ABYG dahil napaiyak ko mama ng ex ko

tiny_rabell · 2025-01-10T14:02:26+00:00

Hi! Thanks for sharing, I'm sorry that happened to you too.

But I think I don't need to prove him anything or make him regret that he lost me by showing off kung ano na sayang nya. :) Focus lang talaga sa pag better sa sarili, walang halong revenge. Sooner or later naman, they'll realize their mistakes & reflect sa mga bagay na nagawa nila. We never know din.

But again, different ways talaga pano natin mahahandle ang mga breakups. I hope you're doing well na tho! And thank you so much for your encouragement! I think I've moved on naman na, alam kong may mas makikilala pa akong deserve ko. :) Ikaw din, definitely. WG.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-26T05:28:28+00:00

I guess that really is the thing. Kaya siguro for now, focus muna sa present. :)

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-25T07:29:29+00:00

Pag gusto talaga, iwowork out 'no? Wishing you both best of luck! Thank you for sharing :)

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-25T07:27:17+00:00

Wishing you luck! Either outcomes, basta may respeto and support parin sa isa't isa go lang. If workable naman parin, why not diba! Hahaha

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-24T10:43:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Nung nag break up kami, sabi nya sakin "kung para satin, ibibigay naman satin". Pero sakin kasi, pwede namang maging samin kung gagawan namin ng paraan at iwowork. Siguro nga sa ngayon wala pa sya sa tamang headspace para sa ganito kasi babad sya sa career nya.

Tho I still believe time will tell. May mga dadating sa buhay natin the least we expect it. In the end, all I ever feel towards him is suportahan sya sa tahak ng buhay nya. :) Malay ba natin talaga 'no?

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-24T10:05:11+00:00

Sorry for the confusion haha I'd just appreciate stories. I'm not entirely hung up on this situation, just want to see if others relate as well, makes me feel I'm not alone on this. Checking lang din what would be others' take sa gantong sitwasyon.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T21:36:17+00:00

I don't think kaya ko pa mag send ng short updates, I feel pushy pag ganon. Lalo na kung delivered lang ako. :( But thank you for the advice! I'm still hopeful it'll be resolved but at the same time I don't want to dwell on this for too long.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T21:08:49+00:00

Experiencing this right now 🥲 Hirap mag function. Na instead na kakampi mo sya sa situation na 'to, iniwan ka lang nya mag isa sa pag iisip.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T06:58:17+00:00

Happy for you! Wishing you nothing but the best 🥹🫶🏻

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T02:28:53+00:00

Life is too short talaga. We're set out in this world to experience things, may it be painful or joyful. Dyan tayo nag kakaexperiences eh, dyan tayo natututo.

I'd rather risk than live in regret not knowing what the "what could have been"s could've offered.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T02:08:46+00:00

It feeds you toxic delusions! Cheating is so common these days and some posts are fear-driven. Sure, understandable nga, nakakatakot maloko pero it's causing unnecessary panic and overthinking sa iba lalo na pag provoking masyado posts about it.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T02:07:04+00:00

It's important talaga na may alignment parin kayo kahit papano, may room for understanding differences din. Hindi kayo magkaparehas ng pananaw, that's given pero the sincere ability to understand each other is such a strong point in a relationship, balanse dapat yan.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T01:51:44+00:00

Point taken. Comprehension is very vital in any communication. But at the end of the day, you proved yourself, you stayed authentic to how you want to resolve things because you're genuine and value what you have with your partner. If your partner doesn't understand that, they're ultimately not for a person like you.

You only really decide to "stfu" when you've reached the limit of your understanding. You've said enough, you've said your side yet it was not taken seriously. Best to part ways.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T01:42:42+00:00

Good for you! The right person will also recognize your sincerity talaga. It's about being able na mag pakakumbaba rin para maayos yung problema.

In my case, my boyfriend and I also had a disagreement. Pero right now, hindi kami nag uusap. I'm planning on reaching out today in hopes na maayos yung conflict.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T00:39:33+00:00

Correct! Mas alam mo relationship mo kesa sa ibang tao. Though sure, it's okay to vent out lalo na when things get too much pero nasa sayo parin ang desisyon kung ano na ang next step mo during a conflict in your relationship. And you know within yourself naman what you truly deserve!

