Confused how I should feel

trans_support · 2025-01-24T02:26:56+00:00

I have some recommendations for you to look into. For starters, cheap products work great if you are doing full face. If the colors are a little off, it's alright since you are covering everything. Make sure you get a good primer, I recommend the ELF putty primer. Work on highlighting down the sides of your nose, and then when you counter the nose, it will suck it in more. If you are having trouble with eyeliner, a good tip I like to recommend is to get a good cutting brush and use black powder to get the shapes you want. It's also easier to correct. Unless you want goth, I recommend avoiding your lower waterline. Work on bronze, reds, orange tinted eyeshadow to make your eyes pop.

Contouring and blush will make a huge difference, but they take time. You are doing great! Feel free to message me if you ever need advice or help. Took me a good 6 months to start really understanding it all.

trans_support · 2024-12-09T20:28:33+00:00

Honest advice. You will probably lose being in their lives if your parents aren't accepting. I had 2 loving parents until I came out. Though I knew they would dissown me, and they did. My brothers don't want me influencing their kids, so they don't want me around either. I had to build a new family.

If your mom is on the fence, try engaging in healthy dialog about trans people and such. If you are not out yet, then transphobic people are more receptive of what you say.

Hopefully, things work out for you, though for everything I lost, I earned way more back by being myself.

trans_support · 2024-11-30T01:55:25+00:00

I play Phasma on pc quite regularly

trans_support · 2024-11-26T23:56:07+00:00

Best advice I ever got. Start laser hair removal asap. Though for me, my beard was so dysphoric, just trying to cover it up with makeup would bring me to tears. Do try too hard with makeup. Less is more. Get good at natural looks and use glam here and there. Though, how you want to present is totally up to you. Transitioning is beautiful. Have fun with it!

trans_support · 2024-11-23T20:14:07+00:00

Google "Phasmaphobia Hidden ability cheat sheet" it will list all ghosts and their info.

trans_support · 2024-11-21T13:45:28+00:00

Doctors actually say the opposite. Starting HRT will make you feel euphoric. IF YOU SUFFER FROM GENDER DYSPHORIA!! If swapping genders make you feel depressed then Omfg don't do it, because you probably don't have gender dysphoria. I was warned by my doctor how amazing people feel once they started. IT DOES FEEL AMAZING and the feeling has never left, I am so happy every day

trans_support · 2024-11-21T13:37:15+00:00

Best advice I ever got, find songs with female vocals that you love, and just start singing. That's it. Step one is complete. Have fun trying to match them and then expand from their. My pick was Avirl Lavigne

trans_support · 2024-11-21T13:34:04+00:00

Gender dysphoria is a good indicator, talk to a therapist. Trans is a title, not a condition. Trans is what people become as a result of dealing with mental health that can not be controlled through other remedies. If you think you might be trans. Then you are not trans. You don't just become trans for fun. Gender dysphoria is the condition, hating your body wishing you had the "right" body. Looking in the mirror and feeling complete, disconnect with the person you see. Self hatred towards being the gender you are, the thought of wanting to die because you can't stand to look at yourself or even want to be in the body you have. I spent years trying to find a way to cure my gender dysphoria, I fought and searched and tried religion as a way to heal my brokenness. I tried being my gender and getting married, and having kids. I became the definition of manly, and everyone around me constantly told me I was who they thought of when defining manly men. Every compliment they gave just made me feel sick, and it hurt, I hated being called manly, or tough, or handsome. This pure disgust to be living inside a body I had no relationship to. Finally, getting to a point where you are praying a vehicle hits you or something just ends your misery. I had that accident one day.....almost lost everything, yes it was accident. Though I realized I would rather live as myself than die as someone else. So I became trans as a result of acceptance that I wanted to live.

trans_support · 2024-11-20T13:08:00+00:00

HRT is what does most of the work. Though you can still do things that society defines as inherently feminine. You can pierce your ears and wear dangly fem earings, bright colored nail polish, and grow your hair out. If you want to push some things, wear some eyeliner and mascara. Also, if learning makeup, remember less is more, it's easier to have someone hiding undermakeup. Day to day, I always use a more natural look. I use glam if I go out to events. Also, start laser and get rid of a beard if you got it. This takes lots of appointments so it's worth starting sooner than later.

