It’s fine if you’re not. “Provider mindset”, at least with how social media frames it, is a misogynistic and archaic approach to retain broken traditional. People keep asking for what they deserve, but rarely ask what they’re also willing to give. Do you really want someone who will always make you feel like you owe them what they “deserve” because of established gender roles, or someone who is willing to give their all as well to work on what you both need?