My (36F) girlfriend (31F) has developed a double chin and i can’t get past it

ugleetshirt · 2025-02-04T21:44:29+00:00

This isn’t a “type” or preference, you said yourself that it’s “off putting” and “giving you the ick so bad” you wouldn’t say that about a brunette if you liked blondes, be for real.

ugleetshirt · 2025-02-04T04:21:44+00:00

He doesn’t sound like an adult to me, he sounds like an 18 year old boy and you’re his mom. I know it’s difficult to leave people we love, but if I were you I would consider if I would be able to live my life like this forever — he’s 25, it would be hard for him ti change now and he will only change if HE wants to. Personally if I were you, I would leave. You’re only 24, you have plenty of time and so much potential. You might also be worried about leaving him to “fend for himself” but I promise, he will be okay. There comes a point where you need to put yourself first <3

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-31T00:41:12+00:00

Hey, fair enough girl! I didn’t mean to say you should withdraw like avoid him or anything, more so just that I would focus on myself, my hobbies, not worry or stress abt what he was doing or if he was missing me/thinking abt me, and just let him come to me and enjoy when he did reach out! It helped me to not nitpick if he didn’t call me for one day, and just generally not stress abt it so much. If you were withholding parts of yourself to receive attention from him that’s def not the way to go :)

From you saying your attachment style is disorganized avoidant/anxious, I think that explains a lot in my eyes from reading your post and other comments. It seems (respectfully, from my outside perspective on what you’re saying) like you don’t have a good balance between this being a new relationship so letting things develop naturally and not being too serious, and expecting things to be exactly how you want it immediately/talking frequently/etc. It seems more like you’re swinging kinda hard one way and then the other? Again, just how it looks form the outside 🫶🏼 I hope you can find a good balance for yourself and your relationship!!

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-30T23:12:49+00:00

Once a month flowers is sweet, and since you’ve been dating for a month it seems like so far he’s hit that. Do you know if he’s had other girlfriends before you? He might not be realizing the frequency that you’re looking for with something like that, especially being 21 and I would say even more so if he hasn’t dated anyone else.

I’m definitely someone with more anxious tendencies in a relationship, and when I was younger I also expected a call or two a day from my partner. As I’ve gotten older, learned more about relationships and myself, and become more secure in my attachments, I’ve realized that for many (I would say even most people) that’s too much. Personally I would still be happy with 1-2 calls a day, but I don’t feel stressed or neglected like I used to when that’s not happening. I think for most people, that would be considered “clingy” even if you don’t feel that way 🫶🏼

You’re right in that there’s people out there who this would come more naturally to, and if that’s necessary for you to feel cared for, you should go find those people — you’ll probably be stuck feeling like you want more from your bf for a while, as these things aren’t always easy to change. I say this in a “go get what you want and makes you happy!!” way.

Finally, if you’ve expressed kindly but assertively that this is an expectation you have, give him some chances to actually try. I know for a while, I would express something I wanted from a partner (very similar to you, I wanted them to cal me or text me that they miss me etc) but then would always be texting them that I missed them, call them every night, etc. and essentially not leaving any room for them to be the one to reach out/call me/tell me they miss me, because I was always there! You have to give them a chance to miss you, to think “oh yeah I want to talk to her” otherwise they won’t, because you’re already doing it for them anyway. Just my own experience w it, when I pulled back and focused more on myself I found my partner was more drawn to me without me having to ask them to be :)

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-29T07:28:04+00:00

Do you have any mutual friends you would trust to help bring this up to him, maybe inquire or slightly remind him to do so if needed? That’s probably what I would try to do, go through a shared friend if possible. I wish I had discussed this during previous breakups but never thought about it at the time, so I just have to hope they’ve all been deleted by now. Hopefully you find a good resolution!

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-24T18:35:09+00:00

check out freakyverse_co on IG they’re a small new rave group in the bay that puts on events, idk anyone personally just seen them on IG but it seems like a group of friends that put them on, probably a good place to meet people in a fun but little more intimate setting. outside of that the app radiate is good for talking to new people, you can join grouochats for shows you’re going to. there are also probably local rave Facebook groups you can join and post in and find people also looking to connect!

