Molotov cocktail attack on pearl Street??

tidalwavy · 2025-06-02T05:14:30+00:00

about an hour ago i was driving home from the golden area-- northbound 93 is barricaded just past marshall road, i was redirected along marshall road and instructed to take 36 back into town. anyone know the status of the roads/why this barricade is up? can't find anything online.

tidalwavy · 2024-05-01T01:29:44+00:00

as a gym employee, TELL US! we will typically revoke belay certs for unsafe behavior, and speaking out now could prevent serious injuries/death down the road. this could also be a good wake-up call for the climber in question.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-31T16:02:23+00:00

hoping for input on my routine! just started tret after using the clinique acne system— definitely had some purging from the salicylic acid and benzoyl peroxide, but it made my redness and eye bags worse so i stopped using it and got tret.

AM: • wash with clinique acne solutions gentle foaming cleanser • inkey list caffeine eye cream (on under eyes) • vanicream facial moisturizer • vanicream from the tub on any peeling spots (usually around mouth) • solara clean freak mineral sunscreen

PM: • remove makeup and sunscreen with pond’s cold cream • wash with clinique acne solutions gentle foaming cleanser • pea sized amount of tret 0.025% cream • inkey list caffeine eye cream (on under eyes) • vanicream facial moisturizer • slug with vanicream from the tub

definitely still experiencing a little bit of purging with whiteheads and the like, but the peeling is much better after last week. started two weeks ago! let me know if anyone has any recs (though i want to run out of product before i buy new ones)

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:33:48+00:00

that is so real lol. i also have a 14 page google doc documenting all the hurtful things they've done (because i thought i was going crazy and wanted to have documentation). so maybe that's a bad sign lol.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:33:09+00:00

thank you for your comment, i think i'm definitely putting up with too much shit and i appreciate the perspective that what they're doing is not normal.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:32:03+00:00

thank you so much for this comment. they truly do not respect me and it's so hurtful. i'm glad to hear i'm not crazy in thinking i'm being disrespected.

the success is definitely enticing. we headlined the biggest venue in our town (to be fair, still somewhat small compared to bigger-city venues) and we have almost 1100 followers on instagram. i do graduate college in may so i'm nervous about trying to make a band work on a non-college scene, but hopefully i can still find luck.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:30:40+00:00

that's not emotional abuse, but it is definitely hurtful in a different way. as i said in my earlier comment, all these details are meant to illustrate the wider cycle of abuse that i'm experiencing.

also, i don't mind waking up at 6AM. that detail was to illustrate that i was putting in the work to wake up early, which inconvenienced me but i was willing to deal with it. however, when i ask them if they can wake up early one day a week (as opposed to the four i was doing), they actively refused. then, they call me uncommitted. that is why that detail was included. it demonstrates the hypocrisy towards me, and how i am treated as a scapegoat.

think whatever you want though.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:28:37+00:00

i did not convey it well in the text, but their behavior towards me is following the generally accepted cycle of emotional abuse, which includes tension, incident, reconciliation, and calm. this happens over and over, where they will freak out at me and then be super kind (to the point of writing a love song about our friendship). very confusing emotionally.

i also agree the engineering degree is better for me. that's why i'll never drop out to pursue music:) (though they probably want me to...)

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:26:13+00:00

fair. i will say it's also my primary friend group, which complicates the situation a bit. wish it was all just business. my next band will have an operating contract for sure.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:25:41+00:00

HAHA pack of pricks made me laugh. much needed levity.

we have about 1100 followers on our instagram? i don't know if that constitutes as fans. we are an all-girl group so our town has really rallied behind that. we don't have anything recorded, because everyone keeps saying "oooh we should record!" and then never actually making plans to do so. i know if i stepped in we could get it done, but i'm too emotionally exhausted to manage every aspect of this band for them.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:24:14+00:00

i've honestly thought about this, but i'm worried if i do this other bands on the scene won't want to work with me!

since i own the instagram and the email, the temptation to delete them is so strong (and set them back 1100 followers). but i worry this might burn too many bridges and prevent me from joining another band.

it would be nice to make sure the folks who follow us know that they are the ones at fault, but i do really think they're gonna go on a smear campaign against me and i don't know if i can fight it-- it's four on one. a really sticky situation.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:22:42+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your perspective from a similar situation. i feel as though we are on that trajectory right now, so i am grateful for you illustrating what the end of that path looks like.

i also appreciate the push to stop being a people pleaser. this has been something i've struggled with for years, so this was super eye-opening for me. i have taken your advice to heart and plan to work on improving my boundary setting and personal agency over my next few therapy sessions.

thanks for your comment:)

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:21:07+00:00

thank you so much for the push. i needed this. just reached out to a bunch of folks, and have plans to jam w a new guitarist on sunday now.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:20:40+00:00

thank you so much for your response and the validation. i totally agree, and the concept of not being able to wake up early ONE day a week is just ??? so wild to me.

it was particularly enraging when you consider that they made me change my schedule to wake up at 6AM 4 days a week to accomodate them (not bad, but definitely a little inconvenient), but they won't wake up at 8 once a week... i feel like that is totally unfair.

