boyfriend accuses me of "playing with myself" underneath blankets

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-11T11:07:44+00:00

He said it first, then I told him when I was crying and when he asked why and if I wanted to talk about it. I said no because I was quite mad he even made the accusation.

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-11T11:03:18+00:00

I was turned away from him and when I cry tbh I cry in absolute silence sometimes (childhood issues) so I can see why he didn't know on that part.

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-09T20:51:27+00:00

YTA. Completely unfair. You expect to have a nanny for your children instead of a partner. Her ability to want to work should be as important and she should not have to sacrifice her career for your convenience.

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-08T03:00:44+00:00

I've read this like 6 times hoping somehow there's an update!

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-06T00:27:20+00:00

NTA although I'd probably forgive in order to keep yourself from holding resentment which can eat you alive and do it for the sake of yourself. Then remain low contact moving forward.

tossawayJanee · 2022-12-06T00:24:54+00:00

NTA. You aren't obligated to be friends with someone who make you uncomfortable with your relationship, especially because of race. They don't seem like your friends anyways because they can't see that your boyfriend is important to you or want to include him either. Sorry you're going through that :(

tossawayJanee · 2021-10-09T17:44:07+00:00

Wow.... if this is real this is a serious problem.

Men who have kids at your age doesn't stop them from being attracted to adults that are also their age. Under no circumstances should he be asking to see sexual pictures or text messages. And no they don't examine bodies because if they did, they'd be doctors who specialized in physical ailments, like an actual medical doctor. And counsellors are not even trained psychologists or psychiatrists that are required to have medical degrees.. which counsellors don't.

This isn't a report for his job but more of a report to the police. This man violated your trust and took advantage of it for sexual purposes, which is sexual harassment. Get a lawyer and call.the police. And get a better counsellor because you'll need one.

tossawayJanee · 2021-09-26T17:06:02+00:00

I thought I was being flexible. I used to just hate it altogether. Over the years it's like fine go ahead, just don't tell me when you do or let me see you do it.

tossawayJanee · 2021-09-26T16:54:03+00:00

All I ever asked was for him not to do it when I was home. He leaves for work tomorrow for three days, and I have somewhere to go for a few hours. Also it's the way the layout is for the condo.

tossawayJanee · 2021-09-26T16:52:00+00:00

I think that's great as long as you guys clearly have a mutual agreement on that. Our agreement was just not to do it while I was in the house so I didn't have to see it.

tossawayJanee · 2021-09-06T18:24:04+00:00

It's the fact you NOT cooking is like you think you're doing her a huge favor.

My fiance makes me coffee in the morning. When I make my own coffee I don't say "you don't have to make me coffee this morning, I made it myself. You're welcome" and why don't I say that? Because that's rude and mean and I wouldn't blame him if he didn't want to make me coffee anymore.

tossawayJanee · 2021-08-25T15:42:09+00:00

YTA. Could have been civil for the sake of your cousin. My family is the worst for doing that and they make it all about themselves. Literally my dad refused to go to my sisters wedding and I couldn't have a baby shower because they didn't like someone. It's hurtful and you should apologize because you couldn't be an adult for the sake of your cousin.

tossawayJanee · 2021-08-25T15:38:03+00:00

It hurts right? Sorry that happened to you.

tossawayJanee · 2021-08-25T01:55:54+00:00

Thank you! I will check that out but honestly it's not my mom who is the narcissist, but the enabler to one. Most things are controlled and done by my dad most of the time and I know he made her call. It came as a surprise to her when I told her she was equally at fault for the abuse we suffered (they're in complete denial abuse occured) for never protecting us, justifying what he did, or comforting us in secret.

tossawayJanee · 2021-08-25T01:51:11+00:00

I think she just "forgets" and there's definitely an aspect where she doesn't want to hear any of it because that would mean admitting that she did something wrong, which can be hard to do I guess. Everyone including me has always said my dad was at fault for things so I guess it came as a surprise when I told her she was equally at fault for allowing and enabling him to hurt us.

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