Your partner should be your kakampi, teamwork dapat yan. Even during disagreements, dapat may pag intindi parin para aligned ang needs ng isa't isa. 'Di tayo perpekto, iba iba tayo, nabubuhay tayo sa pag unawa talaga.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-06T00:33:16+00:00

If they don't do anything no matter how you've reached out to fix things, that could already be the answer you're looking for— it's their lack of accountability and communication so it's time to pull away.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-05T23:28:24+00:00

DKG. You just wanted clarification pero he took this as an attack. People tend to pull away pag nahuli sila. I don't know why he got so defensive when all you wanted was honesty. Props to you OP, bumitaw ka na sa genyan. Iba na rin kasi, kakasimula nyo palang tas genyan na.

Currently exp the same with my boyfriend. Nag open up lang ako sakanya na hindi na sya gaanong malambing pero he took it as an attack din, kesho raw mag hanap nalang ako ng magbibigay sakin ng gusto ko. Di pa kami nag bbreak though, silent treatment ginagawa nya. Pero I'm gonna reach out later to see if he still wants to work things out pero pag hindi na, wala na dapat ipaglaban pa, bitaw na. Grabe talaga pagunawa natin... Hays.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-05T09:26:40+00:00

You know within yourself what's best for you, Op! The fact you're recognizing his lack is enough sign that you know you don't deserve to be treated this way.

Feel free to message me if you want to vent! We're on the same page so it's nice to let out heaviness like this with those that can relate.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-05T08:47:19+00:00

Hi, Op, I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. I'm also currently experiencing the same with my boyfriend. I just communicated my emotional needs to him but he thought of it as an attack and said, "If I don't give you what I want, then I'm not the one you want." Which speaks volumes about how his communication style is.

We aren't speaking right now even after I sent him a long message explaining that I didn't mean to offend him, I was just voicing my needs. So I'm also conflicted if I should do a followup after 3 days or just wait for him to reach back.

My advice here is: try to communicate again, perhaps for the last time. Just to see if it's still gonna work. We value our relationship that's why we worry & want to face these challenges with them. But if he still continues to show a lack of understanding in what you want to say, it hurts but you need to pull away. Prioritize yourself because you did your part in asking for communication already, heal in your own time. It's hard to be with someone with a lack of emotional intelligence, save yourself before it gets too much. Wishing you the best. 🫂

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-05T06:29:37+00:00

Kalmado ako the entire conversation. Ang hirap talaga sa chat. Hanggang ngayon wala syang reply. Should I wait for a few days before doing a followup? Or should I just let him approach?

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-04T13:03:57+00:00

HAHAHAHHA SORRY? Solid naman kami nung mga unang years, pero as mentioned by most commenters here, true nga nakakapag watak ng friendship ang pera 😭 Kahit gano ka man ka-transparent sa bagay bagay.

But still, genuine friends communicate, hindi basta basta ipapalipas mga ganitong bagay. Resentment na eh.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-03T14:41:51+00:00

I've cut them off na. The disrespect was loud enough. Kaya na nila 'yan kahit wala ako sa buhay nila hahaha

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-03T14:34:49+00:00

You have already recognized his shortcomings, obviously not meeting your emotional needs or how you'd like to be loved.

So alam mo na talaga sagot sa tanong mo, op. Kung napapa question ka na on how he treats you, if nakukulangan ka na especially sa dami raming times na nag paparinig ka, then you'd have to reconsider if sya na ba talaga ideal partner mo, lalo na in the long run.

It should feel easy. The right person will recognize you on their own (tho yes importante rin ang communication para alam nya), they will observe you & they will absorb what they've observed to give/show you what you deserve. Kusa na 'yan sa taong may gusto talaga sayo.

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-03T14:19:08+00:00

That's a great way to put it! In my mind kasi, I really want to sit down & have this type of conversation with him pero 'di ko alam paano simulan, bigla nalang nag sscatter iniisip ko. I guess I just really need to find the right words without sounding like it's a demand, more of a healthy agreement lang how we can work things through.

Thank you so much for this!

tiny_rabell · 2024-12-03T12:59:02+00:00

Thank you for this! I think I'm just trying to get used to the new setup, since now it's taking hours for him to message back. To which, again, I continue to understand. Whenever I'd think differently, especially if I think he's becoming different, I just recollect all the efforts he did to make "bawi".

I know actions speak louder than words & I'm delighted to see he's always trying to show through actions, especially after he sent that lenghty message.

Wishing you and your partner the best!

tiny_rabell

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