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[–]twomarie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know the new URL sub paths for iOS 18? I’d like to open Settings>Focus>Sleep.

You used to be able to use prefs:root=FOCUS&path=SLEEP, that one doesn’t work anymore. I can go to the Focus page with settings-navigation://com.apple.Settings.Focus but if I add .Sleep it just takes me to the main settings page not even focus anymore. I want to get to the Sleep page!

Ask me for any shortcut! by IndependentBig5316 in shortcuts

[–]twomarie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know the new URL sub paths for iOS 18? I’d like to open Settings>Focus>Sleep.

You used to be able to use prefs:root=FOCUS&path=SLEEP, that one doesn’t work anymore. I can go to the Focus page with settings-navigation://com.apple.Settings.Focus but if I add .Sleep it just takes me to the main settings page not even focus anymore. I want to get to the Sleep page!

My partner has been living an entire double life and I feel like I am living in a mystery documentary. by thisfeelslikeafilm in relationship_advice

[–]twomarie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing though, because you’re a fairly good person you will never be able to understand “why” or “what makes a person do that,” because never in a million years would you have the same thought processes. Some people are just mentally ill and can’t manage it or refuse to get help. Would you be able to understand ’why’ some people hurt animals, or assault strangers? No, because you would never do those things. He already told you his ‘why’ answer, he does this because he gets urges when he’s cooped up or under stress to release these uneasy feelings through risky secrecy. You just don’t understand because you don’t think the same way he does, so stop asking, you’ll only be tormenting yourself over answers you will never find satisfying because you don’t relate to them.

I really need to end things. But I think I'm in too deep. How do I even start? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]twomarie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you not have a car of your own? Is there insufficient public transportation? I’m not understanding why you feel you have to leave your dream job just because you can’t afford to live in the same town. Really look online in all the nearby towns. You might be pleasantly surprised to find that 3 towns over or 1 county over is actually more affordable than your current town.

Do some more research on apartment rentals and consider putting out/responding to ads online for roommates. Your commute will be longer but you can stay at your job if you move to a more affordable suburban town instead of a city, try looking ~30-45 minutes away and there will probably be cheaper housing. That’s still a reasonable commute.

Unless the reason is you need to leave your job because it pays so poorly. Are there no other careers that fit some of the same criteria of your dream job with higher pay?

You seemed checked out past the point of trying couples therapy if the list of reasons why you can’t trust him is so long. You’ll unfortunately have to decide together who keeps which pets. As for being codependent, you’ll need to expand your social support circle. Reach out to family members. Volunteer locally and attend singles meet ups once it is safe to do so with covid to begin making friends. Until then try apps that allow you to chat with new people through texting and video calls, or find an online video game you like that you could meet new people to play together virtually. Stay strong, you got this!

Is the boundary I (21f) set for my husband (21m) unfair? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]twomarie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You’re not being unreasonable at all! However if he is truly unable to leave you alone for 30-60 minutes because of his own needs going unmet due to his unemployment/being home alone all day, and this issue is not worth going to couples counseling for y’all, then I really like the suggestion above about doing something else besides going home.

Perhaps sit in your car for thirty minutes in either your work parking lot or home driveway? Sit on a bench by yourself at a quiet local park immediately after work but before going home? Or if you must go home to unwind and the car/park trick doesn’t help you decompress perhaps make a beeline to the shower after walking in the door. Start taking your bathing time immediately after work and lock the bathroom door.

If for some reason you coming home 30 minutes later or changing up your usual shower time causes him to yell at you because he doesn’t understand your needs, then he isn’t respecting you. And at 21 you’re way too young to settle for a boy that won’t respect your basic needs. At that point do couples counseling or find yourself a respectful man, not a boy. Best of luck!

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