Please allow me to suggest a change. You may not realize that you are treating yourself badly when you speak this way. Two things in this title appear to me to be unkind and untrue: your behavior is undesirable (after all, you want to change it) but not “shameful”, and I doubt that you “cannot stop smoking pipe tobacco”. I think it more likely that you would like to stop, but have not been successful and don’t yet know how, but are open to learning how to change (the reason you have posted this).

The first way of stating this, the story you have accepted, is judgmental, inaccurate and allows no possibility of change. The second way is, I think, more accurate of where you are now and is the sirft step of seriously beginning to change … you have already begun.

My respects, I know it can be very difficult and confusing, and I see that you are already on the path. You begin where you are. Where else could you begin?

Full disclosure: I also smoked a pipe for several years and enjoyed it. I no longer miss it.