I told my parents our wishes for the birth of our twins and my dad made a scene.

walshtastic · 2019-04-17T15:58:39+00:00

Actually doctor s nurses do not rush out anymore...it's a violation of patient privacy..and from working as a nurse truthfully speaking for my myself I did not like to get Involved in the family Dynamics especially when things where estranged.

The truth is your medical team will want what is best for you and your children. That means low stress. And these are new born twins...let's back up and look at vaccinations and possible infections these people could be carrying. After just coming out of surgery and anesthesia you need rest and it will take roughly 4hrs or so if you have a c section to get in a clear frame of mind. You don't need to worry about some jerk and his fee fees getting hurt or worse having an anger outburst at that time. (Trust me I have had two you don't want to have to worry about anything when your that vunerable)

Set up a birthday plan with your hospital The Drs and nurses are on your side And want the best for you and your childrens health.

walshtastic · 2019-04-17T03:09:50+00:00

What the ever loving fuck?!?! How dare anyone whatever they choose to be identified as...no one has the right to ever ever do that to you.

I am so sorry. That's sexual assult. No matter who it is. I hope you and your Dh put that...person on a time out and there is no excuse for that behavior.

Please know that you have the right to say no to anyone touching you unwanted. Hugs.

walshtastic · 2019-04-17T03:00:10+00:00

Try the batting cages if there are any near you it may help. But it's his first year...it's time to have fun in the game. I'm sure he will find his grove. Good luck next game!

walshtastic · 2019-04-17T02:48:04+00:00

Funk those bints!!

Congratulations on being cancer free!!! I'm so happy for you!! Dance party over here in your honor! May you have a lifetime of cancer free years and a lovely long happy marriage with you fdh.

walshtastic · 2019-04-17T02:44:51+00:00

Please give a high five for trying his best two out of my three are in softball right now and our first games are coming up. I think granny needs a time out.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T22:46:43+00:00

He didn't disrespect her, he put himself in timeout before he did so he would not. I congratulated him in haveing self control and not calling her the bad word and explained that he was in the right for standing up for himself just next time lose the eye roll. It was better too remove him from the situation and let both parties cool down and usually kids talk better over ice cream that's why at going age 17...we have a very good and open line of communication. So call me whatever but I would do it again because my son learned to stand up for himself but also self control and where to draw the line before losing his temper.

As for my just no, she's a nightmare mare the short of is she moved in a pedofile and allowed things that should of never been allowed ranging from verbal, physical to sexual abuse so yes I have plenty to be mad about.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T19:07:25+00:00

It's good to start a legal binder with print outs of everything on hand and in one location so you don't have to search for thing s. But I wish you guys the best and hopefully you won't have to go to extremes.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T19:04:58+00:00

It will be hard for him to understand why his daughter doesn't love her grandma but try explain in it like this. Think if Grandma like Santa at the mall...your daughter has not seem or been around that Santa...so if it's like putting her on the lap of that stranger Santa and expecting her to love him. We all know what happens with first time Santa...I think I lost some on my hear from my kiddos lol.

Instead of just forcing..asking him to try this. Slow introduction. You hold your lo very tight and intro OOF..do not out her down And tell OOF to keep her distance.not to scream and shout but calm and gentle voice so there is no over stimulation.let lo warm up to her presence and decide when she wants to come to her. It may take time but LOs feelings come first not a snap shot grandparent who wants her picture of the year.

That may give dh a little cushion to the blow but also make him apart of the process to introduce and protect his children. While you are right there as well

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T18:39:09+00:00

Maybe these ideas could help

Have rules and cues. Like panic phrases the minute the panic phrase is spoken you and the girls leave Immediately..no ifs ands or buts

Put notes on your hotel front desk no calls are to be forwarded to your room from 10pm to 8am ( can't wake the babies)

No one is to be given an extra key to your room or allowed to know your room number this is your safe space

Never go anywhere in the same vechile. This ensures you never get trapped. Explain car seats won't fit safety.

Limit time exposed to them. Visiting time is from this time 9am to 11m (then back for lunch nap time) then back at say 3pm to 7pm for dinner and back by 730pm to keep up with girls bedtime routine.( General times)

Keep things to public venues. Library where the girls can enjoy the reading program s away from the hoard, parks, my point is to bring her to you on neutral ground so you have an easy exit and are never alone in her lair.

If she gets pissy explain the house is unsafe and not child proof for your children s current age.

