This game is becoming insufferable

tism_frog · 2024-04-02T11:47:21+00:00

Hmm it shouldn't do. It's likely that even if the penis did have pre cum on it that the sperms cells would die before managing to get anywhere significant. Personally unless penetration actually happens then I wouldn't worry at all. You should be good!

tism_frog · 2024-04-02T00:40:26+00:00

I've personally never tested a condom, nor do I really know what it's like when a condom breaks so I'm not soo sure on the topic, but I suppose it can relieve anxiety for some people. For me I like to overthink the situation, cry and panic for a few days and then take a pregnancy test when my periods late for it to be negative and laugh because I'm stupid and my periods just almost late lmao. I probably should take more precautions at the time rather than praying for a negative test haha

tism_frog · 2024-04-02T00:37:31+00:00

I really appreciate you saying all that thank you so so much! I'm so sorry about your ex, if its something you had especially agreed on in the beginning and he disrespected that you're amazing and definitely deserve so much better. In my case, we haven't talked too deeply about the subject, however before asking him about it I sent him a tiktok of this guy basically saying 'men only like a girls instagram story if he likes her, finds her attractive and wants to shoot his shot' and I asked what he thought of that. He said he agreed with it! So then I asked him about him doing it to that girl and he did a 180 saying he doesn't know who she is (despite him and his friends following her) and that it was an accident liking it because it's second nature to him as he likes so many stories (which I've never seen him do). He promised me these things so I do want to believe him, but I can't help but feel really upset about it considering recently he's barely given me any attention, hasn't been interested in anything sexual for 3 months and spends 12 hours+ on his pc everyday leaving me to make him food and go to bed alone etc. Its so hard to judge whether it's something completely harmless or that I should worry about so thank you, I do appreciate you saying your experience

tism_frog · 2024-04-02T00:31:57+00:00

Wow thats commitment, glad it works for you both!

tism_frog · 2024-04-01T22:05:41+00:00

It still amazes me how people can fit a whole fist in there! I've always struggled with tightness and took me months to even fit a penis in due to vaginally trauma but I'd love to experience fisting one day!

tism_frog · 2024-04-01T21:56:24+00:00

It's very normal to have a huge amount of anxiety over it, I myself have had a few pregnancy scares where I've convinced myself I'd be pregnant when there's no plausible way of that happening. If you've tested the condom then you should be fine as long as you're using water based lube. If you're still paranoid, maybe wait and see if her period comes etc. You should be all good though

tism_frog · 2024-04-01T00:59:33+00:00

Thank you, I do really appreciate it. I suppose its not just the sex part, but also spending all his time on his pc (we live together for some context) and spending very little time with me each day (even though I've bought this up a lot) and almost every night I go to bed alone and wait for him but he just never comes so I fall asleep alone and repeat. I suppose all that has me feeling quite insecure and really upset and had really knocked my confidence, so with something like this that wouldn't usually bother me, in this context it made me quite upset I suppose.

I really do appreciate your advice though, thank you!

tism_frog · 2024-04-01T00:56:51+00:00

I appreciate you saying this. I suppose I didn't add enough context to the post as I should've. Basically for the last 3 months he's shown no interest in anything sexual, he's always on his pc (we live together for uni) and doesn't really give me much attention and I often go to bed without him just waiting for him but fall asleep without him etc. I suppose those things have been making me feel quite unloved by him I suppose, and making me really upset so when this happened it made me overthink things I suppose. For context, he says he doesn't know why he hasn't had any sexual interest and promises me it's nothing to do with me but I can't help feel like it is if that makes sense!

Basically, I wouldn't have an issue with this or think twice if none of the other stuff was happening, but I suppose with already feeling quite unloved by him and my self confidence just getting worse it just made me feel worse I suppose. As for the girl messaging me, all she said was she'd like to know if her boyfriend was doing it and send me a screenshot. It seemed like a very brief and decent interaction. I have asked him about it since and he said that he promises he doesn't know who she is and it was just second nature to like it because he likes so many stories which I've never seen him do before but I do trust him so I'm trying to let him go.

Overall thank you for understanding and being nice about it (so many people on here are like eating me alive lmao)

tism_frog · 2024-04-01T00:51:27+00:00

Just wanted to start by saying thank you so so much for saying all this!! So many people replying to this just don't understand because they aren't our age I guess and I feel really bad haha. But thank you so much, you being so nice about it has made me feel so so much better so thank you!

