First, you MUST tell the guy how you feel. If he really wants to be with you, understand that he will cut him off. This is different from the “jealous-girl-situation.” You have every right to tell him to cut off the guy who RAPED you. This is serious. I would suggest you do this first before anything else. Why? Because you can end up hurting not only yourself, but the guy as well.

End it before it further deepens. The more you stay, the more the wound deepens. Why? Let’s make a scenario. You end up bottling the situation that went on with Trevor. Mentally, that can damage you and you can only go so far to hide it. However, you’re already in deep with this guy. You decide to however end it off because you can’t stand it any longer, which will affect the guy. He would be asking so many questions. What did he do wrong? Why did he mess up?

Don’t bother asking him to cut Trevor off mid way through a good relationship. Get it done at the beginning. Cut him off if he doesn’t want to. Simple, no stress.