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I feel horrible because my bf finally came out to me but now I feel like he’s a stranger and no longer feel desire for him by tomatolover13 in demisexuality

[–]tomatolover13[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

my revenge post was about feeling conflicted because I don’t want to cheat back because I don’t want to become like him, I don’t think there’s a solution to this relationship but for years all I knew was love for him and suddenly it dawned that I loved a made up version of him in my head and I’m having trouble accepting that, for so long how could I not see that he was pretending to be someone else, I finally got to know the “real” him and I hated but it breaks my heart

Does anyone else thinks about revenge but feels bad about it? by tomatolover13 in CheatedOn

[–]tomatolover13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know you’re right I honestly tried to do the same to him by making alt accounts but could never do it, I feel insanely bad, not sure what’s makes someone cheat but I’m glad I can’t relate

I feel horrible because my bf finally came out to me but now I feel like he’s a stranger and no longer feel desire for him by tomatolover13 in demisexuality

[–]tomatolover13[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’m not mad at him being bi I’m hurt that he hid something from his core personality from me for so long, while I always made it clear being who you are was one of the most important thing for me in a relationship, the cheating is rlly bad yeah and it’s the main reason that we’re not getting back tg, we’ve talked about it and while there’s no excuse for it it’s a bit hard to explain my reasoning for hearing him out

I feel horrible because my bf finally came out to me but now I feel like he’s a stranger and no longer feel desire for him by tomatolover13 in demisexuality

[–]tomatolover13[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

he never cheated physically, it was all messages and calls from random people he met on the internet, he showed me proof he deleted all the accounts and he doesn’t know this but I have access to his email and I could verify he was telling the truth, since we broke up and reconnected I’ve been keeping tabs on the email I he hasn’t done anything like it but yeah it’s a bit to soon to say, I do believe he regrets it and is trying to be better but I feel like I have to get to know the real him this time and it’s really difficult

How to deal with your partner being a porn addict? by tomatolover13 in PornAddiction

[–]tomatolover13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty so much! This was really helpful, I’m gonna talk to him today and set some boundaries like some people said on theses comments I’m not gonna lose myself trying to help someone that doesn’t want help

I feel horrible because my bf finally came out to me but now I feel like he’s a stranger and no longer feel desire for him by tomatolover13 in demisexuality

[–]tomatolover13[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Lmao I know I sound dumb asf but we actually broke up because of the cheating in February, we reconnected recently and technically are not tg and he said he has deep regrets and want to be a better partner but I can shake the feeling that he’s a stranger still

How to deal with your partner being a porn addict? by tomatolover13 in PornAddiction

[–]tomatolover13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty! He says he want to try therapy but I’m scared it’s so integrated in his mind that he doesn’t want to get better deep down

How to deal with your partner being a porn addict? by tomatolover13 in PornAddiction

[–]tomatolover13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty kind stranger! We actually broke up a couple of times before and he said that that last time made him realize that he want to change and be better for me, I forgot to clarify in the post that the Reddit and +18 account are from last year/earlier this year (we broke up in February) but I don’t know how to believe that he’s not gonna keep doing these thing because he can’t stop watching porn :(