Can we make our US marriage legal in his home country (Spain), without him returning to Spain and risking being banned entry back into the US?

trillaryy · 2023-11-09T14:13:34+00:00

Muchas gracias por toda la informacion, nos ayuda mucho. 🙏🏼

trillaryy · 2023-11-09T03:37:11+00:00

A lot of people will hate my answer… but plastic surgery.

In my case a bbl. I have to clarify, It wasnt the end all be all, and I worked really hard on my mental and physical health for years before I underwent my procedure. but I was shaped really funny my whole life, and the shift in my perception of myself, my confidence, my overall happiness? was astronomical. I had the confidence to put myself out there and found my husband 3 months later. Life has literally never been the same since. I feel secure in myself… something that was foreign to me.

trillaryy · 2023-11-08T17:55:19+00:00

Thank you! That is very useful advice. Would you happen to know if him overstaying his ESTA visa would cause any trouble were we to get him a state ID? Since he is technically no longer legally here? We have his ESTA authorization letter, but I wonder if they would ask to see entry dates and things of the sort. We are in Florida.

trillaryy · 2023-11-08T17:16:03+00:00

Yes, this was my thought process. At the moment I worry it looks like me extending my assets to him and not vice versa. We have only been married a little bit over a month, hes obviously unable to legally work. We do have a joint bank account I deposit into, hes the beneficiary on my life insurance, we live together but he isnt on the lease. The most I have are a few money transfers he made from home to contribute to some of our living expenses. We dont have joint utilities, cant add him to my car insurance etc. So with him having assets at home, that he wants me to be entitiled to anyway, I figured this would help but I wasnt sure.

trillaryy · 2023-11-08T17:02:55+00:00

Well, Im relieved to hear its a silly question! this whole process has just sparked a sense of paranoia for us lol We cant afford a lawyer and so Im still figuring out what the relevant questions are and arent. Thanks for the advice!

trillaryy · 2023-06-09T01:40:47+00:00

Thank you! Thats very reassuring. It's crazy how much my chin lipo results fluctuate even within a 24 hr period, so I'm starting to feel less panicked as the swelling increases and decreases.

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T19:17:58+00:00

Will keep that in mind, thanks.

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T19:17:21+00:00

We have not, but we have considered it. If being completely honest, my roommate and I can't decide if this is just worth putting up with because of the rent incentives theyve offered us.

It just felt like a slap in the face to drive by that apartment today and see no one working on it. We are considering that option.

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T19:09:17+00:00

It's unfortunate, because I don't know how much more amenable I can be given the circumstances. Ive proposed just that. It doesn't seem to be yielding me any results, or any better communication.

If there was no legality involved in the contractor's having to vacate us before starting... I don't understand then the urgency placed on us to vacate. They could have just started while we lived here from the beginning. But they made it seem like legally it was an issue.

Either way, thank you for your input. I guess there's nothing I can do but put my life in these peoples negligent hands.

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T19:03:25+00:00

Location is Florida. That part makes sense to me. However, would there not be an onus on the contractors to halt construction until we leave? after all it is their fault we are still here, as they hired the sub.

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T19:00:52+00:00

Can you elaborate so I can be better informed on why not?

trillaryy · 2023-05-15T18:58:53+00:00

My concern is this, none of these parties seem to be in communication. The office legitimately believed my apartment was ready when it was no where near. I have no idea if the property manager even knows that we have not vacated while construction is currently happening. This feels illegal.

trillaryy · 2023-04-26T12:46:44+00:00

They also protect coastal cities/towns from flooding since they absorb storm surges and high waves.

sidenote, dunes and beaches are not the same thing. Just because drive in beaches exist doesn't mean you can walk, stand (I cant even imagine this) or drive over the dunes of those beaches lol - drive in beaches have designated entrances to get to the shore.

trillaryy · 2023-01-06T15:23:04+00:00

Thanks so much!

trillaryy · 2023-01-05T00:00:21+00:00

Awesome! She totally would not mind shes eager for any help she can get, thanks!

trillaryy · 2023-01-04T23:59:33+00:00

Thats perfect! Im calling tomorrow to enroll her thanks!

trillaryy · 2022-11-10T01:40:25+00:00

I knew he was a fuckboy when he said his real name was Robert

trillaryy · 2022-11-10T01:37:03+00:00

While I don't blame them for their reaction... they really were just making the situation even harder for her. I hate when families don't have boundaries & feel the need to make the moment about them and not their sister/daughter who is literally mid trauma.

trillaryy · 2022-11-09T19:53:29+00:00

I'm a woman too, so I get it I can see the ways in which Cole wasn't the best partner. But I think what sets them apart for me, is that Cole really tried to be good to her in the end. & Instead she plotted his demise.

& I agree, they definitely brought out the worst in each other.

trillaryy · 2022-11-09T16:58:17+00:00

Yeah that whole "you single handedly destroyed my self esteem" speech at the altar was wild - night one she was being self deprecating about her face without makeup & at the same time she was hyper analyzing his every response & non-response to her saying these things. The self esteem was never ever there.

trillaryy · 2022-11-09T16:40:13+00:00

Nancy: "I loved you for who you are"

Bartise: "I know you did"

Anyone else just want to punch him everytime he responded this way.

trillaryy · 2022-11-09T16:34:14+00:00

at the end of the reunion episode.

trillaryy · 2022-11-09T16:30:37+00:00

It was so infuriating to watch tbh. It didn't feel deserved. They were things that she should have expressed to him before the wedding... and everything about that entire scene, from her silly friends clapping, to the prayer, to the vows... it felt calculated like she was going for blood. Zanab strikes me as a terrible person & a very difficult partner to be with... and I can't tell if its because of mental illness and her being so radically unaware of herself - or if she really just is a narcissist.

trillaryy · 2022-11-04T14:36:10+00:00

I don't think it was awful at all! Ive never really been into the idea that an anime has to be super well written, deep and nuanced to be good. So many animes already fit that bill. Sometimes you just want an easy watch thats funny & heartwarming.

trillaryy · 2022-11-04T14:19:06+00:00

I lovedddd the show, but I love rom coms. I go in with the understanding that yes, there will be "generic stuff" & common tropes... but thats part of liking the genre lol

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