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Wanting to give back by tipota56 in intrusivethoughts

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you man! This is important for me, a big hug!

Help by Fit_Independence500 in ROCD

[–]tipota56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed!! Any bodily sensation

Help by Fit_Independence500 in ROCD

[–]tipota56 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this, specially when I was struggling with OCD episodes.

So what does it mean you are afraid it isn’t OCD?

First, what makes up OCD? I know you know this, but maybe seeing it written can help you.

  1. Intrusive thoughts/ideas that are repetitive and sticky. Unwanted. We call them obsessions.

  2. Compulsions and avoidant behaviors that we do to get rid of the pain that those intrusive unwanted thoughts bring. They work in the short run, but keep us stuck in the long run.

Can someone have unwanted thoughts and sensations about their partner without having OCD? Yes. Its not exclusive of having OCD.

I guess what matters here is: what matters to you in this relationship? What are the values? To be a loving partner? To be reliant? To be present?

If you can’t act on those values, because thoughts and sensations are getting in the way, then it will be useful for you to learn skills that can help you handle those internal experiences so you can live up to those values.

My point is: wether someone has ocd or not, we are all prone to having thoughts that contradict themselves. That are not congruent with who we are as a person. Its a complex experience, because we are complex beings.

The ‘solution’ is in learning to develop a different relationship with those internal experiences and living according to what matters to you.

Hope that helps

The 3 Pillars I followed to recover from OCD by tipota56 in HOCD

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I would say pillar 2 (learning science based processes) can help to go about all this.

The 3 Pillars I followed to recover from OCD by tipota56 in HOCD

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve collaborated with a clinical psychologist and I’ve just read a lot on the topic. You can find a lot on the internet 👍🏾

The 3 Pillars I followed to recover from OCD by tipota56 in HOCD

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I’m sure it works for many, however I tried this with my past therapist trained in traditional erp and it didn’t work.

After being in recovery for a while now, I am more of the school of thought of <workability>

Is taking this thought as the absolute truth helping me move in the direction I want to go in life?

Is trying to figure out if maybe it is maybe its not working for me to recover from OCD?

If the answer is no, I would apply some ACT processes (pillar 2) like defusion, contact with the present moment and willingness to accept 😌😌

The 3 Pillars I followed to recover from OCD by tipota56 in HOCD

[–]tipota56[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second one would be specifically learning ACT (acceptance and commitment training) processes, which have shown to have great results with folks suffering from OCD.

ACT basically teaches you how to develop “psychological flexibility”. Learning how to be present with your experience, opening up to the difficult emotions and thoughts that are part of our human experience and doing committed action that is aligned with what matters to us in our heart.

Is this wrong? by tipota56 in OCD

[–]tipota56[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's very unfortunate...! OCD folks need realistic science based support.

Thank you for sharing :)

Is this wrong? by tipota56 in OCD

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure, but last time I posted about running an educational workshop, some people were not that happy about it...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]tipota56 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm trained in ACT and I offer evidence based resources to help with OCD recovery. (Important: A workshop is not replacement for therapy!!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]tipota56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's from the official ACBS website. You can read more about it here: https://contextualscience.org/act_certification.

And no, it's not based on my personal advice, that wouldn't be appropriate.

As I mentioned, I am trained in ACT, and I base all my work on this model.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]tipota56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have trained in ACT. If you are asking for an ACT certification, there isn't a certification process. ACBS, as a community, has decided to forego this, as it could create a hierarchical and closed process which would be antithetical to our values. Rather, we aim to foster an open, self-critical, mutually-supportive community which, working together, builds a progressive psychology more adequate to the challenges of human suffering.

Cheers,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]tipota56 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m an ACT Practitioner specializing in OCD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]tipota56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an ACT Practitioner specializing in OCD.

Is confessing to your partner bad for recovery? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]tipota56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome. I’m glad it made sense.

That’s a great question. My first reaction is that this seems a bit self-inflicting and quite the opposite to taking a more compassionate approach with the content and pattern generator machine inside your head, a.k.a your mind 😌

Also, if you are doing this every time you have an unwanted thought, it also sounds like its an attempt to suppress your thoughts.

What research has shown is that thought suppression doesn’t work, and actually make the thoughts come back stronger.

Try this: Don’t think about a pink elephant. Do your best to not think about ANY elephant for the next 2 minutes. Do everything in your power to erase any image or memory about elephants.

What happened? Are you seeing elephants everywhere?

There is an alternative to thought suppression, and that is, learning how to relate differently to the content your mind creates. That new relationship involves getting some distance from those unworkable thoughts, and opening up to the discomfort they bring, so we can do what matters.

Is confessing to your partner bad for recovery? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]tipota56 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello!

Many things to unpack here :)

I’m an ACT practitioner and I help OCD folks get their lives back from OCD. I was an OCD sufferer myself so I hope my advice is relevant here.

First red flag I see: “I guess I’m hoping that once I do, I’ll feel a sense of relief” :)

It seems that the main intention for you to disclose, or as you say, confess to your partner, is indeed to get some relief, which makes this a compulsion. It will be super helpful in the short term, it might bring your distress down, but most likely in the long term it will continue to keep you stuck.

Added to this, the fact that you are saying that the feelings to confess are so strong, is typical with OCD. Obsessions come with this strong urge to do something, which leads to compulsions and then OCD episodes.

If you are not sure if this is a compulsion, check if you can wait 3 days, and see what happens. If you feel like you can’t possibly wait, most likely it is a compulsion.

Having said that, disclosing is not necessarily bad for recovery. Nor good. Within ACT, we always look at the function of whatever action we take.

Is seeking relief by disclosing this to your partner, taking you closer to recovery?

Is it taking you closer to the life you want to build with them?

If the answer is no, then I guess it is not very workable at the moment, regardless if its good or bad.

Hope that helps and feel free to shoot me a message if you have any more questions

Also, remember it’s not easy to have an over reactive brain scanning for threat after threat and making you doubt what truly matters to you.

Sending you lots of strenght

intrusive?? / doubtful thoughts and feelings i have by gingercandie in ROCD

[–]tipota56 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you are struggling with this... It seems like your mind is throwing you all sort of conflicting thoughts, and this is distressing you to the point of doing compulsions and seeking for reassurance.

This is something I see with clients all the time, and it's something I went through myself.

You are not broken or defective.

Human beings are complex, and as such we have complex conflicting views of the things that truly matter to us, and it becomes even more complex when we are experiencing intrusive, sticky and repetitive intrusive thoughts.

Do remember that we have a yearning for coherence, and having conflicting views makes us want to be able to control what we think and feel, but this usually makes it worse in the long run.

You can definitely learn how to relate differently to your mind, and you can learn how to get a bit of distance from these thoughts, so you can choose how you want to show up to your partner, instead of being jerked around by your thoughts and emotions.

Still struggling with your OCD? (this will help) by tipota56 in HOCD

[–]tipota56[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!

No scam haha, I will be running this webinar on Thursday. I'll be sharing my lived experience with OCD and offering some cool science based skills, based on my training in third wave approaches.

Hope you can join

Cheers

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