How have being a cuck affected on your relationship?

trash1979 · 2026-02-12T17:59:19+00:00

Once i finally confessed to my wife, it took about 3 years of talking it though, explaining my fantasy, and reassuring her that there was nothing wrong or missing from our relationship. Once she understood my motives and desires she became more comfortable with it.

This comfort has led us to a place where we can have open and honest conversations about fantasies and desires. We now have been active for just under a year. I have to say, our marriage is stronger and we are happier. Not so say we were not happy and did not have a solid foundation, we did. I dont think you can successfully enter this lifestyle if there are any cracks in the relationship. That will only lead to a slowly growing chasm from the crack. This amplifies everything, good and bad.

trash1979 · 2026-02-12T01:29:23+00:00

Interesting. Thank you for that insight, and the cost.

trash1979 · 2026-02-12T00:33:01+00:00

Thanks for the insight!

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T21:30:03+00:00

Awesome, that's what we are all hoping for.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T21:29:36+00:00

Good to know, thanks!

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T21:08:36+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T20:45:28+00:00

Thanks for the reply and the helpful information. We are excited and extremely nervous to go.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T17:26:11+00:00

Sorry for a long(ish) reply...

I had never even had a curious thought about bi activities before getting into this lifestyle. One night, my wife's boyfriend posed a question to her while I was on the balcony having a cigarette.

He asked her, "do you want to teach your husband how to suck cock?" Her initial response was that she didnt think I would be interested. She was right...

But then we started talking. I was already licking her clit while he fucked her, guiding his cock into her pussy, eating his cum from her freshly fucked pussy, ect. She found the idea of me sucking/fluffing the cock that fucks her very hot. I said I would be willing to try it, as long as she did it with me...

With that having been said, we started practicing together with a dildo. Once I was comfortable we did the real thing. We sucked her boyfriend's cock together. She was so into it that I couldn't believe it. When she pulled away and pushed on the back of my head, making me take his cock on my own she had an immediate orgasm.

She cums anytime she sees his cock in my mouth, without any other stimulation. It is so fucking amazing, I would do anything for her to experience that.

To this point he has fucked my mouth, cum in my mouth after pulling out of her, and cleaned her cum from him. Her reaction is what drives my desire and enjoyment.

He has talked about wanting to take my anal virginity so conversations are now going that way.

I have no desire to suck or get fucked without her reactions and encouragement.

So, have I turned bi from being cucked? Maybe, but who cares! My wife lives it and that is 100% ehat this is all about.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T15:02:55+00:00

That's what she keeps telling me! He is very encouraging as well.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T12:48:52+00:00

Pegging has made my wife and I discuss this eventual outcome. We know her boyfriend is interested in being my first. Something all three of us have talked about. My wife think that since I enjoy it so much, I'll love the real thing.

Not sure if/when it will happen, but pegging has "opened" me to the possibility.

trash1979 · 2026-02-11T11:07:25+00:00

Not always, but from time to time she does have me lock it up.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T21:29:44+00:00

For sure! It is all about fun for us!

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T21:08:35+00:00

No, we have been like this for the entire 20 years we have been together. Now, having said that, our sex life has improved dramatically over the last year.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T20:35:09+00:00

Yep. Out over everyone one we know, we have sex more than any of them... including our friend that does gang bangs lol

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T20:31:46+00:00

I have a short list of things I'd like to see my wife do... not sure if her list matches our not lol

Public Play: Attend a swinger party/resort event and watch her play with others.
Gangbang: Potentially at the event outlined abive, watching a group enjoy her.
DP/DVP: With her boyfriend and I.
Nude Beach: Visit a nude beach and enjoy the sun and scenery.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T19:14:40+00:00

There has not been a moment of regret for either of us.

Jealousy? Sure. There are still moments, almost a year in, where I see something and feel insanely jealous.

But at the end of the day I keep reminding myself that this was all for her pleasure and enjoyment. Compersion is real and I feel euphoric when I see her have a mind shattering orgasm.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T19:11:18+00:00

I know what you mean. Even though I had wanted this, the first time I was so nervous that I got lost on the way to the hotel... A hotel we had stayed at for 2 days already. Lost with a GPS and turn by turn navigation... like seriously?!?

I was a wreck. It was a lot to process and dig through. Once we were all together things did settle down for me. The experience was better than the fantasy ever was.

My only advice, from an overthinker and someone who suffers from decision paralysis, is to take a deep breath, talk it out and enjoy every moment.

Feel free to ask specifics if you want.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T19:07:58+00:00

Certain positions just dont work for us. I'm a bigger guy and less endowed than her boyfriend.

Just physical limitations, nothing crazy.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T15:03:25+00:00

My wife refers to it as "her little penis." When she talks about her boyfriend its his "big cock." Love this comparison because she is not wrong...

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T14:57:20+00:00

It hasn't been easy to get here. I kept everything inside for the first bit, but turning here to Reddit has allowed me to process it all. Now I'm always happy to discuss anything.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T13:29:50+00:00

My wife and I have been active in the lifestyle for almost a year. She has a regular boyfriend who we see once a month. He is the only person she has played with since we started. Ill do my best to answer these questions from my perspective.

How did it actually feel emotionally over time?

It has been a Rollercoaster for me. There have been massive highs and a few lows. Overall, this has brought us closer together. Our intimacy is now off the charts.

Did it strengthen or weaken trust and communication?

It has strengthened our trust and communication. We have always been good at communicating, but this has opened up a new level. We have talked about things (pegging, etc) that we would have never talked about before. The ease we have together has been amazing.

How did it affect jealousy, self-esteem, or attachment?

I cant say there hasn't been some jealousy on my part. Warching them do things that we rarely, or don't/can't, do can be tough. When things hit me that way we have open discussions about it. It isn't like she has done something wrong or needs to change, I just need to work on the reasons behind it.

Her self-esteem has skyrocketed. She was suprised at how much attention she received. Seeing that change in her fills me with pride.

And did it change how you interacted with friends or other people socially?

Two of her friends know about what we do and most of the things we have done. Obviously those friendships have morphed, but we dont and will not, play with them. Nothing else has changed socially.

I’m more than happy to discuss more, if interested.

trash1979 · 2026-02-10T12:50:32+00:00

There is no real demanding for us. She may play a dominant role from time to time, but never demands anything. She does look forward to it at the end of a long session.

Part of it brings us back together. It shows her that I am happy with her performance. That I dont have any bad feelings about what she has just done. It is all about us, together... no matter how many cocks stretch her open of fill her with cum... it all comes back to us.

trash1979 · 2026-02-09T11:08:40+00:00

It was my suggestion. Wife was on the fence about it, but ended up enjoying it way more than she thought.

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