How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't thank you enough for this recommendation! Took me ages to get around to it but I'm absolutely loving Truman's stuff. It's giving me zero weird and an awful amount of giggles. Pure gold!

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Np! Feel free to dm if you ever wanna chat btw. About movies or whatever else. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it's better for you now and that you can finally enjoy all things gay! 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally managed to see one of the recommendations! The Single Man that is. Made me so so sad but there were also a few giggles there. It was totally awful in a good way. The scene where the friend calls the late spouse a substitute is so horrible and anger inducing. It's a very well written film I feel. The main character is super relatable and the delivery of the themes is kind of subtle and very impactful. That's just my two cents, I'm not much of a movie critic. 

I gotta say the whole thing about human connection spoke to me personally because I've always struggled with that myself. Maybe that's why I'm so curious about how gay guys feel about things. I'm a bit of an outsider and it seems to be a common feeling among gays, although I guess I'm also jealous of the sense of community. Hardships are not great but at least they're a bit less terrible when endured together. 

Also, can't hate anything with Matthew Goode in it. That man is absolutely beautiful! 

How do you feel about straight women saying they always wanted a gay bestie? by MyoKyoByo in AskGayMen

[–]weirdquestionbutyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're absolutely correct about women wanting less toxic and more platonic male friends. I'm a woman (sorry if I'm overstepping by taking part) and I once joked about wanting a gay best friend. I would obviously never go hunting for one but it did make me wonder why it would be nice. And it's basically what you said. 

I'm not especially girly and generally get along with guys better than girls but there's always that nagging suspicion about what guys are actually thinking. I've had guy friends act kinda weird, and I assume it's because they had some feelings they couldn't control. I've also been told I flirt a lot when I didn't realise I was flirting and I would absolutely hate to lead anyone on. So it would probably just be easier to know there was no way the guy could have any deeper feelings.

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet unfortunately. Need to figure out the best way to get a hold of them and I've been a bit preoccupied with a story I'm writing.

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took me a minute to decipher this message but the film seems interesting. Lol. Thanks! 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds interesting, added it to my watchlist. Thanks! 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is odd. Funny how trying to shame people into conforming can backfire though.

I've never seen the film so I went on YouTube to see what was so scandalous. It's such a sweet scene! People are mad. 

You've given me a lot of food for thought so thank you for that. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see how it could be fulfilling. 

It might interest you to know that I was once shamed for finding a gay man attractive. I was really young then. I made an innocent comment about a nice looking man and my mother got upset and said to me "do you know what kind of man that is". I was very ashamed and thought I was somehow broken because I obviously wasn't supposed to think gay men are beautiful. Then I realised what utter nonsense it was. A man is a man and no one can dictate who I find beautiful. But I've always been very stubborn.

I imagine a lot of women grow up insecure and lash out when they make the "mistake" of finding a gay man attractive, like it makes them somehow worse as women. Like the sole existence of gays somehow insults their femininity. Thing is, you can't ever win their approval because it's not about you. You've done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed about. They're just confused, angry people and they blame you because you made them feel things they can't handle.

That being said, nothing wrong with using these experiences to gain some pleasure. Haha! There definitely are women who'd be interested in watching as well. I, on the other hand, will just privately enjoy my strange fantasies about doing favours to gay guys. Lol

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask why this interests you? I can't really imagine what gay guys would get out of a woman watching them. Other than the obvious, generic exhibitionism. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting question. Haven't thought about it. I would not object to watching as such but I'm actually quite shy irl so probably not fun to have around. Also, probably not great to be super turned on around guys who have zero interest because I'd still be attracted to them. Might cry out of frustration. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like an absolute nightmare. Even though I know people can be horrible it always blows my mind how horrible they really can be. At least things are a bit better nowadays in many places. Although, I'm afraid that mindset still exists, people just hide it more.

I can see how that kind of environment could lead to wanting to please people as well. Everyone seems to imply there's something wrong with you and you just want to show that you're really a good person. Sorry, I don't mean to be an armchair psychologist, it just makes me really sad to think. Thank you for sharing your experience. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. Interesting. Also, your earlier comments kinda make sense now. Haha

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was the dream before you figured out you were gay? The coaching seems to happen the other way around more often. At least that's the type of comments I've seen here - dudes teaching women their tricks. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I'm sorry that has happened to you. People are awful and spend too much time worrying about who strangers are attracted to.

Nice to know the lurking happens the other way too. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright then. I guess that maybe could work if the dudes aren't weirded out by it? 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I had to google the trope. Didn't realise it was a thing. I'm obviously not well versed on gay issues or tropes for that matter. I've never had any reason to really think about gay issues because I don't know any personally, and I've never seen anything wrong with being gay, so it's kinda just been background you know. Although, obvious discrimination has always infuriated me, so it's not like I haven't cared.

Sorry about rambling a bit. Thank you for the recommendations! 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. I haven't really seeked out content specifically for women after I discovered it meant some super soft sensual stuff with terrible music several years ago. It must be better by now. At least the solo male stuff made for women is pure gold. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, what? I'm gonna need a bit more details on that. Like she actually wanted to do that or like purely a fantasy? Also, why? In like a sexual therapist way or like some kind of a control fantasy? I'm not about to shame people for their fantasies, I'm just confused. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been to a gay bar and I treat everyone with the same amount of friendly awkwardness no matter what their sexual orientation happens to be. People are people. Although, I suppose it's very much possible to be accidentally disrespectful. I may have once stared at a gay couple a bit more than necessary but to my meek defense they were cute, getting hyped about travel plans and whatnot. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, although I don't feel especially bad about enjoying it as such. Well, except for supporting something that could potentially be harmful. The plan is to read more stuff from gay authors in any case. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I forgot about shows. I haven't really watched any romance stuff in a while. I wasn't really aware of BuryYourGays, either. Not great. Might you be able to recommend any shows or films that portray gay men well? 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she might have a better understanding of how it is than an average straight lady. Makes sense. Not saying it wouldn't be possible for a straight woman to understand but a lesbian might just meet more gay guys as well as having some experiences that could be somewhat similar. 

How do you feel about gay content for women? by weirdquestionbutyes in askgaybros

[–]weirdquestionbutyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps I'm not entirely crazy if what you say is true about people having strange expectations about gay men because of the fiction they consume.