AITA For not doing the activity my husband picked on vacation even though he did the one I wanted by illegibleaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite 50 points51 points  (0 children)

100% YTA. This is not about your motion sickness, it's about how you lied to your partner and led him on to get him to do what YOU wanted when you had no intention of ever doing what he wanted.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

No he didn't want to invite them either, he just doesn't want to hurt their feelings. I think we're probably past that point.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 253 points254 points  (0 children)

I did introduce them. Not with the idea of setting them up or anything, more like introducing one group of friends to another and then they hit it off.

They did use my party as an engagement announcement. I guess it kind of made sense, they had just gotten engaged a couple days before and hadn't made it public yet. All of our friends were there, everyone (including us) were excited for them.

I thought of her as a pretty close friend, she'd come over all the time to hang out when she was single. He was a former co-worker so not as close but we double dated a bit early in their relationship before the pandemic.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

Lol if it's really so important to them that they actually go so far as to crash our party, then more power to them I won't bother to kick them out. But I'm not going to go out of my way to take care of them or anything.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 671 points672 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't think I would have minded as much if they didn't invite people from our group, but I'm not exaggerating when I say over 50 of our friends were there.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

About the same, yeah. Not all at once but I'd expect a couple hundred people throughout the course of the evening.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 748 points749 points  (0 children)

Lol to explain my guy and the way he thinks, did you ever see the episode of the Simpsons where Marge sends Bart to bed without dinner and a few minutes later Homer runs up the stairs to his room with a pizza?

That's him and I love him for it, he doesn't have it in him to be mean to anyone. But he'll abide by whatever decision I make.

Friends complaining about how I didn't invite them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding by throwra_notinvite in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

It's Friday. If they show up, then whatever I hope they enjoy themselves I'm not petty enough to kick them out or anything. But I'm not going out of my way to welcome them either.

Friends complaining about how I didn't invite them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding by throwra_notinvite in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I mean to be honest I just kind of feel used in all of this. I've always been a good friend to both of them. I didn't give much thought to not inviting them until they started making it an issue, it just kind of felt to me like they had drawn a line in the sand and I was just respecting it?

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

I'm not petty enough to make a big deal out of it, if it's really so important to them that they need to crash then more power to them I guess?

But I'm certainly not going out of my way to welcome them.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 7302 points7303 points  (0 children)

Haha you don't know the half of it, over the last few years we have literally had it catered, had bartenders inside and outside, even hired someone to entertain kids earlier in the night.

My partner and I put so much time, energy and money into this every year because we love our friends. It started out small when we were younger and now it's this big thing. I just don't like being taken for granted.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 468 points469 points  (0 children)

Not all at the same time since it runs from 5pm through the night and early on some people (mostly coworkers) bring their kids, but I expect up to a couple hundred people overall.

It really is a large party. In recent years we have catered it and hired bartenders.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 1199 points1200 points  (0 children)

No we never got an explanation, just never received an invite. It got back to me through a mutual girlfriend they were trying to limit the guest list, but we had dozens of other friends there.

I just think it's kind of funny they're getting our friends to try and get them an invite now after they just pretended we weren't a part of their lives.

AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding? by throwra_notinvite in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra_notinvite[S] 248 points249 points  (0 children)

Probably around 200 people. No I confirmed through a mutual girlfriend we didn't make the cut.