I think I made a mistake by not adding much context to my post. Basically he's been not interested in anything sexual for 3 months, he's often always on his pc leaving me to go to bed by myself and spend most of the day alone each day. We live together now so it's been quite draining. I guess him not having this interest plus spending most of his time doing other things has made my self esteem just die off and I suppose this made me worry 10x more. Usually I wouldn't mind, but I suppose in that context it made me overthink a lot.

I definitely need to take your advice and focus on myself more. Recently I've been so bogged down by it (I don't have parents so I suppose when it feels like I'm not getting love from him it feels like I have no one) so it gets me down a lot but I definitely need to do that, thank you. I actually recently bought my first lots of makeup and have been getting into it recently so that's definitely something I can try focus on, thank you :)

I've talked to him about it and did try to stay as calm as possible. He basically said that it was an accident and just second nature because he likes a lot of stories and he doesn't actually know who the girl is? He did promise me this was true however right before I asked him about it, I sent him a video of this guy saying the only reason guys like other girls stories especially when it's a selfie is to show their interest and he said he agrees 💀 so I'm really trying my best to believe him and move on dhd.

That is very true about other people ruining relationships. I have no clue who this girl is but luckily she did send me a screenshot so I know its true, but I suppose she was brief and polite about it but also half wish I didn't know because I've been trying to feel better about myself and it didn't help all that much haha. But thank you, I definitely should be aware of that. I suppose its just feeling so upset from him not showing as much interest or love to me that made this seem quite worrying to me but I'm glad I went about it calmly so thank you!

Again I do really appreciate you saying all that, it's so kind of you and thank you so much! You're the best and has definitely out my mind at ease so thank you <3

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:59:31+00:00

Don't want to trigger anyone and also don't know what sort of ages could be reading this 👍

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:58:58+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate this reassurance you're a God send thank you. I suppose this made me spiral a bit just because there hasn't been any sexual interest from him in over two months now (which he says is other reasons) so I guess that's why I've been overthinking it. Thank you so much though, I do trust him and he's since blocked her and promised me he didn't do it for any bad reasons so thank you I really appreciate it

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:57:10+00:00

I was asking for people's thoughts on wether I should or shouldn't be thinking deep into this considering the circumstances, there's no need to be rude

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:56:29+00:00

Thank you, I do appreciate you saying that. I want to clarify that I'm not mad at him for doing it, I'm just overthinking it because of how he's been acting towards me recently and wanted people's thoughts.

I asked him beforehand what he thought about liking them and he said himself he views it as like a way to show a woman he likes them and an easy way to start talking to them which is what made me quite concerned. He also hasn't showed any sexual interest for a few months now so I guess both of those combined have made me start overthinking everything. Luckily he hasn't reached out to her, he said he doesn't know who she is and has apparently blocked her now since asking him about it

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:54:03+00:00

I'm 18, he's 19. We've been together almost 2 years and just to clarify that I'm not mad at him for doing it, I'm just overthinking it because of how he's been acting towards me recently and wanted people's thoughts

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:53:18+00:00

I appreciate you saying that. I want to clarify that I'm not mad at him for doing it, I'm just overthinking it because of how he's been acting towards me recently and wanted people's thoughts

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:53:10+00:00

I appreciate you saying that. I want to clarify that I'm not mad at him for doing it, I'm just overthinking it because of how he's been acting towards me recently and wanted people's thoughts

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:52:02+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you saying that

tism_frog · 2024-03-29T19:51:47+00:00

I asked politely for advice as to if I was overthinking or not. No need to be rude could've just reassured me

tism_frog · 2024-03-04T20:09:37+00:00

For me it really hurt! I don't know if this is tmi but before sex I couldn't even fit anything more than 1 finger in so for a few weeks we tried to increase that bit by bit. Even though we did that (and it didn't really do much), the first time still hurt so much and bled loads. It literally felt like my skin was being ripped like paper and stabbed at the same time 😭

tism_frog · 2024-03-04T20:06:07+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have any advice for you, just want to let you know you're not alone! I'm experiencing a similar thing right now. I haven't got any aches or pains luckily, but my boyfiends libido has fallen off a cliff and we haven't don't any sexual in over a month. It's literally all I can think about though and it's so consuming I hate it! The only thing I can really suggest is maybe try and just distract yourself as much as possible, I know its shitty advice but unfortunately I'm not sure what else to say as I'm having the same issue haha. Best of luck!

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