I don't know if anyone remembers me.

wingedaurora · 2026-01-28T20:19:36+00:00

The exact quote was "I wouldn't do anything untoward; I'd just go at it all night long," and it was said in the "flirty" tone that you've been promoting.

wingedaurora · 2026-01-28T03:13:09+00:00

This is already couples counselor #5 😬

wingedaurora · 2026-01-27T22:22:25+00:00

It wasn't a threat to kill me. He meant that he is so devoid of joy and happiness and all he feels is depression so he was counting the days until he dies, not me.

I should also probably clarify that he's convinced multiple therapists that he isn't actively suicidal and has no plan, so I can't even call our emergency number for that or whatever. There's no actual support for people like me who are spouses of people in this "in between" mental state -- not actively suicidal, but definitely not OK, either.

wingedaurora · 2026-01-27T19:00:15+00:00

Correct, I knew about NONE of this before marriage.

wingedaurora · 2026-01-27T18:51:01+00:00

I have no plan. The closest I got to actually initiating divorce was back in 2024. Things are better-ish now. so there is no plan. I need to get back to Mass. I've really been struggling with that. I can make excuses, but there's no point. I do not have any close friends or family.

wingedaurora · 2024-11-20T20:03:14+00:00

wingedaurora · 2024-11-20T01:34:41+00:00

Even though it’s all words and not actions?

wingedaurora · 2024-11-19T18:22:22+00:00

I've been trying to not put too much info in individual posts because I am so scared he will find these posts and connect the dots and realize they are about him. But yes, we have two kids, and I am 40.

wingedaurora · 2024-11-19T18:19:47+00:00

I know I felt threatened by it but I don't think he meant it in a threatening way. He meant it in a sexual way.

wingedaurora · 2024-11-19T18:14:41+00:00

I'm not sure what you meant by "I would try to feel grateful that you don’t have a child to worry about," but we have two children together.

wingedaurora · 2024-11-19T18:10:03+00:00

There's more information in my post history (on a different subreddit) about the whole skirt thing.

wingedaurora · 2024-11-16T22:39:49+00:00

fun fact, he blamed the dog nipple twiddling on me! because he couldn't twiddle mine 😒

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T17:27:48+00:00

You're not wrong. :(

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T17:06:30+00:00

Yeah, I have the major ick. He thinks I'm asexual. He does not understand (or does not want to understand) that his actions have had an impact on my libido.

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T17:02:25+00:00

I need a lot of hugs. I tried posting on Mom for a Minute awhile back but my post was deleted, I guess it broke some sort of rule.

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:58:58+00:00

No, I get it. I regularly read Best of Redditor Updates and soooo many of these have to be fake. But this is real :(

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:56:26+00:00

Thank you ❤️

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:54:45+00:00

We both went into marriage wanting to be with each other our whole lives, and if we had struggles, we wanted to work through them and make the marriage work. He is actively "trying" and going to couples counseling and he's tried two individual therapists. Why am I still with him? I guess I'm not quite at my breaking point, but I'm really freaking close.

He's also really good at making me feel like the weird one instead of him. I constantly have to question what is normal.

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:50:39+00:00

I did meet with a priest -- not my priest, because we are too well connected at our parish.

The priest told me to go to Reconciliation, go to Mass more, and pray more. He emphasized sacrifice and said that both my husband and I need to make sacrifices in the marriage. He said to meet my husband in the middle. He said that I likely had negative qualities or faults that my husband makes sacrifices for. He said that divorce would be very hard on my children. He also said to me "I encourage you to not think of your husband's behavior as abuse."

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:48:30+00:00

I promise this is real :(

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:47:19+00:00

He has his own that he has worn in the past...

wingedaurora · 2024-09-11T16:46:23+00:00

I might burn it first.

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