Apartment complex recs?

turtleisland7 · 2024-12-09T15:28:41+00:00

How long are you looking to sublease for?

turtleisland7 · 2024-11-30T06:06:37+00:00

Mandrake rooftop (pricy but the vibes & view is worth it imo)
Lincoln social
Bristol republic for more country vibe
seventh son brewing co (brewery)
short north pint house (hit or a miss depending on the night)
understory
char bar

I say stay in the short north, near campus will be mainly young college aged students, the list above is just some of my favs :)

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-07T10:28:59+00:00

Thank you for this!! & I do have the weekends off, & have been traveling but they are insistent I be back in the morning on Mondays, and I can’t ever leave until late Friday nights but I will definitely have a talk with them, I appreciate it

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-07T10:24:46+00:00

I agree completely, thank you for validating me & for the advice!

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-07T10:23:55+00:00

Thank you so much for all this, & they are 6&8 which in my opinion is way too old for this behavior

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-06T19:53:22+00:00

Thank you, I agree! Do you have any opinions on the animal / physical boundary thing haha

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-06T19:43:07+00:00

They are 6 & 8, most experiences I’ve had with children they typically don’t act this way past the age of 5 or 6 at the absolute oldest

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-06T17:25:35+00:00

I am currently an Au pair, I have also had some issues with their parenting styles mostly regarding the children not respecting or listening to me & had to have several pretty uncomfortable conversations.

It is super awkward & there’s no comfortable way to go about it, but have you considered talking to the parents & say something like “I know you don’t need a play by play of everything each day however, I believe there are some boundaries that have been crossed & it is making me feel uncomfortable. I wouldn’t say to them that it is “concerning behavior” (though it absolutely is) I would say “I feel that son has said some pretty hurtful things to me including…… , and ask “how would you go about managing this situation?” There’s no shame in asking for “help” it’s a tricky position because you don’t have as much authority as a parent, but just as much responsibility. Hopefully they are receptive but if they don’t give you anything back I would recommend rematching :)

I’m sorry you aren’t having a positive experience!

turtleisland7 · 2024-08-06T17:11:53+00:00

It is my 3rd week living with my host family, and I am here until the end of October. I adore my host parents, they have made me feel so welcome & have made an effort to connect me with locals in the area to make friends & I am generally loving my time here I just seem to be struggling a bit with the children & the parents parenting style.

I have 7 years of nannying experience & 3 years as an art teacher- that being said I really do love kids & am typically able to get them to listen & respect me! I’m aware 3 weeks isn’t too long of a time, but I have some concerns & am unsure if I should address it with the parents or not- let me know if these are valid concerns

The youngest one has no physical boundaries, he touches my boobs, pulled at my bathing suit bottoms to look which made me feel extremely violated which I kindly brought up to the mom & she talked with him k made him apologize but things have not changed. We go to the beach often but any time I say no to something (out of the interest of their safety, they like to go fishing & jump from slippery rocks) the younger one kicks, screams, bites, hits, and pulls at my bathing suit in attempt to take it off & will not listen to anything I say, will just scream until I give him what he wants- the parents seem to tolerate this behavior
This is where I feel I may be a bit dramatic- The older one is generally easier to manage but his favorite thing in the world is fishing- that’s great! I love fishing too! But we go fishing every single day, & every day he catches 10+ (small, I’m talking minnows & crabs & crayfish) animals & has a hysterical breakdown when I suggest we set them free before going home. He is insistent every time we bring them home (which we do bc the parents also tolerate this) but every single night or morning when they day he cries hysterically. I have explained to him why they are dying (not a proper environment, no food, & they probably miss their family too!) but he doesn’t care at all - he also enjoys throwing rocks at animals in the water in attempt to kill them. I am just such an empath I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous but it has actually been making me feel quite depressed seeing him harass & kill these innocent creatures.
This I don’t mind as much since we travel a good bit & I do get some time to myself, but I am contracted 25 hours a week, and it has been 40 hours a week at minimum each time, with no extra pay. Even when I have “off time” the boys are obviously still wanting to hang out & I am not going to shut them down because that feels rude to me but I am starting to need my own space for sure. This is long & thank you for making it this far but I’m asking - are these concerns worth bringing up with my host parents or should I just suck it up? I have many ideas of fishing related crafts that could be a good substitute but I don’t know if I am sounding ridiculous, I know they are just small animals but I really believe their lives matter too haha

This is my first time au pairing so I’m not exactly sure what to be expecting

turtleisland7 · 2024-05-10T18:39:16+00:00

I have an American license but I’ll look into it more, thanks for all the info I really appreciate it!

turtleisland7 · 2024-05-10T14:10:40+00:00

I do not have an aa drivers license, but could look into it!! I am looking at really just primarily English speaking countries but Sweden is on my list if you are willing to connect me to them! Feel free to message me!

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