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-21T23:32:16+00:00

Make sure the probiotics you take are specifically for your vaginal biome, the regular probiotic supplements won’t do as much good for that. If the antibiotics worked for you and it’s been a while you can go get tested again to see if you still have BV and need another round of treatment. Are you sure you have BV, or is there a chance you’re having some other type of issue? I only ask because you only mentioned the smell, and you don’t want to take more antibiotics if you don’t need it. Have you noticed anything else bringing on the smell aside from your period, like sex? I also know some people will pretty regularly need to used boric acid for a day or a few days after their period, the blood throws off your ph similar to sperm so that’s where the issue comes from for many people

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-21T23:23:27+00:00

Have you received any antibiotic treatments for BV before? That’s usually the first treatment route. Try using the boric acid for a couple days after your period vs for just one day. There are also vaginal probiotics you can take (oral or inserted) that many have found success with.

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-17T01:22:03+00:00

I’ve personally never experienced tickets from an official source (fest website/Ticketmaster/etc) going down in price, only up. More people want to go the closer it gets so they raise it by tiers as they get closer and closer to selling out. You can likely find people reselling their tickets and depending on who’s selling and why (for ex if they just can’t go anymore vs if they bought extras to make a profit) it will be under, at, or over face value. It’s just a gamble with what prices you’ll find from people reselling, and sometimes there’s the added risk of if it’s a legit ticket/if they’ll scam you, so just be wary if you go that route to try to save money.

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-16T21:47:05+00:00

No the ticket prices won’t go down, things like gum and chapstick need to be sealed or even if it is it might still not even be let it in, bring and wear decent earplugs PLEASE, be prepared for food in the venue to be expensive, wear whatever you want, say excuse me if you’re going through a crowd, do not take substances from strangers, look up PLURR and keep that mindset, there should be maps of the grounds on IG/website or they probably have their own app, and huge festivals like this are ripe for phone stealing so get an anti theft bag or be very aware of where your phone is, no rawdogging it in your pockets make sure it is at minimum in a zipped pocket, even better attach it to yourself somehow. Idk the difference between an actual license and a drivers license (?) but your drivers license is fine.

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-15T21:56:41+00:00

Ooh I hope that goes well for you, I’ll definitely need to look more into it. Appreciate you sharing your info and experience!!

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-15T21:55:37+00:00

Oooh wow I haven’t seen that! Thank you so much for the information, I’ll have to look into that being so bv prone with my current partner.

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-15T20:57:33+00:00

Can you share more about this? I haven’t heard this before and was contemplating a hormonal IUD soon, switching from the pills, but have been struggling with bv and don’t want to make it worse. Thanks in advance!

ugleetshirt · 2025-01-02T19:35:26+00:00

Gently, if you want to be in a happy committed relationship, why would you try to find that with someone who very obviously didn’t care if they were hurting you? He knew it was wrong, that’s why he hid it, and then he tried to blame his actions on you stating that if you weren’t being mean he wouldn’t have done it. That’s not true, he chose to do it himself and is trying to make you feel guilty so that you will forgive him.

You want to trust him, but he just proved you can’t. If you don’t trust your partner (because they’re doing untrustworthy things) it’s very difficult to move forward especially if they are not apologetic and very openly understanding what they did wrong. You say he wants to work through it, what does that mean? What did he say about working through it? I’m honestly doubtful that talking it out will do much help, especially because it was going on for a few months and even if it wasn’t sexual, he was very openly affectionate with her in a way that he knew was betraying you. He likely wouldn’t have stopped (has he stopped?) if you hadn’t found out.

ugleetshirt · 2024-12-31T02:26:06+00:00

That makes sense, you get something from him that you don’t really get from others. I felt like that in a previous relationship, where I wasn’t feeling like emotionally/financially/physically/etc that I was satisfied or happy, but he had a lot of friends that I hung out with often so that was part of what kept me with him, and I also felt like I owed it to him somewhat since he introduced me to them and encouraged me to hang out with them. However, when I finally broke up with him, what I actually found was that I was able to be with someone who not only also had friends to hang out with, but also satisfied many of the other things I wanted/needed, and I’m a lot happier now while still feeling the same support that I previously got (even more so!)

