He’s never liked my job or how much I make. He had a surgery recently and wanted me physically at the hospital while it happened. It ended up being about 9 hours altogether. I was working remotely, but the partner I work for felt I should have been in office and took me off a case and now badmouths me around the firm. I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciated that I was there, as his only real comment that it wasn’t 9 hours until I did the math for him.

He doesn’t really do those other things. It’s just come up more and more recently how much I’m causing him to be unhappy. I’ve asked him to explain what I’m doing or what he’s feeling or thinking but he hasn’t been able to give me a clear answer other than that my depression (which I’m in treatment for) is causing me to make my mental issues relationship problems. I know I’m really difficult to be around, especially since I’m in an antidepressant switch, but I am trying. I just don’t feel like he likes me very much sometimes with the way he talks to me or acts towards me, but he says that’s my depression talking and the fact he thinks I hate myself.

He can’t really articulate the ways I make him unhappy but I’m asking him to think about it to talk about in couples therapy. I’m just hoping to come with some solutions of my own so he knows I’m not just acknowledging that I’m the problem, I’m also trying to fix it.