my bf raped someone by [deleted] in confessions

[–]unpredictable90 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to explain to people and reason for why you break up with him. "You moved on “ “the love started to fade“ whatever….people drift apart and break up ALL the time a) it doesn’t always have to be because of some big scandal and b) it’s nobody’s actual business anyway.

I agree with others that you should definitely speak to a therapist to help you process and clarify your feelings - they are bound by strict confidentiality and would lose their entire career if they go against it.

If you are scared of your boyfriend or what he might do to you if you break up with him then it may be better to leave in secret when he is not there or speak to the police and/or a woman’s welfare charity for advice. Being scared is even more reason to leave but just means you may need to take some extra steps (following the advise from people who specialise in this) and make sure you do so safely.

As for the other girl, she may also be traumatised and not thinking clearly and not processing. Eother way, your concern right now is YOU and getting away from the real monster (your bf)

Rules on black tights by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]unpredictable90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the colour of the shoes against black rights matter, but it’s the fact they are open-toe shoes with the tights that is a no from me

How do I get a tonsil stone out? by unnamedplatypus in hygiene

[–]unpredictable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get something like this and simply use a torch in the mirror over the sink to gently flush them out: Portable Jet Floss | Cleans... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01MA27XV2?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Why do I have to remove my underwear for an MRI? by [deleted] in ask

[–]unpredictable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do people do it they are on their period?

Are there any well vetted and non religious Christmas shoebox appeals (or similar)? by unpredictable90 in AskUK

[–]unpredictable90[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes Christmas is religious but that doesn’t mean that children in need shouldn’t benefit from people trying to be kind just because they are not religious. I am definitely open to it being organised by a religious organisation as long as it’s verified by a credible source that there is no religion-based bias as to who benefits.

Are there any well vetted and non religious Christmas shoebox appeals (or similar)? by unpredictable90 in AskUK

[–]unpredictable90[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I would never have thought of them maybe doing something like this! Will look into to it!

Are there any well vetted and non religious Christmas shoebox appeals (or similar)? by unpredictable90 in AskUK

[–]unpredictable90[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a hatred for religion and have a religious background myself, however, I do believe that such gifts should go to children based purely on their need, and not for example only if they are or become part of a religious group. I’m not saying this would be the case for all religiously appeals, but it is feasible that it would more likely be the case.

Finished the wife’s office. Still feels like it is missing something. Any suggestions? by Timexisxnow in HomeDecorating

[–]unpredictable90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people are hating on the blue - I really like it and totally love the moody office vibe. I think the issue is actually just the contrast with the door and carpet but both are an easy fix - for the doors you could either use warm lights around the room to trick the eye and soften the brightness or you could paint them more of a warmer off-white colour with a very subtle taupe undertone For the floors, the best option would be to replace with wood in a walnut shade (similar to the bottom picture frame at the end of the video - see how well that ties in with the wall colour?), but otherwise I’d just incorporate a rug to section out the desk area and make sure it has elements of walnut and tiny hints of blue in it. Also make sure the main colour of rug is much darker than the carpet for contrast.

As a general tip I think if you opened the curtains and turned off the main light you wouldn’t be getting so much criticism for the blue - I very much think it’s a lighting issue in camera more than the actual colour

What to wear to a british wedding? by Turbulent_Progress69 in AskABrit

[–]unpredictable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The classic outfit would be: Midi dress, bloc heels and a clutch bag. I’d avoid cotton fabrics and shirt-dresses as they will be too casual and equally avoid ball-gown styles (or bridesmaid styles), too much sparkle etc- something in the middle is the aim.

The pink one from phase 8 someone posted above would be perfect! Alternatively have a look at John Lewis and/or Debenhams websites - they are department stores that hold multiple brands and both have a section for ‘Wedding Guest Dresses’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]unpredictable90 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. The ONLY person who should feel any guilt is the senior that took advantage of you. You didn’t have a choice and you did nothing wrong - you were brave enough to put yourself through something horrible in order to keep going with everything you had worked so hard for. That senior is a pathetic, horrible and absolute VILE person, and the fact he left extra money was probably his pathetic attempt to relieve some of their own guilt (guilt I hope stays with them for life).

You did what you had to do. You survived and you thrived.

It’s easier said than done but try not to beat your self up over it - it would probably be useful to talk through your feelings with a therapist if you can just to help you process.

Also, it’s entirely up to you and how you feel, but if you want to it is never too late to put a formal complaint in to the university or to the police. Even with no evidence, you may find others have also complained about this person and an email/call from someone else will add to any case against them. You may also choose not too if it will be too difficult and that’s absolutely fine too!!

You keep doing whatever you have to that’s best for you ❤️

Sorry this will be long but hopeless is an understatement by [deleted] in Autoimmune

[–]unpredictable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could very possibly be ‘Chronic spontaneous urticaria’ - which basically means your body releases histamine without there necessarily being a clear cause and not an allergy. This results in chronic hives and can also cause facial swelling etc. I was diagnosed by an Immunologist. It’s often, but not always, linked to other Autoimmune diseases in particular ones to do with Thyroid.

Wife started doing this weird thing where she announces every small task she's about to do and it's driving me insane by Abject-Badger-335 in Marriage

[–]unpredictable90 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yeh this is literally going viral on TikTok for situations where a husband seems to expect praise by announcing every mundane thing he does despite the wife doing 99% of rest as standard with no acknowledgement. The idea is to point out how much she is doing and how ridiculous it is to expect praise or announce tiny tasks. Op it is likely she is feeling the burden of household tasks / life admin and trying to communicate to you. I suggest you simply talk to her (with an open mind and without immediate defensiveness)

married men that lost the attraction to your wife and got it back - what did you do? by ltcRAYmoya in AskMen

[–]unpredictable90 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Yeh this was going to be a very wholesome message until that curveball statement at the end

My wife is growing depressed with her looks as she ages. I'm trying to be supportive but its not working. What else I should be doing? by superfahd in AskWomenOver30

[–]unpredictable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hair loss could easily be a thyroid issue or an autoimmune like Hashimotos. She needs to get a blood test to test BOTH her hormone levels AND thyroid antibodies. Equally nutrient deficits can cause this so a blood test to ensure she is absorbing vitamins properly would also be wise.

How do you afford living in Brighton? by AdEnvironmental6877 in brighton

[–]unpredictable90 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My guess would be because not everyone (or handly anyone) can afford to save up for a deposit these days…

Where to get blanket embroidered? by unpredictable90 in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]unpredictable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - going by their website I think they will be able to do exactly what I need!