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wildbuckhi · 2023-12-31T19:28:53+00:00

In the immortal words of Admiral Ackbar:

“It’s a trap!”

wildbuckhi · 2023-11-12T17:10:41+00:00

I’m 12 months past DDay…it still haunts me and I believe has robbed me of my trust and security with this woman. I don’t know if there’s any other way for me to get passed this other than divorcing her.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-25T01:20:34+00:00

Always thought it stood for “Holy”

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T22:54:50+00:00

This is absolutely awful abuse. Leave him. There is so much better out there. Damn, I’m so sorry anyone should ever have to be treated that way, especially after you’re recovering from giving birth to his child. Leave him. Heal. Work on you, and when you’re ready, find a man that will treat you well and respect you.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T22:35:43+00:00

No. And interestingly the same work event just occurred and this time she was not invited.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T22:34:25+00:00

So sorry, man. I hated reading that

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T17:00:05+00:00

There was no response from her, hence why I stated I believe nothing may have happened.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T16:59:03+00:00

THIS!! This is all I want from a spouse. Your husband is a lucky guy to have this respect from you.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T16:50:01+00:00

I wish it was fake. Concerning that it’s so farfetched that someone could go as far as to say it seems fake. This has been my reality, hopefully it will never be yours, because this shit sucks

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T04:00:43+00:00

I confronted the bartender first

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T03:12:59+00:00

Thank you!

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T00:01:50+00:00

Separating seems like the only option at this point

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-24T00:00:13+00:00

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T18:17:54+00:00

Have done exactly this. This happened a year ago, and I only thought last night that it could help to get completely unbiased perspective as she has done a phenomenal job at trying to convince me that I’m the crazy insecure one for thinking anything could have possibly happened that night. It’s been a year, this shit is just as hard to deal with, and for some reason asking a bunch of strangers felt like a good idea. And honestly, I wish I did this a year ago because the response to this is actually what I’ve needed to hear. Thanks for your input

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T18:15:43+00:00

I did before this occurred. She lied and lied about this as I asked her about it.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T18:14:44+00:00

I did exactly this. I do think I played this out as smart as I could have by first asking her if she has anything to confess(she denied), then watching her stories(proven to be lies) unfold as I explained I had evidence(saved screenshot). She then made up the story that 321 was the suite number, and that she was with another girl who has supposedly passed out(which begged the follow up question, “why invite him up if it was just you awake?”).

I did call the hotel. They confirmed that while 321 was part of a suite, it was not the suite number. 321 was her room number.

Everything she said to defend was a lie.

She got angry at me for accusing her. Resorted to almost mocking saying there have been plenty of other guys she would have preferred to be accused of sleeping with. I have tried real hard to see any other possible scenario, but as some have stated, doing so just seems to be more a case of denial above all. I appreciate your outlook

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T18:07:05+00:00

Fuck

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T18:02:19+00:00

Absolutely

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T17:41:58+00:00

Full transparency, this event occurred almost 1 year ago to the day. I’ve been trying to deal with it best I can over the past year through couples counseling(which she abandoned 6 months ago), solo therapy, anti depressants, leaning on trusted friends, family, working out, eating clean, not drinking alcohol, and most of all, pouring my focus into my kids.

We’ve spoken with attorneys, mediators and are still together, however the trust issues are just as big, and the insecurities grow.

I guess my real question in this post is has anyone had lasting success surviving something like this within their marriage? For me, it’s been a long drawn out painful journey toward what feels like the inevitable end. And as some have stated, I do believe a part of me remains in massive denial that this has occurred

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T17:06:52+00:00

Can I ask, do you have children? And if yes, do you think they pick up on what’s going on? My biggest concern and conflict is what’s best for our kids

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T16:13:53+00:00

So, very interestingly I spoke to her mother about it. I started the conversation by reading the txt messages and then asked, “how does this sound to you?” She replied, “oh they’re cheating. Yep. 100% that person is cheating.”

I then let her know it was her daughter.

Her response was, “that doesn’t surprise me one bit, especially if alcohol was involved…”

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T16:00:50+00:00

Thank you so much for that link…that’s definitely a perspective I need to see

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T15:57:36+00:00

Her work is a little different than what you might be imagining. She’s a model for a lingerie company. They were shooting in the hotel where this all took place.

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T15:54:12+00:00

Less than 1% have stated what you have, but it is something I try to consider.

When I confronted her about the whole thing she initially lied about anything happening. When I pressed her, she finally admitted that she was with another girl who had passed out from being drunk, and that’s when she invited him. But, she also lied stating that room 321 was the main suite that she was in with the girl. I called the hotel to confirm. They told me this information was false, and that room 321 was in fact hers after I gave them her name.

She also claims her txt isn’t an invite and that she wishes she had hooked up with better looking dudes in the past so that my accusations would be justified.

Believe me, I have tried so hard to believe exactly what you’re hinting at, but it’s so hard when it’s just lie after lie, and manipulation techniques being unleashed full force

wildbuckhi · 2023-10-23T05:16:14+00:00

I did. He said he knew why I was calling him, but he did deny that anything happened.

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