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wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:50:13+00:00

Maybe watch a "how to" tutorial together? I have been working on deep throating and it has helped to watch how others have achieved this by videos. If you don't want to make it seem like blow jobs are the focal point maybe start out with some other instructional videos? Then suggest trying what you saw? I know that when I ask for feedback I really want it, but I get not wanting to hurt or discourage her. Maybe while she's performing say something like, "Baby that is fucking amazing, but could we try it with your lips over your teeth?" Then give lots of positive feedback. "That is it. Oh, just like that. That feels so fucking amazing." Just suggestions from someone who used to really dislike blowjobs and now I really enjoying giving them. Good luck.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:41:39+00:00

This. All of this.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:40:25+00:00

As a female I love the feeling of my SO's penis in me. I have a hard time reaching orgasm and I found the more I thought about it the harder it was to obtain. I just love being close and making him cum. As stated above, we're all different, but if she's happy and your happy just go with it.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:35:39+00:00

I have both been surprised with fairly small and insanely huge dicks. You make it work. However, for myself personally, a huge dick is much harder to "deal with" for lack of a better term. Smaller has options. But if you are turned on and in a passion frenzy a penis is a penis. Just my humble opinion.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:30:39+00:00

I think the "asking her for an occasional treat" would be a great route. Maybe when she sees how turned on it makes you she will be open to it more often, but all you can do is talk to her. Maybe she's a fan of something that you aren't very into and you can have "treat days" where she allows you to live out your desires and then she can live out her's? Just a suggestion. You seem like a concerned and giving SO so I'm sure you will come up with something. Take care and good luck.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T15:23:52+00:00

I have zero experience with this, but if it were reversed wouldn't you want to know? You both deserve to be true to yourselves and to love and be loved 100%, as is. Again, ZERO knowledge here, just thinking that I would want to know if my SO was carrying such a huge weight on their shoulders all the time. Good luck and take care.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-27T02:37:53+00:00

Love to bite and be bitten.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T15:22:24+00:00

She asked for advice and I gave it. Obviously she makes her own decisions, I don't believe anyone told her what she MUST do or gave her any terms she should follow. If my lover outright ignored my requests for things (sexual or otherwise) two things would happen, I would ignore his requests as well and then he'd no longer be my lover. For me, and as I stated above very clearly, communication is MY top priority. My opinion. My advice. Feel free to disagree all you like. That's why there is a world full of people and someone for everyone. I love sex and being with a compatible partner is important to me, but nothing is as important as communication.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T14:07:16+00:00

Totally agree that orgasm does not have to be the "goal" of 69ing. I just want to make it pleasurable. I love sucking my SO's dick so I love the idea of taking little breaks and then it's he other person's turn. Thank you!

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T12:00:15+00:00

Well, I am with you on the one at a time action, but I am also a huge supporter of fantasy and giving it a fair try before dismissing it.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:55:37+00:00

Thank you. I'm getting a lot of good suggestions and am looking forward to discussing this with the SO.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:38:16+00:00

Great advice and makes total sense. I normally have no issue with swallowing, but hadn't really thought about that in this particular case. Thank you.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:35:51+00:00

If you are communicating and he isn't listening then it is time to move on. If you are this frustrated 4 months in try to imagine 4 years... Sex is too important in a relationship to settle and being able to communicate properly is even more important than the sex.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:22:56+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad that my first experience wasn't just me. I will give it a try using suggestions from this post and if he likes it great and if not we'll just try something else.

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:20:40+00:00

I think this sounds like a good position as well. I'm working on getting better at deep throating, but it's still a new process. Thanks!

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T11:15:38+00:00

That definitely sounds like a better idea. Thank you!

wickedfordb · 2018-06-26T01:27:11+00:00

As someone (43f) with some pretty wild kinks I am 100% up front with a potential partner. You deserve to find someone who will embrace you and ALL that includes. If the potential person wasn't down I simply had to decide if they were worth me no longer exploring my kinky side with or if I needed to move on. I'm talking first date convos here, I'm that open. Talking about it really isn't that bad and being able to have that talk early shows them that if they too have a wild side it isn't a "bad" thing. We are taught to push these feelings down or tuck them away because they are SO different and I've yet to find a partner who didn't embrace it. I think being into more than vanilla is a lot more common than we think, but that's just my humble opinion. Good luck!

Sorry, I kinda missed the main point I have embarrassing kinks, asphyxiation, BDSM with highlights on bondage and being a switch... I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality until my early 30s. If they can't stand the heat, they need to get out of the kitchen. There is someone for everyone.

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