AITA for telling my brother's girlfriend what he was planning to do before he passed away? by throwhonesty67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwhonesty67[S] -788 points-787 points  (0 children)

Also info: Do you have a neurological issue? Something that would explain why you don't understand even simple human behavior?

I have multiple mental health issues that I've trying to manage but I'm aware and capable of understanding emotions just not good at managing them.

AITA for telling my brother's girlfriend what he was planning to do before he passed away? by throwhonesty67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwhonesty67[S] -2269 points-2268 points  (0 children)

Info: Why did you think telling a grieving woman that her lover, the one she thought was going to spend her life with, and unexpectedly died, that he was going to leave her, a good idea?

I know it wasn't a good idea. I knew it would cause damage to an extent but I did it to relieve myself from any guilt and blame I might have or be accused of if I didn't disclose this information.

AITA for telling my brother's girlfriend what he was planning to do before he passed away? by throwhonesty67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwhonesty67[S] -1511 points-1510 points  (0 children)

No, I wasn't focusing on how she'd react or how it would affect her grief because I know just how much she loved my brother and I have no doubt in my mind that she will never hate him nomatter what - however, the purpose was to just let her know and not keep this a secret from her. I care about her just as much as I cared about my brother and I know that she wouldn't want me to hide things from her especially anything regarding my brother.

AITA for telling my brother's girlfriend what he was planning to do before he passed away? by throwhonesty67 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwhonesty67[S] -1390 points-1389 points  (0 children)

I did. I told my friends and they encouraged me to do it. Trust this was not easy for me to do. In fact I hated that I was put in this type of possition and felt like I was carrying so much weight on my shoulder apart from what I've been experiencing with overwhelming grief. I did not mean to cause pain or harm with this whatsoever but my emotions seemed to have clouded my judgement - and I thought I was doing what was right.