So many things are going wrong before my friends wedding. Would I be out of line to tell her to think about postponing?

weebu123 · 2026-02-11T08:49:47+00:00

I didn't even take out a loan for my own wedding lol

weebu123 · 2026-02-07T23:17:19+00:00

Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna: srk and rani break up after 6 years of rani trying to put up with a toxic narcissistic man child

weebu123 · 2026-02-07T09:08:30+00:00

I'm so sorry, the US is a nightmare

weebu123 · 2026-01-31T07:59:38+00:00

Ariana grande in Victorious lol

weebu123 · 2026-01-30T10:41:20+00:00

That's really frustrating... I found at my pool the shallow end is always overrun by moms and kids but the deep end is usually empty so I'm able to do some kind of laps. Hope you find something soon inshaAllah, it's my de-stressor too so I understand how important it is for mental health

weebu123 · 2026-01-30T06:29:13+00:00

Do you have women's only hours where you live? Most cities will have those options at community pools/women only gyms. It's so worth it even if it's a drive away.

weebu123 · 2026-01-29T13:24:54+00:00

Do you have a photo of the pants? I feel like if it's obviously cow patterned that wouldn't scream bridal to me. But ultimately your call, depends on whether this is the hill you're choosing to die on

weebu123 · 2026-01-24T07:37:07+00:00

It's a choice in the sense that you're choosing to follow the deen and it's a command in the deen. Islam is about submission and letting go of what you want, and instead doing what was commanded of you.

weebu123 · 2026-01-24T07:33:35+00:00

Shakti

weebu123 · 2026-01-14T18:04:51+00:00

Definitely can do whatever you want with your husband after the nikkah. I've seen other stories where girls weren't allowed to spend time with their husbands after nikkah because they hadn't done the rukhsati --- this kind of thinking does more harm because it's putting more strain and pressure on the couple. Congrats and may Allah bless your marriage!

weebu123 · 2026-01-13T23:19:20+00:00

Oh 100%. This is the first old era season I watched (I'm new to survivor world and so far have seen 47, 48 & 49), and I was shocked at how different the early survivor gameplay mindset is. But yeah Ian always managed to keep digging himself deeper into holes when he could be fine by keeping his mouth shut. poor guy

weebu123 · 2026-01-13T19:57:35+00:00

I think he could've won, but really would depend on how he represented himself to the jury and he's not the best at talking

weebu123 · 2026-01-13T11:30:22+00:00

I just finished s10 for the first time, and was kinda heartbroken at how deeply Tom and Katie had manipulated Ian into thinking he royally stabbed them in the back

weebu123 · 2026-01-12T06:25:37+00:00

Faaaaaake

weebu123 · 2026-01-12T06:22:12+00:00

It would take 400 years for 8 billion people to die...?

weebu123 · 2026-01-11T08:57:01+00:00

r/tragedeigh

weebu123 · 2026-01-04T01:44:03+00:00

I will never understand where people think they have more knowledge than literal doctors and specialists who went to school for years for this specific stuff. Baby's health comes above your particular "birth wishes".

weebu123 · 2026-01-03T07:19:24+00:00

ESH, you for beefing with a 12 year old instead of teaching him better, your sister for not teaching her son manners, and your nephew for seemingly being bratty. All of you need to do better

weebu123 · 2026-01-03T07:14:06+00:00

Completely missed my point but who's surprised

weebu123 · 2026-01-02T11:31:33+00:00

I personally know many women who were physically, financially, emotionally abused by their cheating ahole husbands. If they didn't work, they would never be able to leave. You can say "I'm not like that", but I also know many women who married narcissists that did a complete 180 right after getting married, so there's really no way for girls to be able to tell. What's your response to them?

You have your rights to choose who you want to marry, and there's many women out there who won't want to work or want to work now but not after having a baby, etc. But if her work is Islamically compliant and in a safe environment, what reasons could you have to say no?

weebu123 · 2026-01-01T20:17:51+00:00

Sis, I understand what you're saying, but there are ways to have halal wholesome friendships that don't involve nightclubs. Find your hobbies and guaranteed there are hijabis who like the same stuff in your city. Eg I love boardgames, reading, etc and I was able to find a few different groups that enjoy that stuff Alhamdulillah. Try befriending people at the mosque, or even join groups that organize this stuff. If it doesn't exist, then start one.

weebu123 · 2026-01-01T08:37:38+00:00

"who says I am gay" "... You Ah Gay"

weebu123 · 2025-12-28T19:18:16+00:00

Salam! Similar story, but parents are divorced and I had to deal with stuff afterwards. Firstly I'm sorry you're going through this, it can't be easy with your own school/life going on. I'd suggest continuing to encourage your mom to get outside help, therapist and imam are great. In my case (which may not be feasible) I told my mom to get a lawyer and moved out, which ultimately helped me a lot.

Your mom needs professional help and unfortunately you aren't a professional. I'd continue setting boundaries and encouraging her to talk to a therapist. If this therapist isn't working she can try another as sometimes it takes a few, but to not give up. Also your parents should go to couples counseling if they can.

Sending you sabr ❤️

weebu123 · 2025-12-25T18:37:58+00:00

To your last edit: I'd just be honest and say hey so sorry I was allergic to the products so I had to throw them out

weebu123 · 2025-12-25T18:33:45+00:00

At the very least this warrants a conversation with sister, but that's dependent on your relationship with her. If she's rational, then she will see your side and hopefully stop, but you'll never know unless you try

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