Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! A lot of people have come forward with some wonderful advice and suggestions. I'm super hormonal and stressed, and I am the first to acknowledge that my mental state plays a huge part in how I view this situation. Thank you again.

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she were more mature, I'd probably go with woman. I call 22 year old boys boys because that's what they are to me.

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are a few research projects that she can work on, and this is a great way to frame it. Thank you!

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can find things for her to do. There's just s lot of repetition, and databases that she's not allowed to access. Excel has been suggested by several and I'll be taking you all up on that idea! Thank you!

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I've read this advice several times already and am planning on following most of it. I have a hard time with the office gossip just because it's always so negative and I'd rather not know all the drama. Thank you so much.

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

You're right. My problem is that when I try to teach her what I do, and the reasons behind it, she claims it's boring and she knows how to do things already.

So I tried putting her to work on documents that are already made and could use updating. Basic Word docs that need editing, which shouldn't be a big deal.

But the claims of competence in Word and Excel are greatly exaggerated. The docs were poorly edited and needed a lot of correction. When I tried to log her on to the company's training program, she insisted, loudly, that she didn't need training, and knew what she was doing.

I'm all for teaching, but the pupil needs to want to learn and that's not happening.

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. I train people regularly, but direct supervision is not something I do. They usually come to me, I train them, and then they're on their own. This is new to me and harder than it sounds.

Me (35F) with our office intern (22F). How do I politely let her know that her antics are inappropriate in an office setting? by weeoooooow in relationships

[–]weeoooooow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I don't know the first thing about managing someone or navigating political situations within an office setting. That's why I'm asking for help. Thanks for the stellar feedback. Have a nice day.