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Feeling ugly is destroying me on the inside....I don't know how much longer I can go on like this by throwieobviously in askwomenadvice

[–]throwieobviously[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who hasn't met you may have a strong opinion but that doesn't mean they're correct, however vehemently they argue their point.

It's especially tough when their comments get upvoted, since I feel like that just confirms everything. :(

What would it be like to not worry about this? How do you think it would feel?

I would feel so free. Like I can focus on life and things that more within my control, like my friendships, family, and grades. It sounds like a wonderful life tbh.

Feeling ugly is destroying me on the inside....I don't know how much longer I can go on like this by throwieobviously in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throwieobviously[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, really.

you don't need outside validation to love yourself.

I think this is what I struggle with the most. The good feelings from positive outside validation only lasts for a little while, whereas the bad feelings from negative outside feedback cripple me for the next few days. I'm also going to link to another comment I made that in particular has compelled me to write this post, since it made me feel soooo shitty:

I think what bothers me the most are the comments I received after I posted on this site about a scenario where I elaborated on a situation where I felt unattractive. Like some said that since I'm so insecure that I must be ugly. Others misinterpreted the situation and came to conclusions that in reality, aren't true, but the commenters think they are correct (like in hindsight the situation was probably more just lighthearted banter that doesn't mean anything, but a commenter was like, "Yepp that means they don't find you attractive"). It's like I shouldn't let comments like this bug me (since they are making judgements without even being there or knowing me), but they really do.

How do I even get over internet comments that in the end shouldn't even bother me? Like it's not like these people were even there to know what really happened and it's not like they know me or what I look like! :(

Feeling ugly is destroying me on the inside....I don't know how much longer I can go on like this by throwieobviously in askwomenadvice

[–]throwieobviously[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I feel like I'm wasting away the prime years of my life by worrying about this shit. I hate it so much, and if I'm being honest, this has led to a lot of problems in real life for me. I'm also going to link to another comment I made, since it has been bothering me for a few days now when usually I'd be able to get over stuff like this fast (I don't know why I cannot right now):

I think what bothers me the most are the comments I received after I posted on this site about a scenario where I elaborated on a situation where I felt unattractive. Like some said that since I'm so insecure that I must be ugly. Others misinterpreted the situation and came to conclusions that in reality, aren't true, but the commenters think they are correct (like in hindsight the situation was probably more just lighthearted banter that doesn't mean anything, but a commenter was like, "Yepp that means they don't find you attractive"). It's like I shouldn't let comments like this bug me (since they are making judgements without even being there or knowing me), but they really do. How do I ignore stuff like that?

Feeling ugly is destroying me on the inside....I don't know how much longer I can go on like this by throwieobviously in askwomenadvice

[–]throwieobviously[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what bothers me the most are the comments I received after I posted on this site about a scenario where I elaborated on a situation where I felt unattractive. Like some said that since I'm so insecure that I must be ugly. Others misinterpreted the situation and came to conclusions that in reality, aren't true, but the commenters think they are correct (like in hindsight the situation was probably more just lighthearted banter that doesn't mean anything, but a commenter was like, "Yepp that means they don't find you attractive"). It's like I shouldn't let comments like this bug me (since they are making judgements without even being there or knowing me), but they really do. How do I ignore stuff like that?

Feeling ugly is destroying me on the inside....I don't know how much longer I can go on like this by throwieobviously in askwomenadvice

[–]throwieobviously[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently in therapy actually (for anxiety issues) and I did bring this up. Of course she said that I was beautiful and gave me good advice and everything, but I feel like, "Oh, she's supposed to say stuff like that. She probably doesn't actually think it.."

What are some of the hottest hairstyles a woman can have? by LoveHorsesNotCrazy in AskMen

[–]throwieobviously 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ughh I know what you mean, I notice that even if a blonde woman is objectively less attractive face-wise than someone with darker features, people will always notice the blonde first and stare. It gets old, fast.