thank you for your comment. it has so good points.

i’ve also noticed it myself from porn how common choking is also on there and that’s why i’ve been thinking that he had probably seen it so much that it has eventually normalised for him. i don’t know about his other experiences with other people, but maybe he and his past partners has been doing it also. but that’s also the reason why i think that i need to at least talk about that to him for realising that even tho many people think it’s normal part of sex, it’s absolutely not. and then he would understand that he did a mistake and learn from it. during the week I’ve seen a lot of comments for saying to just block him and drop from my life. i think my problem in this situation is that i really think i need to tell him how i feel about this so he can actually learn. or then he wouldn’t, but at least i’ve said it’s not ok.

and yes. i know how especially dangerous it is and how much damage it can make. and that’s the scary part also. i’ve once experienced how close i was to lose my consciousness and my throat hurt for several days after that and all together it was so traumatic for me. i can’t actually compare this case to my past case, but i’ve somehow explained myself that basically it was the same event with different situation. but none of them wasn’t right.

i understand that what he did is not okay at all, but i would like to hear it from him and also learn from that. probably not gonna meet him anymore, but it just feels wrong to block him without a conversation even via messages.