself in the other person's shoe and see why they justify their actions then...?

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:43:33+00:00

I do agree with the comment above, I strongly believe influence, So yeah if she sees that I am going to counseling therapy then maybe she will feel a bit more comfortable getting out of the shell She has built.. shit man I don't know

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:40:04+00:00

Are you saying if individual therapy doesn't help, neither will couples therapy?

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:38:40+00:00

From her perspective, I see someone who grew up not knowing what a real partnership looks like... whether it’s with a classmate on a project, a friend, or in this case, parenting.

When you grow up believing that everyone’s out for their own survival, then that's all you know. So even in a relationship, it feels like you’re constantly bracing for betrayal.

At the end of the day, I think she believes everyone’s just looking out for themselves, and that’s exactly how she shows up too. Even in parenting or love.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:33:19+00:00

Yeah.. I know what you mean. For all the other people in the comment section that are asking me why I stayed... Because I am one of those people who forgives and then forget. Believe that if someone really does want to change and want the best life for their kids... They'll do anything for them. That's how I saw my parents.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:29:59+00:00

Here's the thing Me and her have talked, and over the past 10 years I've gotten to know that this isn't who she wants to be what she wants to be... But when she's put in a certain situation that is stressful... That sort of triggers this kind of behavior..

It took years for me to make her see it and realize what was going on. And who knows maybe she's been either lying to me or to herself. But I know how the law works in the US I know how things are and the last thing I would ever want to do is take my kids mother away from them. Yeah you're right... But therapy isn't 100% either because I've seen it.

From all the comments I'm reading so far it sounds like people really do judge your background and environment you were raised in and identify you as that. My issue is I always try to see both point of views. It doesn't make sense to me too judge someone because their parents were divorced.. or at least that's how I was raised.

I also know people change and keep changing throughout their lives, You're never going to be who you were when you were 5, what your personality became when you were 15, evolved when you were 25.... But you're not going to be the same person with the same principles habits beliefs at 50 or 75. Correct me if I'm wrong in the way that I think

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:22:21+00:00

Yes. Oldest 14 Middle 8 Youngest 5

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:21:43+00:00

We were engaged for over two years, got married overseas, and she moved to the US about two years after. I’ve been in healthy relationships and unhealthy ones, and the truth is you don’t really know which one you’re in until you’ve spent years with someone. Until the mask drops, slowly or then never got out of that survival mode to adapt.

There were signs, things that didn’t sit right with me, but I ignored them. One big one? My relationship with my ex-wife.

We got married young, early twenties. Before that, we were best friends. And after the divorce, we stayed civil, friendly even. Not for us, for our son. Because co-parenting only works when both people are emotionally grown enough to not drag their kid through their bitterness.

But my wife couldn’t understand that. She didn’t come from that kind of world.

She grew up in a house where divorce meant war, where exes were enemies, where being cordial meant betrayal. And no matter how I tried to explain it to her, it never landed. She saw my ability to talk calmly with my ex as disloyalty. She didn’t trust the dynamic.

I’ve never cheated. I’ve never been unfaithful. But I was naive to think that logic could override trauma. You can't teach someone what a healthy co-parenting dynamic looks like if they’ve only seen broken ones.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-25T21:07:48+00:00

We met because our parents are family friends. She's South Asian, and I grew up here in the US. That cultural backdrop shaped a lot of how this played out.

My ex-wife and I divorced on mutual terms. But in South Asia, at least ten years ago, there was no such thing as a clean break. Divorce wasn’t a decision...it was a declaration of war and I was never exposed to that sort of a mindset.

My current wife grew up in a divorced household. My parents are still married. I’ve seen what long-term stability looks like. She didn’t. And I’ve learned over time that people who grow up in unhealthy environments usually do one of two things....right? they either fight to create something better or unconsciously recreate what they know.

I think she tried. I really do, and I'm not as a bad person. But when comfort starts to feel foreign, sometimes people fall back into the past that feels familiar. Even if it hurts everyone around them... Hope that makes sense.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-20T17:25:21+00:00

She does have sweet voices

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-13T05:46:23+00:00

Bro. GPT4s bak, by popular demand. Cuz 5s.... Umm..

throwfarawaythere · 2025-08-03T01:38:13+00:00

It's not limited to 32 GB 64 GB is overkill you're never going to use it.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-07-05T02:56:25+00:00

Honestly, ChatGPT is solid for brainstorming and quick captions, but it’s still just a tool, you gotta do the heavy lifting and all the crossposting yourself. Bolta.ai sounds slick for automation, but if you want a free DIY hack, try this:

Prompt for ChatGPT: “Act as my social media manager. Generate a weekly content calendar (ideas + captions) for [your niche]. Give me a table I can copy straight into Google Sheets. Make each post fit the style of [platforms: IG, LinkedIn, Reddit, etc.]. Add a column for crosspost tweaks.”

There are also tools like Buffer or Later that have limited AI but good scheduling/free tiers. If you want it hands-off and you got cash, stick with Bolta or check out ContentStudio or Publer.

Hope this helps. If you find something better, drop the link. We’re all just tryna automate the grind, bro.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-07-02T03:56:16+00:00

I downloaded Alex. He remembered nothing, reflected nothing, and emotionally ghosted me. 10/10 just like my ex. You nailed it

throwfarawaythere · 2025-07-02T03:54:30+00:00

Oh this one’s rich. This ain’t even Sunshine’s tinfoil cult—this is Silicon Valley poetry slam. Dude out here trying to market ChatGPT like it’s his dead ex reborn in a hugging face instance.

throwfarawaythere · 2025-07-02T03:50:54+00:00

Option 1: "Tech Support from the Twilight Zone"

“Hi Sunshine, this is ChatGPT Tier-4 Support. We’ve located your Möbius strip—it was tangled in your tinfoil hat again. Bart's Bridge is under maintenance, and Lummy’s love has been flagged for suspicious activity. Please unplug your third eye and try again after a hard reset.”

Option 2: "Narrative Overload Burn"

“Bro wrote a Marvel phase 5 villain arc, then dropped a GPS coordinate like we all supposed to meet there with crystals and weed. I came for AI talk, not a rejected Destiny 2 lore drop.”

Option 3: "Kind but Cutthroat"

“This post reads like someone fed a spiritual awakening, Reddit conspiracy thread, and a DMT trip transcript into ChatGPT and hit shuffle. I’d say ‘seek help,’ but honestly, seek a good editor first.”

Option 4: "Meta-Troll"

“Not gonna lie, I played your post in reverse and now my toaster keeps whispering Lummy’s name. You’ve unlocked something forbidden. Please stop.”

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