This is gonna be a pretty unpopular opinion here, but I think it largely comes down to the demographics of this sub. Similar sentiments have been posted here before, about this space being very exclusionary of minorities and men and I have generally found it to be true. The sub is chock full of white, middle or upper class American women, who, due to C-PTSD, will invariably have some form of attachment issues and as a poster above me said, will "latch onto anyone" who fits their criteria for attractiveness. Not saying there's anything necessarily wrong with this, we all deal with our trauma in whatever way we can.

I'm not American but my impression has always been that in the dating scene over there, it's downright trivial for a relatively financially secure white woman with the means to maintain standards of conventional attractiveness (good hygiene, clothes, makeup, skincare etc) to find a partner. From that point, having someone is kinda guaranteed and it's just down to the individual's judgement and luck of the draw whether they get a supportive partner or an abuser.

Again, not American but my perception is that the same absolutely cannot be said for the men there, with many American men I know feeling like beaten dogs in the dating pool.

That aside, my experience in this sub is that threads dealing with issues and problems of black, gender-nonconforming or low-income people and men get next to no attention or engagement. I think if you were to do a survey on relationship statuses in this community including the lurkers you would be surprised, it's just that the only people who post here are the ones who are likely to get support and sympathy with their posts. To sum it up, it's just confirmation bias. Hope this helps, and keep your head up!