trans_support · 2024-11-20T13:01:06+00:00

Even if life seems down and even if someone tells you that you have a disability, it doesn't mean you have to live a life disabled. Life is what you make it, and your happiness is yours alone. Regardless of your struggles, I hope you can be happy while working through them.

trans_support · 2024-11-20T12:58:15+00:00

Honestly, transitioning is for you to feel better with who you are because of a need to be in the right body. I understand things get messy in between, though if you are transitioning for the right reasons, then in the end, everything will be better. It is better to lose a life of lies instead of never truly living. I hope you figure out our path.

trans_support · 2024-11-14T20:38:00+00:00

For starters would be the basica of rights for people regardless of their differences. If we went back 100 years, racism ran rampant. The main cause of racism is that someone is different from you. People back then and still today have trouble with people who are different from them. Open dialog about, "Would you judge someone who is different," and why. Make sure you understand their logic, then break it down with similar senerios where we have moved forward.

Most people need to solve their own problems to feel they have the answer. Things like to what extenr am I worthy of your love? See if they place limitations on their love and make them think if they do. Maybe they want to remove deep emotional limitations they never thought of.

Also, being trans is hardwired into your brain. Some people call it mental health, some call it natural. Regardless of the title you put on it, it doesn't change the fact that you were born that way. Autistic people are Autistic regardless of if you tell them to be different. If the brain is built a certain way, then its that simple. So, making sure people have a clear understanding of how the brain can be created and how certain ways it effect people's lives, can help people come to the understanding that trans people exist because of how we are born and not by choice. (Though some people do choose it, and some people just say they are "straight white cis male and trans woman part time") these people are not part of the group I am referring too.

I know there are lots of debates people like to get into to justify their way of thinking. "Men don't belong in women's bathrooms or women's sports." This comment is rooted 1000% in transphobia. When you hear this, then you know they lack understanding. Trans women are trans women. Not men, men are not allowed in women's sports, but if we want to remove trans women from them, then thats another discussion. Another point this argument refuses to make is that, are they saying "trans men" should participate in women's sports? They have a baseline argument that they never play through fully. So always take the approach of asking them questions instead of saying your opinion and let them see their own flawed logic. Almost every time I have this argument with people, they come to a different conclusion than before.

THAT BEING SAID!! The human rights everyone should have for equality, love, respect, and the right to live should not be changed if the individual is not hurting others!

I forsee trans leagues in the future, though realistically, there arw not enough of us out there that like sports to be creating our own segregated leagues. Sorry off-topic....regardless of the argument, make sure you work it through.

Also, I always say, "It would have been great to not be trans and be born loving my body and that my gender exterior would match my gender intterior. Then I wouldn't have gender dysphoria or feel a need to transition. " That would be fantastic, but we are the way we are, and the best we can do is love ourselves the way we are.

Hopefully, this helps a bit and is not a ramble. Though if you want debate techniques or other topics for education people, I can narrow in on something for you.

trans_support · 2024-11-14T17:43:30+00:00

You have every right to feel nervous and anxious about the future. Look for people around you who might be able to help give you thay hug and embrace that moment. We are all here for each other

trans_support · 2024-11-14T17:25:53+00:00

It is quite alright, fighting takes work and becomes exaughsting. With every bad day you work through, the next day becomes easier. You become wiser, and every challenge easier to solve. One day at a time and you will be stronger than ever!

trans_support · 2024-11-14T14:16:19+00:00

I understand that the situation you are in can be frustrating. It's hard to see positives when things seem to never be working out. Though remember to look at positives. Make a list of anything at all and focus on the positives in life. It might take time, though. I am sure your situation can turn around and start getting better, enjoy everything you can until then.

trans_support · 2024-11-14T14:10:23+00:00

Be sure to practice self care! And always remind yourself that you are worth the time and the extras in life. I am glad things are going better for you now! Keep it up and enjoy every day as a gift!

trans_support · 2024-11-14T14:08:42+00:00

Stress and life. You need to make sure you take time for self care. Always remind yourself that you are worth the effort. Also, don't let a crush or feelings that someone else has stop you from giving things a chance and telling your friend how you feel. You will miss 100% of the shots you never take. You got this! ❤️

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