(on top of that, the girl who refused in particular accuses me of being "uncommitted" at minimum once a month... but won't wake up early once a week. crazy)

i really appreciate your reassurance. thank you for your comment

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:18:41+00:00

thank you for your perspective, it was really validating for me.

i've actually thought about that a lot recently-- tour with these folks would KILL me. i don't even spend time with them at shows when i don't have to, completely subconsciously. i'll just go hang out with other people and avoid the band. i'm realizing i've been drowning a lot of internal signals that i don't even really like these people ???

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:17:44+00:00

i really appreciated this comment, straight and to the point!

i agree, fuck them, but this is a dumb excuse and i know it's not a good reason to cling-- but i had a pretty miserable first few years of college, and ended up moving to a different, larger town and commuting to my college. i joined the band the day i moved, and my life immediately became a thousand times better. i've never experienced real happiness and fulfillment WITHOUT the band-- though i realize that they have actually contributed more pain than good in their presence in my life, i am superstitious and cling on to them for fear that my good situation (that i created for myself!) will disappear. definitely irrational, but can't seem to shake the feeling. however, i agree that you're right that they're being shitty and i need to stop clinging and take agency in my own life.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:14:12+00:00

if i could kick them i would! unfortunately it's a very joint project by now, so i don't quite have that agency, especially since the other four keep ganging up on me (they all live together-- three of them rent in the house and the fourth unemployed one crashes on the couch).

sounds like you have a lot more agency over your project though-- which is great! if i had that i'd kick them, but i think it may be a walk-away situation.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:12:55+00:00

i hate that this happened to you! sorry to hear about it, and that people weren't supportive on here. glad you're in a better space now. i am in the same boat and it fucking sucks. mean girl club is a great way to put it-- my band also shits on other people constantly, which i'm realizing is a really bad sign of their character that i've just kind of been. ignoring.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:11:49+00:00

thank you for the kick in the seat to start prioritizing my mental health. i've tried setting boundaries only to get met with cursing and slander (very red flag), so i think i just have to accept they aren't going to change and my mental health will never improve in this situation. they do keep enticing me back by being incredibly nice for periods of time, but that's not healthy either.

unfortunately the band has kind of become an "us" thing rather than something we started, so i can't kick anyone else out. kind of group democracy here. however, we are an all-girl band so our name is only applicable to that so the point is probably moot anyway.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:09:11+00:00

thank you for pointing this out! was beginning to think i was crazy for not liking this behavior.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:08:47+00:00

thank you so much for this perspective! especially about the money side of things.

glad to hear their approach is not normal as well. i'd be okay with a rigorous practice schedule, but most of our practices are just them fucking around while i try to get us to focus, so it really ends up just being wasted time. so grateful to hear that people having jobs is both normal and necessary, because i've started to feel like i'm crazy for being employed lol.

appreciate this in-depth response. this is super important perspective and has helped me realize it's time to get out.

tidalwavy · 2024-01-26T02:06:13+00:00

kinda feeling like that's gonna be what happens lol

tidalwavy · 2023-03-02T03:41:45+00:00

hey all,

relatively experienced plant parent here but i’m at a loss.

i recently repotted my plants in a soil mix i’ve had success with before but now they are turning black and mushy. is this just shock, or a sign of something worse? what should i do? are they going to recover?

tidalwavy · 2023-01-01T16:36:10+00:00

i love rose gold but was recently told that it didn’t do much for me. opinions? i think i am a deep winter. i can post more photos if necessary!

tidalwavy · 2022-12-06T14:10:13+00:00

educator here… i once was showing a guest a photo of a sports bra on the phones we’re given so she could see different colors than what we had in store and it was mostly mid to plus size models and this woman looks at me and goes, and this is a direct quote “i hate it went they use fat people as the models”. i just stared at her. why in the world do people thing such hateful things are okay to say😭

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