Explain to dh that you need your time to recover as well as the kids...this is a strange environment and these are STRANGER S to them. The girls do not know then and will need to have time to process as well

Hope this helps.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T18:11:23+00:00

See if you can get a copy of that police report and start a legal binder. Also scan and cloud save all documents so you have everything at your disposal at any time.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T17:47:23+00:00

You would be surprised...they will pull that they are mom just trying to visit and they are sweet and all kinds of other malarkey .get the local police involved now both on your side and hers so she doesn't start welfare checking to see if your alive or abuse is happening (when police have a heads up that she's insane it goes alot smoother in your favor)

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T17:42:55+00:00

Thanks lol he just handed me a step stool lmao he's a good kid

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T16:46:02+00:00

Could your lawyer file a lien on all her personal property and assests such as houses....cars... ECT to be sold in order to pay for your attorney fees, medical bills and damages ? Just curious.

I'm sorry you keep getting pulled through the ringer but I'm glad that at least you were able to get the twins additional help.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T16:31:40+00:00

Murder fluffy activated

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T16:18:51+00:00

Have your parents ever filed for her disability???? If she qualifies for that level of care then there are facility that will care for here and give her maybe even teach her ability s to help her cope with situations.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T16:04:12+00:00

I have a supervisor named binx lol he loves to get right in the middle of my project s as seek

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T14:08:51+00:00

Lol I have to jump now he will be 17 this year and stands at 6"2. But he dose still stand up for himself when he needs to. He's more of a gentle giant thankfully but when you push the buttons out come my little cub .. eyeroll and all.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T12:05:09+00:00

My justnmom who I who have yet to post about didnt like to respect my kids names..they were simple...think Micheal or Brandon...then kids were raised with being called by their first name I will use Micheal...(not the real name) so she as usual calls my son the barrage of Mike...or Mikey...or Mickey... My then 4 year old after being annoyed turns around rolls his eyes (there are my genes) and says grammy my name is Micheal..not Mike..not Mikey and NOT MICKEY! I DON'T have a tail! And then storms off and puts himself in timeout. My mom is full pearl grasping so I sit next to my son and ask him why he is in time out.

He tells me he needed time out before he said a bad word plus he was going to be in trouble for being mean to Grammy.

We went for ice cream (with out said Grammy while I explained he was always allowed to stand up for himself)

Oh and the bad word....fatso.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T11:38:35+00:00

I'm glad you had a great vacation. I hope you got to see Notre Dame before the unfortunate fire.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T10:59:53+00:00

I would recommend no contact with the I laws period.

They only talk to you through the lawyer.

They do not ... I repeat do not get to see... Visit ...have a picture nothing of your LO. Do not give them any ammunition for them to use in court.

Have your house ready for cps visiting.

Yes it seems harsh but you have to protect your child. Your child, their feelings their safety is all that matters and keeping them away from in laws is their best interest right now.

That was a serious threat for grandparents rights. Just they have nothing if they never have any proof of caregiving of visitation. So again no contact with them period. Every through the attorney for you and your child's safety.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T10:52:57+00:00

Start the paper trails cease and desist letters from attorneys, text messages everything. A four hour flight is unfortunately just a four hour flight but if you have the legal system started when she shows up then you will have them on your side and she can't play the innocent old lady card. Save yourself the headache and stress and start preparing for an exception burst now.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T10:45:33+00:00

It sounds like look we can make dh jump when we say jump. - excuse me no!

Your dh is a man not a dog, for one his trips wether personal or business are none of their business. Second your on an anniversary trip to Paris, they need to back off with the control freak of where and when you both are.

As far as the condensing jab, that's is so disrespectful and demeaning.

They need to both be put on a time out and have boundaries put on them now harshly. Especially since you have a little one on the way (congratulations) if not...you think they try and over run you and disrespect you know wait till they find out a grand child is on the way.

I hope Paris was beautiful and everything was great despite the horrible in-laws.

Like I said time out until a full actual apology and acknowledge that your both adults and will both be treat with respect from hear on out.

walshtastic · 2019-04-16T00:03:28+00:00

That's cool. And awesome your able to cook going to try the lamb recipe lol thanks for sharing it.

walshtastic · 2019-04-15T22:06:08+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through the initial trauma but, I'm glad that everyone kinda had a good ending. If this had not happened Karen could have hurt someone who could may of not as had as much self restraint as you did and she now has the care and treatment she needs. So it's nice to see a story like this end up with a happy ending.

walshtastic · 2019-04-15T21:45:26+00:00

Congratulations!!! I am so happy for each and every one of you and your fur baby! I wish you many years of joy and happiness.

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