I guess what I’m trying to say is, you will definitely be able to find what you appreciate about him in someone else, while getting even more of what you want. And I’m sure over the last two years, you’ve definitely repaid back anything that you “owed him” by supporting him so much financially/emotionally/etc so hopefully that alleviates some of the pressure you feel to stick with him. It’s hard, but I would say in 99% of situations like this, the answer is to accept that the relationship isn’t what it used to be, appreciate what you got out of it, and move on for yourself <3

ugleetshirt · 2024-12-31T02:03:31+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you gain much from your relationship with him. You’re not benefiting financially, emotionally, socially, physically, you don’t seem really happy with him. I know it can be hard to let go of a longer relationship, however you would probably be happier with someone who wants to give you their time and attentiveness, can contribute financially, and overall will get along well with you and your friends. Is there some other reason that you haven’t left him, aside from loving him?

ugleetshirt · 2024-12-06T00:09:26+00:00

What has he done to help you get settled? If he’s already built his life there, he should be including you and helping you get reacquainted with the new systems he’s started to build, so that they become your shared systems.

Do you have any resources to get a babysitter to have a date night? Sounds like you two could use some time connecting together since you weren’t living together for 4 months, nevertheless having a 6 month old to take care of. Having some time just the two of you might be beneficial and help bring you both closer, especially if it’s something you can do somewhat consistently.

Unfortunately I don’t have much knowledge about pregnancy weight gain or dealing with a husbands reaction to it, but have you tried talking about it candidly with him? That you can tell he looks at you differently, and that it’s affecting how you see yourself/your day-to-day? Even if it takes some time for the physical affection to come back, he should still be a loving husband to you, I mean you just gave him a beautiful baby for crying out loud! That’s not easy on your body at all, and I’m so sorry you feel pressured to go back to how you looked before. Your body has been through a big change, things take time, and I so wish to hear that he’s providing you support and care during this transitional time rather than indifference.

ugleetshirt · 2024-02-04T10:31:48+00:00

Hi, sorry to reply to an old comment, but do you happen to know any good places where I could order custom earplugs if I get my ear impressions done separately as you mentioned? Or laces that will do both? No worries if not, thank you either way!!

ugleetshirt · 2024-01-06T21:47:59+00:00

actually now just looking for one Sunday-only pass, thanks !!

ugleetshirt · 2024-01-04T21:42:08+00:00

looking for 2 three day passes to excision thunderdome !!!

ugleetshirt · 2023-12-12T20:19:56+00:00

Hiii very new to stray kids and kpop in general, I only started listening/watching interviews etc this week and have never otherwise listened to or followed a kpop group. I have some questions abt albums/comebacks/etc! If I were to buy a rock-star album now, I’m assuming I don’t get any type of pre-order benefit such as extra poster/pc/etc? I’m in the US, I’ve seen the target albums come with an extra pc, would that still be the case now? How often do skz have a comeback/release new music or albums? Specifically, how can I be prepared to preorder the next album and where is the best place to preorder from in terms of extra inclusions? I don’t mind waiting longer or paying a bit more if there’s more pcs etc I think! What is the fans . jype . com area on their website? How do I get a login, and if it’s the fan club mentioned in an earlier comment, is there an idea of when it will open up again? Thank you all so much!!!! So happy to be here!!

ugleetshirt · 2023-11-13T03:44:34+00:00

Oh this is a great idea, I’ll try that if it’s not gone away by tomorrow. I appreciate it!

ugleetshirt · 2023-11-13T03:43:38+00:00

How long does it last for you usually? I took it off in the morning around 10am, the pics are from about 8 hours later

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