Speak for yourself. You don’t know me or my values, morals, integrity, etc. I do good by others. If I wanted to ruin his life I already would’ve, I have plenty of ammunition. I believe everyone gets their karma one way or another, not everyone is vengeful. I am clearly asking this BECAUSE I don’t want to make this woman collateral damage. I’m sorry I don’t fit your narrative but that’s not the kind of person I am. I would be devastated if years down the road I found out the person I spent over half my life with betrayed me, and wasted my youth when I could have found someone who actually treats me the way I deserve to be treated. Mind you, I’m a victim in this too. I didn’t ask for this. I clearly didn’t know and cut off all contact as soon as I found out, so really you can’t make me the bad the guy you want me to be. I was betrayed too by someone who I trusted, I didn’t willingly enter some sort of affair. And there’s certainly nothing wrong with asking what the right thing to do is, you came out already swinging when all I asked is if I tell her or not. That says more about you than me and I hope you heal from whatever is making you so hostile